Like other have said im sure you'll feel a little better once youve seen you little sticky bean

There's nothing wrong with you and you are not a horrible person for not being excited right now. First of all you have experience in the past that has trained you to feel certain ways (worried, unhappy), and secondly, your hormones are changing rapidly. Give yourself a bit of time, and don't be too hard on yourself. You have a long time to prepare and analyze your feelings. We are all here for you as well.
Bren

Everyone feeds you these lines about how it's such an exciting time, you must be so happy and so on. In reality everyone deals with it differently and chances are very high that you will come around in your own time. I spent the whole first month I knew feeling guilty that I wasn't over the moon elated (not to say that I'm not now) but I look back and feel like i wasted that month now.

Take your time and relax **hugs**

We planned this pregnancy for years and when it happened I expected angels and fluffy bunnies and it would all be just so wonderful............ In fact I felt really low, I cried all the time, I was petrified something would go wrong and I just felt plain miserable. That lasted a few weeks.. I am now the extatic, paranoid, worried wreck that makes a part of the group you find on Baby and Bump!!
I hope you start to feel better soon babes - don't worry, you will x x

My baby wasn't planned and I did run through all the pros and cons of keeping it verses a termination. In the end it felt right to keep it. But although I know I have made the right choice I don't feel over whelming maternal urges, I didnt get excitied about the scan and it still doesn't feel real as 11 weeks in and I dont feel any different physically.
Everyone tells me at some point the maternal urges and happy feeling will kick in, but for now I'm just getting on with life as normal

Maybe also what's happening is because he's getting so excited and carried away - you are having to be the voice of reason and work hard to keep his feet on the floor, and perhaps that's not giving you the space to get excited yourself?

That and hormons it's no wonder you feel like you do.

You can't blame him for being thrilled, he never thought this was going to happen for him ... but this is your baby too and you need time to get used to this idea.

Pregnancy has a habit of triggering old feelings or emotions that we thought we had dealt with! Don't be hard on yourself, perhaps you are concerned that history 'may' repeat itself - even though you know your OH is NOT like your ex at all. Maybe you feel vulnerable at the moment? After being so strong and idependant after your ex, might feel like an uncomfortable shift and again triggering how you used to feel???? Maybe it's plain old hormones!!! I have read so often in baby books and on sites how common it is to feel in 2 minds about a pregnancy even if you wanted it!!!

Hope you can work out what's going on and feel brighter about your pregnancy soon - but don't be hard on yourself or force it!!!


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I know just what your other half is going through...and you. Very similar to me and my OH. She is like "I dont feel normal" and "I will look ugly and fat" and "I have an alien inside me". She even wants to go see relatives in Poland before she is showing as she says she will look like a pig.

Truth is it was me who wanted a child more then she did. And every day I feel guilty as I know its her huge love for me that is the reason she is doing this. She told me last week she was scared of losing me if she didnt have my child. And that just made me cry. Aside from it being completely untrue I was just so touched by her devotion to me. Last few days she has started to make jokes about it and to read baby books so now I know things WILL be ok in the long term. I just needed to give her the time and space to sort it out in her own head.

Your OH is just sooooo excited.....trust me I know it myself. Sometimes in our deep desire to be part of what is happening with the pregnancy we charge in like a horny bull without thought nor care. He doesnt mean to, and he probably assumed you would be over the moon cos you have two children already. Once maternal always maternal? Personally I think its a great compliment he is subconsciously giving you. He is proud that YOU are carrying his child and he is demonstrating his confidence in you that it will all be ok.

Dont temper his enthusiasm. Its a real killer for a dad-to-be. Maybe some short time away from him? Perhaps with the girlies? Send him to a footie match or someting? Make it sound like you are treating him for being so good with you?