I know I seem to be doing nothing but moan at the moment and if you knew me you would know this is not in my character but I am soooo mad!!!!
Ive just been made to feel like the worst parent in the world and its uncalled for and unfair!

I have a DS who is coming up to 5. Despite numerous health issues he is a wonderful child who everyone inc school tells me he is a well balanced, secure well mannered child. He has however had an odd upbringing so far.
But it hasnt mattered! He is adored and all his needs are met and in many ways he is so intelligent because of things he has had the fortune to experience.

Heres an issue now though. Bubs is due in Sept, and my OH and I are performers. I have chosen not to work during pregnancy as touring is no way for a pregnant lady and obviously baby will need me so I wont be going back to work til he/she is 2 ish.

OH however is an actor and he is filming a part in LA in Oct. The studio have said they will fly me, bubs and DS out to live for 6 months and DS has the option of being schooled by tutor or going to an LA school for 6 months.

I dont want to split up my family it will not do me or the kids any good being away from OH and daddy for so long will it? So I think its acceptable that we go.

DS has seen so many places and has such incredible communication skills as a result of what hes seen and who he has met and I dont think it has harmed him at all. So why now, when im only 7 weeks pregnant has my so called best mate chosen to tell me she thinks that I am selfish and shouldnt be doing what we plan to do. She says she would never do this and that home is everything and that even just flying the kids out for a few weeks is wrong! People in my chosen field shouldnt have kids???!!!!!!!!
I love my son, I love my unborn baby and they need their family dont they?
Both parents?

I now feel so torn. Do I send my OH away alone and have him miss out on the kids too as well as have them miss out on him or do we go?

If my OH was a serviceman and we had to keep moving that would be ok in her eyes but not this!!

I swear to you I would never do anything I felt would hurt my kids emotionally or developmentally. But I know that they would be fine and DS would love the adventure and still get to learn.

What do you think?

It may be hard for him as he is leaving his friends. But it depends what kind of child he is. Does he adapt easily.

Also he is getting an education so I am sure he will be fin
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i think ur lil boy might actually enjoy it? kid's love an adventure. besides you need ur oh esp with a new baby on the way, you'll need lot's of support. i would go if it was me..... u odviously wanted to until ur 'friend' said she thought it was wrong....does she have children?? sounds like a selfish decision on her point, maybe she'll be sad to see you leave? xxx

DS is unbelievable. He has grown up with 2 confident adults and thats rubbed off and he makes friends really easily. Were he a shy child Id be concerned.

I did want to go but I havent got the rose tinted specs on you know?

She has a son and wants more but her OH isnt keen so she admits she is jealous of the pregnancy but i wouldnt have thought she would be bothered about missing me as shes used to me going away.

Her wording was just so mean!!!!!!!!!!

Sweetie, you need to do what you think is best for your children. I've worked in primary schools and in various other settings with young children and totally believe that younger children learn from experience better than they do from sitting in a classroom. Quite apart from the fact that your son will benefit from having both parents around, he will also learn about other nationalities and cultures due to the fact that LA is such a huge melting pot of people from all over the world.

I say if it feels right to you to take the 3 of you over then do it!!!!!

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I don't really see a problem with what you plan on doing.

We travel often too and I think it can only be good for my son. I do of course see down sides like a constantly changing routine and time away from friends and family but it all weighs up equally in the end. Perhaps in teenage years it is more important to have a "base" to call home but the security of having your parents around is far greater. Your husband needs to work to have money for the family and why should you and your children be away from him if you can go too?!

I think you are the best judge of what is best for your DS and you will know if it is having a negative effect on him. I understand why people who don't travel around would see it as disruptive but since we do, I know it can work.

I hardly think you can compare it to being with a serviceman! When serviceman get sent away for 6 months we dont get a choice to go with them we have to stay at home with the kids and manage whilst worrying about our DH (my hubby is in the RAF). And when we get posted we move the home with us and its normally for longer than 6 months! so its not like going away for 6 months and then coming back!

You have to decide whats best for your family! I personnally wouldnt move my family for the sake of 6 months i'd rather my son stay in a routine with his friends at school but only you know how your family will cope.

good luck

Do what's best for you and yours. Don't worry about other people hun.

I could never be away from my husband for 6 months I would be miserable and never be able to cope, I would go, your child will be fine he is still young its not like he is in high school.
Your friend sounds very judgmental.

I'd go. Like cupcake, I wouldn't want to be away from my OH for 6 months, but also because children are really adaptable at that age, and I'm sure your DS will settle down and enjoy himself. It's not like it's for a week or a month. It's half a year! He'll need his daddy for those 6 months, more than he'll need to go to the same school/have the same friends.

That's my personal opinion though, and you have to do what's best for your family. I do think maybe your friend has a bit of the green eyed monster about her at the moment though. Perhaps she didn't mean to word things like she did. I'd have a word with her and see if she meant to come across so judgementally.

Good luck and do whatever is best for you x