That's horrible!! It actually made me mad at her and I don't even know her! It really ticks me off that women think its perfectly ok to do that. It's one thing to accidentally get pregnant and have a surprise baby... I had one of those at 17 but to put a guy in a situation he isn't ready for is not only unfair to the guy but what about that poor baby??? He has a right to know what she's doing...a relationship built on lies is worthless and definatly an unfair situation to bring a baby into! I'm sorry that your friend has involved you in that...it's a bad situation to be in and I wish you all the best.
Good luck and congatulations I hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy!

I'd tell the BF, or atleast tell her to tell him or you'll tell him yourself.

It's not fair on a man, who things he's doing the right thing by having her on protection to avoid pregnancy.

That's wrong! Things like this really irritate me and make me mad! Why do some women think they have the right to "trap" a man?

H2B has two children already (not mine), the day she met him she told him she couldn't have kids so they didn't need to use protection (H2B is not only thick but completely stupid) and 3 weeks later she was pregnant! Funny looking can't have kids, they ended up getting together properly after the baby was born and 3 months later she was pregnant again! H2B was in the army so barely saw her, when he came out of the army for the kids they only lasted 3 weeks as a couple!

It makes me angry and sad, H2B would never change his children but he would have changed the circumstances. Needless to say she is now on her 3rd child!

Our baby has come a little earlier than planned, I haven't been on any contraception for 14 months but that was mine AND H2B's decision as we knew we wanted to TTC straight after our wedding. We have been using the pull out method which obviously doesn't work but we BOTH knew what we where doing.

I hate women like your friend and personally I would have to find a way to tell her BF, anonamous (sp?) letter etc?

cases like this always make me sad, we might be in the 21st century but some things are still biased toward women, oh but she really wanted a baby, so if he did the same thing to her to get her pregnant? ,to be a parent you have to be responsible and to become one in that way clearly she's not responsible! how she feels about children doesn't have anything to do with it when she can't act like a grown up.

Sorry Mommy2bay2 I've deleted my original post. I wanted to share my DH's story with you to give some perspective on the long term effects of this behaviour, not because I wanted to read criticism of him by Smiler13. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk about it further.

Wow, some of the responses here are intresting. I want to say I don't agree with what shes doing at all, but if it bothers you that much don't be her friend. Running and telling her bf like some people have suggested in my opinion would make you just as bad as her. Relationships are about respect and trust. We may not agree with what are loved ones or friends do but its there life.

How do you work that out? This man has a right to know.

So in your opinion if your friend does something you don't agree with then you have the right to expose them? I know when i go to my gf's with problems its for the support. To be non judgemental and just be there for me. Im really surprised how many women would do this to there friends. I have a friend who is cheating on her husband, do i agree with it, no. would i tell him? hell no, its none of my business or my place to do so.

what immature, and selfish behavior. i just find this whole post very sad.
if i were you i would not get involved, stay out of it.

When it includes a child yes. If she gets pregnant how is it fair on the child? This man may resent this baby and that is not his or the babies fault it's the stupid bitch that is trying to trap her man.