Symapthy (or lack of) from DH 2nd time round? - Page 2

redberry3 · Mar 8th, 2010, 11:12 AM

my hubby has been ok. but he still has the same expectations of me completing my tasks ..... which as it is right now is harder then ever. When I am feeling sickish he is there in a heartbeat asking what he can do to help but if it is around the time right after supper when dishes need being done...no dice....I have to help.

like the above post....I could understand if it was my 5th pregnancy .... but this is still a second go....and what I am going through now is nothing like my first.

ladies!! At least we have eachother.

SaskySprite · Mar 8th, 2010, 11:56 AM

Yes completely agreed. I think he's way too relaxed about the whole thing. He's been expecting me to lift heavy things, ignoring the fact that I am not meant to! Not sympathy for the tiredness I am just lazy! Stupid hubby.

SaskySprite · Mar 8th, 2010, 12:01 PM

Yes completely agreed. I think he's way too relaxed about the whole thing. He's been expecting me to lift heavy things, ignoring the fact that I am not meant to! Not sympathy for the tiredness I am just lazy! Stupid hubby.

Smiler13 · Mar 8th, 2010, 14:58 PM

So glad to see this thread and to know am not the only one! My DH wasn't especially sympathetic the first time round, nor during four subsequent early miscarriages, and has been the same this time.

Am nearly 13 weeks and have been struggling to look after our little girl (nearly two, still doesn't sleep through the night and a livewire, recently ill with recurring tummy bugs), work, keep on top of domestics etc. He helps out domestically, which I know is really good, but just doesn't understand the exhaustion / morning sickness or that I need some emotional support.

I am also really worried about how we are going to cope with two, much as we both desperately want him / her. There has never been a time since our daughter was born that I have felt "normal" (i.e. not completely knackered and desperate to lie down all the time)!

Really hoping this baby loves their sleep!

babythinkpink · Mar 8th, 2010, 15:11 PM

Oh so with you here!!

Mine blows hot and cold but has said the 'you wanted a baby' comment which went down like a ton of bricks!

I have found he totally ignores everything getting in a mess then has a big moan about it!
I spent Sunday clearing up and he bearly moved!
I can't remember how he was with our first, but now she is 2 I am picking her up and carrying her about, and not too happy about doing everything, with no help or gratitude!!
I had a moan in my journal this morning about this!!
I am sure i am more sensitive to it in pregnancy, i love him to bits normally but when i am pregnant i could take him or leave him!!! Owch

SilasLove · Mar 8th, 2010, 16:52 PM

We have only known for a couple of days now, but I have been feeling really exhausted the last couple of weeks. Granted, I only manage 5 to 8 hours of sleep a night - broken I might add.

I thought I would feel much differently getting pregnant a 2nd time around, as I have an idea of what to expect. But I am finding that I am more stressed because, after all, our first is only 4 months old. But, no sympathy from the OH. All I get is a sudden stopping of activities and a "Oh wow, you're pregnant!"

Mar 8th, 2010, 11:12 AM	#11
redberry3 Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 5,617	my hubby has been ok. but he still has the same expectations of me completing my tasks ..... which as it is right now is harder then ever. When I am feeling sickish he is there in a heartbeat asking what he can do to help but if it is around the time right after supper when dishes need being done...no dice....I have to help. like the above post....I could understand if it was my 5th pregnancy .... but this is still a second go....and what I am going through now is nothing like my first. ladies!! At least we have eachother.

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Mar 8th, 2010, 11:56 AM	#12
SaskySprite Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 344	Yes completely agreed. I think he's way too relaxed about the whole thing. He's been expecting me to lift heavy things, ignoring the fact that I am not meant to! Not sympathy for the tiredness I am just lazy! Stupid hubby.

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SaskySprite Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 344	Yes completely agreed. I think he's way too relaxed about the whole thing. He's been expecting me to lift heavy things, ignoring the fact that I am not meant to! Not sympathy for the tiredness I am just lazy! Stupid hubby.

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Mar 8th, 2010, 14:58 PM	#14
Smiler13 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Surrey Posts: 496	So glad to see this thread and to know am not the only one! My DH wasn't especially sympathetic the first time round, nor during four subsequent early miscarriages, and has been the same this time. Am nearly 13 weeks and have been struggling to look after our little girl (nearly two, still doesn't sleep through the night and a livewire, recently ill with recurring tummy bugs), work, keep on top of domestics etc. He helps out domestically, which I know is really good, but just doesn't understand the exhaustion / morning sickness or that I need some emotional support. I am also really worried about how we are going to cope with two, much as we both desperately want him / her. There has never been a time since our daughter was born that I have felt "normal" (i.e. not completely knackered and desperate to lie down all the time)! Really hoping this baby loves their sleep!

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Mar 8th, 2010, 15:11 PM	#15
babythinkpink Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 2,878	Oh so with you here!! Mine blows hot and cold but has said the 'you wanted a baby' comment which went down like a ton of bricks! I have found he totally ignores everything getting in a mess then has a big moan about it! I spent Sunday clearing up and he bearly moved! I can't remember how he was with our first, but now she is 2 I am picking her up and carrying her about, and not too happy about doing everything, with no help or gratitude!! I had a moan in my journal this morning about this!! I am sure i am more sensitive to it in pregnancy, i love him to bits normally but when i am pregnant i could take him or leave him!!! Owch

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Mar 8th, 2010, 16:52 PM	#16
SilasLove Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Missouri, USA Posts: 2,658	We have only known for a couple of days now, but I have been feeling really exhausted the last couple of weeks. Granted, I only manage 5 to 8 hours of sleep a night - broken I might add. I thought I would feel much differently getting pregnant a 2nd time around, as I have an idea of what to expect. But I am finding that I am more stressed because, after all, our first is only 4 months old. But, no sympathy from the OH. All I get is a sudden stopping of activities and a "Oh wow, you're pregnant!"

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