Anyone not breast feeding for different reasons? - Page 6

Pretty Sakura · Mar 1st, 2010, 15:20 PM

Tigerlady was not trying to make you feel like a bad mom for not BF. She was just making a point to say unless you have BF then you can't understand her comment about the bond being different. Diferrent does not mean weaker or less important b/c you FF. Just different. You are just as great a mom as they are. Everyone is different.

veganmum2be · Mar 1st, 2010, 15:20 PM

point is. bf is how feeding babys was supposed to be.
i'm not judging. i might even end up FF.

but breast is best. and bonding is better i hear because of skin to skin contact.

i haven't breastfed, or fed a baby ever really so my opinion is invalid.

i just think its silly when peole argue about it.
breast is best. but i dont think people judge f feeders.

Mum22GTTC · Mar 1st, 2010, 15:26 PM

When I saw this thread earlier today, I just knew it would get hijacked by BF mums, telling us breast is best.

Pretty Sakura · Mar 1st, 2010, 15:30 PM

There is nothing wrong with mom's who FF!!!

frouphea · Mar 1st, 2010, 15:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Mum22GTTC

When I saw this thread earlier today, I just knew it would get hijacked by BF mums, telling us breast is best.

Breastfeeding has benefits over formula feeding. Every woman has a choice, I'd never slate a woman for her choice, but she should make an informed choice, based on all the available information.

I don't think it is right to deny the benefits of breastfeeding, or to berate women for the choice they make.

I'm not telling anyone to breastfeed. I'm saying that women should find out as much as they can before deciding how they feed their baby. Then they can be sure to make the right choice, and will have no need to feel guilt or shame.

Zakiya · Mar 1st, 2010, 15:38 PM

When I created the thread I didn't think I'd have so many mothers breast feeding on here. The thread ended up going in a different direction, not necessarily a bad direction just different. I mainly wanted women who were not going to breast feed to post on there reasons why they didn't feel to. Like a guilt free thread to not do it. Go figure!

frouphea · Mar 1st, 2010, 15:45 PM

Thanks for not being mad Zakiya! No-one should feel guilty for the choices they make, and shouldn't be pushed into doing something they don't want to, but I think sharing information and ideas is always a good idea.

I was worried about about feeding feeling weird, especially as I have super sensitive nipples and I hate them being touched. Feeding a baby is so different to anything else, and just feels fine for me, despite my fears.

Mum22GTTC · Mar 1st, 2010, 15:49 PM

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Originally Posted by frouphea

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Originally Posted by Mum22GTTC

When I saw this thread earlier today, I just knew it would get hijacked by BF mums, telling us breast is best.

Breastfeeding has benefits over formula feeding. Every woman has a choice, I'd never slate a woman for her choice, but she should make an informed choice, based on all the available information.

I don't think it is right to deny the benefits of breastfeeding, or to berate women for the choice they make.

I'm not telling anyone to breastfeed. I'm saying that women should find out as much as they can before deciding how they feed their baby. Then they can be sure to make the right choice, and will have no need to feel guilt or shame.

Couldn't agree more and I would never slate or belittle a BF mother. Every mother has the right to make their own, educated decisions for the upbringing of their own child & should not be looked down upon by anyone.

But I stand by my opinion, that it is unfair for a BF mother in imply in any way, shape or form that their bond is 'different' (which clearly means stronger/better) to the bond of a FF mother. I take that as an insult - not saying that every FF mother does - but I do.

Which if you go back to my original post you will see. That is all I said. Then I suddenly got pounced on with the breast is best routine!

veganmum2be · Mar 1st, 2010, 15:56 PM

no one pounced on you.

Mum22GTTC · Mar 1st, 2010, 16:01 PM

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Originally Posted by veganmum2be

no one pounced on you.

Thank you for your kind input.

Mar 1st, 2010, 15:20 PM	#51
Pretty Sakura Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 10,787	Tigerlady was not trying to make you feel like a bad mom for not BF. She was just making a point to say unless you have BF then you can't understand her comment about the bond being different. Diferrent does not mean weaker or less important b/c you FF. Just different. You are just as great a mom as they are. Everyone is different.

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veganmum2be Waiting To Try (WTT) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Middlesbrough Posts: 4,728	point is. bf is how feeding babys was supposed to be. i'm not judging. i might even end up FF. but breast is best. and bonding is better i hear because of skin to skin contact. i haven't breastfed, or fed a baby ever really so my opinion is invalid. i just think its silly when peole argue about it. breast is best. but i dont think people judge f feeders.

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Mar 1st, 2010, 15:26 PM	#53
Mum22GTTC Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: UK Posts: 1,186	When I saw this thread earlier today, I just knew it would get hijacked by BF mums, telling us breast is best.

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Pretty Sakura Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 10,787	There is nothing wrong with mom's who FF!!!

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Zakiya Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Brooklyn, NYC Posts: 87	When I created the thread I didn't think I'd have so many mothers breast feeding on here. The thread ended up going in a different direction, not necessarily a bad direction just different. I mainly wanted women who were not going to breast feed to post on there reasons why they didn't feel to. Like a guilt free thread to not do it. Go figure!

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Mar 1st, 2010, 15:45 PM	#57
frouphea Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 294	Thanks for not being mad Zakiya! No-one should feel guilty for the choices they make, and shouldn't be pushed into doing something they don't want to, but I think sharing information and ideas is always a good idea. I was worried about about feeding feeling weird, especially as I have super sensitive nipples and I hate them being touched. Feeding a baby is so different to anything else, and just feels fine for me, despite my fears.

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veganmum2be Waiting To Try (WTT) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Middlesbrough Posts: 4,728	no one pounced on you.

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