Just Rude

bellazucca · Apr 14th, 2008, 14:26 PM

Sorry....I have to rant for a minute. This girl I work with just asked me to move something very heavy from the 3rd floor to the 5th floor. She knows I am pregnant and made no mention of her getting a guy to do it for me (which of course I will!) At any rate, she has been trying to get pregnant for a very long time and can't. (I hate to tell her that it may be that she has gained about 100 lbs. in a year). So she is in an unhappy marriage, can't get pregnant and takes it out on me. How do you deal with women like this at work? My hormones are about to get nutz and I'm afraid I might bust out crying (very much unlike me) or go off on her. Any advice?????

**Vickie** · Apr 14th, 2008, 14:31 PM

There really is no good way to deal with a person like that. Try to be pleasant to her, because reacting to things will probably just encourage her to act even worse towards you. You do have the right to be safe though during your pregnancy and certainly should not be moving anything heavy. If it were me, I'd politely inform her that you are unable to do it and she should find someone else. If she has a problem with that go to a higher up or human resources.

Mervs Mum · Apr 14th, 2008, 14:34 PM

Punch her. Only joking.

Over here employers are legal obliged to carry out a risk assessment on your job so you dont do anything that you shouldnt be. Politely refuse and speak to your line manager. If no joy there, talk to HR as Vickie said.

x

shockd&amazed · Apr 14th, 2008, 14:45 PM

Agree with above - stand your ground politely but firmly and if no joy go above her. You can't risk your pregnancy for anything or anyone.
X

**polo_princess** · Apr 14th, 2008, 14:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Mervs Mum

Punch her. Only joking.

Funny i was going to say that

Tell her politely where to go hun, its not worth risking it!!

bellazucca · Apr 14th, 2008, 15:10 PM

I think if I punched her everyone in the office would have my back!

Belle · Apr 14th, 2008, 15:15 PM

hope she was just having a bad day and she doesn't carry on!! as above said just decline and inform ur boss!

elles28 · Apr 14th, 2008, 15:24 PM

Mervs mum thats awful she cant punch her!!

How about something less obvious spit in her tea or put boot polish on the earpeice of her phone!! Only jkn!!

No but seriously I hate it when people pick on pregnant woman knowing that when they are most vunerable...

Hope she leaves you alone

**Wobbles** · Apr 14th, 2008, 16:02 PM

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Originally Posted by bellazucca

Sorry....I have to rant for a minute. This girl I work with just asked me to move something very heavy from the 3rd floor to the 5th floor. She knows I am pregnant and made no mention of her getting a guy to do it for me (which of course I will!) At any rate, she has been trying to get pregnant for a very long time and can't. (I hate to tell her that it may be that she has gained about 100 lbs. in a year). So she is in an unhappy marriage, can't get pregnant and takes it out on me. How do you deal with women like this at work? My hormones are about to get nutz and I'm afraid I might bust out crying (very much unlike me) or go off on her. Any advice?????

I feel for your situation & it may be a misunderstood one but honestly what I have bolded stood out from your post & feel thats very nasty

Have you experienced problems trying to conceive?

miel · Apr 14th, 2008, 16:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Wobbles

I feel for your situation & it may be a misunderstood one but honestly what I have bolded stood out from your post & feel thats very nasty

Have you experienced problems trying to conceive?

i agree with you there wobbles..as you said we may not know about the all situation ...and i also agree you should not move anything that may worried you during your pregnancy but referring someone else' gain of weight" for not be available to conceive it's to my opinion just being a little to easy to get back at her and very mean ...

Apr 14th, 2008, 14:26 PM	#1
bellazucca Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Fort Worth, TX Posts: 811	Just Rude Sorry....I have to rant for a minute. This girl I work with just asked me to move something very heavy from the 3rd floor to the 5th floor. She knows I am pregnant and made no mention of her getting a guy to do it for me (which of course I will!) At any rate, she has been trying to get pregnant for a very long time and can't. (I hate to tell her that it may be that she has gained about 100 lbs. in a year). So she is in an unhappy marriage, can't get pregnant and takes it out on me. How do you deal with women like this at work? My hormones are about to get nutz and I'm afraid I might bust out crying (very much unlike me) or go off on her. Any advice?????

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Apr 14th, 2008, 14:31 PM	#2
Vickie Mum (Mom) Administrator Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Toronto, ON Posts: 75,694	There really is no good way to deal with a person like that. Try to be pleasant to her, because reacting to things will probably just encourage her to act even worse towards you. You do have the right to be safe though during your pregnancy and certainly should not be moving anything heavy. If it were me, I'd politely inform her that you are unable to do it and she should find someone else. If she has a problem with that go to a higher up or human resources.

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Mervs Mum Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: somewhere over the rainbow..... Posts: 21,347	Punch her. Only joking. Over here employers are legal obliged to carry out a risk assessment on your job so you dont do anything that you shouldnt be. Politely refuse and speak to your line manager. If no joy there, talk to HR as Vickie said. x
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shockd&amazed Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 595	Agree with above - stand your ground politely but firmly and if no joy go above her. You can't risk your pregnancy for anything or anyone. X

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bellazucca Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Fort Worth, TX Posts: 811	I think if I punched her everyone in the office would have my back!

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Belle Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Birmingham Posts: 3,540	hope she was just having a bad day and she doesn't carry on!! as above said just decline and inform ur boss!

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Apr 14th, 2008, 15:24 PM	#8
elles28 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 2,401	Mervs mum thats awful she cant punch her!! How about something less obvious spit in her tea or put boot polish on the earpeice of her phone!! Only jkn!! No but seriously I hate it when people pick on pregnant woman knowing that when they are most vunerable... Hope she leaves you alone

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