How I bring up my baby is my business, isnt it? - Page 2

Mrs.Mc1985 · Feb 2nd, 2010, 09:04 AM

Kids are resilient. AS you said he is well adjusted and he will make friends easily once you move. I'd ignore the naysayers and just do what you feel is right.

Hugs

ryder · Feb 2nd, 2010, 09:07 AM

I think what your doing is great. You definately should not split up your family. This will be a nice trip for you guys and it wont be for forever.

Nimyra · Feb 2nd, 2010, 09:11 AM

Your friend doesn't sound like she was being very sensitive. People are always going to have their opinions about what you should do - and that doesn't mean you have to listen to those opinions or believe them. I think your son will be fine. Kids just need love and care, the rest takes care of itself. It might be different if he was 14 and in that delicate "my friendships are everything" stage, but at 5 years old, I don't see how this temporary move could hurt. Personally, I'd probably opt for the tutor rather than LA schools, but that's me.

As a family of performers I can imagine how important it must be to take job opportunities and this sounds like a great one for your whole family!

Linz88 · Feb 2nd, 2010, 09:13 AM

:S your friend is probably jealous... its not liike your going and leaving your son your going away as a family. he's stil going to get an education.. :S and even if he didnt get tutorted or went to school i sure he wouldnt miss out on a lot. cause 7 year olds read, sing and practice writing.. and im sure you could doo all that with him.. :s ignore her.. go and support your husband and be a family

DJBSCANNON · Feb 2nd, 2010, 09:28 AM

I wouldnt even have to think twice about it, family is so important surely its better that your all together and wont you be happier being together rather than stuck at home. 6 months is a long time to miss out on especially when kids are young. Definately go let her have her opinion I agree with the others sounds like a touch of the green eyed monster.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

Jo

mmoon1 · Feb 2nd, 2010, 09:31 AM

Thanks ladies, and Em youre bang on opprtunities like this dont happen every day and you have to grab them. Im trying to see the bigger picture six months away, no financial worries and DS will get to see somewhere new.

I think at the moment everything is magnified and I just take everything so personally.

I just want everyone to be happy and I dont want my family to split up.

Also I didnt mean to compare it to being with a serviceman I appreciate the worry and hardship that comes with that. What I mean was the travelling I have friends in the Navy and they have had 6 homes in the last 18 months with kids aged 7 and 4.

The moving to me doesnt seem different at all. Its a choice at the end of the day and so long as I see my children happy, balanced getting all they need I cant see why someone with our lifestyle shouldnt have children! xxx

Nimyra · Feb 2nd, 2010, 10:04 AM

The only person who is unhappy with your decision to move the family to LA is your friend - and you don't have to make decisions to please her. Your son will not be unhappy. Sounds like the move is win-win.

What sort of performer are you?

I still can't believe your friend said that performers shouldn't have children. She had a lot of nerve.

I think God gave us pregnancy hormones (and all the accompanying mood swings) to encourage us to get rid of false friends and other people who upset us before the baby comes. You should surround yourself with people who are capable of demonstrating their love and support. I've decided that I'm better off sitting home alone with no friends than suffering the company of people who make me feel like crap. Friendships are for mutual joy.

bunnyg82 · Feb 2nd, 2010, 10:22 AM

If it was me, I'd want to be with my hubby as a family and couldn't bare that long away so would definitely go, no question.

It's hard when people try to put their views on you but you really need to do what's right for you and your family xx

LittleAurora · Feb 2nd, 2010, 11:15 AM

let his see the world!! i vote go for it!!

butterbaby76 · Feb 2nd, 2010, 11:33 AM

well i think shes jealous babe, your hubby gotta work and why when you and yours have got a wonderful chance to be together and take time abroad wouldnt you do it ??? kids are v.resiliant and what a life experience for your ds i say and if it was me DO IT !!! i would jump at the chance ! what about these militry children that are shipped around they seem to cope, me thinks that friendship if it wer mine would be on a back burner for a while xxx good luck, go have fun , live your life xxx

Feb 2nd, 2010, 09:04 AM	#11
Mrs.Mc1985 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: SC Posts: 1,532	Kids are resilient. AS you said he is well adjusted and he will make friends easily once you move. I'd ignore the naysayers and just do what you feel is right. Hugs

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Feb 2nd, 2010, 09:07 AM	#12
ryder Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Belleville, Ontario Posts: 25,719	I think what your doing is great. You definately should not split up your family. This will be a nice trip for you guys and it wont be for forever.

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Feb 2nd, 2010, 09:11 AM	#13
Nimyra Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Maryland, USA Posts: 1,547	Your friend doesn't sound like she was being very sensitive. People are always going to have their opinions about what you should do - and that doesn't mean you have to listen to those opinions or believe them. I think your son will be fine. Kids just need love and care, the rest takes care of itself. It might be different if he was 14 and in that delicate "my friendships are everything" stage, but at 5 years old, I don't see how this temporary move could hurt. Personally, I'd probably opt for the tutor rather than LA schools, but that's me. As a family of performers I can imagine how important it must be to take job opportunities and this sounds like a great one for your whole family!

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Feb 2nd, 2010, 09:13 AM	#14
Linz88 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: West Brom\Bham, Uk Posts: 1,679	:S your friend is probably jealous... its not liike your going and leaving your son your going away as a family. he's stil going to get an education.. :S and even if he didnt get tutorted or went to school i sure he wouldnt miss out on a lot. cause 7 year olds read, sing and practice writing.. and im sure you could doo all that with him.. :s ignore her.. go and support your husband and be a family

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Feb 2nd, 2010, 09:28 AM	#15
DJBSCANNON Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Seaford Meadows, South Australia Posts: 417	I wouldnt even have to think twice about it, family is so important surely its better that your all together and wont you be happier being together rather than stuck at home. 6 months is a long time to miss out on especially when kids are young. Definately go let her have her opinion I agree with the others sounds like a touch of the green eyed monster. Good luck with whatever you decide. Jo

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Feb 2nd, 2010, 09:31 AM	#16
mmoon1 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 217	Thanks ladies, and Em youre bang on opprtunities like this dont happen every day and you have to grab them. Im trying to see the bigger picture six months away, no financial worries and DS will get to see somewhere new. I think at the moment everything is magnified and I just take everything so personally. I just want everyone to be happy and I dont want my family to split up. Also I didnt mean to compare it to being with a serviceman I appreciate the worry and hardship that comes with that. What I mean was the travelling I have friends in the Navy and they have had 6 homes in the last 18 months with kids aged 7 and 4. The moving to me doesnt seem different at all. Its a choice at the end of the day and so long as I see my children happy, balanced getting all they need I cant see why someone with our lifestyle shouldnt have children! xxx

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Feb 2nd, 2010, 10:04 AM	#17
Nimyra Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Maryland, USA Posts: 1,547	The only person who is unhappy with your decision to move the family to LA is your friend - and you don't have to make decisions to please her. Your son will not be unhappy. Sounds like the move is win-win. What sort of performer are you? I still can't believe your friend said that performers shouldn't have children. She had a lot of nerve. I think God gave us pregnancy hormones (and all the accompanying mood swings) to encourage us to get rid of false friends and other people who upset us before the baby comes. You should surround yourself with people who are capable of demonstrating their love and support. I've decided that I'm better off sitting home alone with no friends than suffering the company of people who make me feel like crap. Friendships are for mutual joy.

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Feb 2nd, 2010, 10:22 AM	#18
bunnyg82 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 7,543	If it was me, I'd want to be with my hubby as a family and couldn't bare that long away so would definitely go, no question. It's hard when people try to put their views on you but you really need to do what's right for you and your family xx

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Feb 2nd, 2010, 11:15 AM	#19
LittleAurora Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Northern Ireland Posts: 2,678	let his see the world!! i vote go for it!!

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Feb 2nd, 2010, 11:33 AM	#20
butterbaby76 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: birmingham Posts: 479	well i think shes jealous babe, your hubby gotta work and why when you and yours have got a wonderful chance to be together and take time abroad wouldnt you do it ??? kids are v.resiliant and what a life experience for your ds i say and if it was me DO IT !!! i would jump at the chance ! what about these militry children that are shipped around they seem to cope, me thinks that friendship if it wer mine would be on a back burner for a while xxx good luck, go have fun , live your life xxx

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