Chel

I started crying at work today because my boss gave me some negative feedback... barely more than a firm reminder... and as soon as she'd left the room I was crying my eyes out... I had to dash to the bathroom, splash my face with water and jump up and down to calm myself down so I could go back out. It was crazy! I felt like I was about to completely fall apart, if I wasn't at work, I probably would have been hysterical, I was having enough trouble reining the tears in as it was and I probably cried for about 5 minutes!

That is totally and completely unlike me. As a rule, I dont cry in front of people, in public and such, and usually I can contain myself and deal with it later, but today I really just couldn't, no hope.

Also, I'm throwing up pretty much every morning and my partner has shown absolutely no sympathy towards me what so ever, barely even asking if I'm okay. I feel sick most of the day, I haven't felt actually hungry for about 4 weeks now, I'm losing weight, and I shouldn't be, I'm feeling totally stretched too thin, no energy... and... I just wish he'd hug me and be sympathetic and understanding, or maybe even just tell me I'm doing a good job and that he appreciates that I'm the one who's going through all this so we can have a baby.

The other morning he even said "so, how long are you going to be doing this for?" in reference to the throwing up... he sounded as if me throwing up was inconvienancing him! Like, how much longer does he have to put up with me throwing up?

Umm... yeah... thanks... I think I just really needed to vent a little. None of this has been as fun as I thought it would be, I had this idea that pregnant women were 'glowing', I'm pale and sick most of the time.

Any understanding or advice or guidance or hugs would be greatly appreciated at this stage.

cheryl

for you hun,
I get upset at stupid little things, Its just hormones. I havn't been sick but I do feel sick all the time. Try drinking lemonade fizz it up so the fizz goes out of it. That helps me loads and try eating small amounts often, Toast is what I have been living on LOL.
Try talking to your OH and he might understand what you are going through.
Luv Cheryl xxx

leeanne

Aww, sorry hon! Sounds like a mixture of hormones and morning sickness have gotten to you.

Unfortunately, men just don't get it at times! Best if you could talk to him and explain what you are going through.

GemGems

Ahhhhhh Chel.
I dont know him but your OH seems to be a little bit insensitive!! I'm not being nosey but are you having relationship troubles or anything as such? Just talk to him and explain you need his support.

As for the emotion, i totally know how you feel and unfortunately its just part of being pregnant. I broke down in tears this morning in the middle of the field outside my house because my dog would listen to me!!! I feel like a mental patient sometimes!! But, it will pass. The 1 trimester is the sicky part and you'll start to feel better as you go into the 2nd trimester.

Remember that we're all here for you, so vent as much as you want!!!

gde78

Aw sorry to hear your suffering hon. Men can be so insensitive sometimes! I'm sure he doesn't mean to be, but they just don't realise what hard work this can be! Your hormones are fluctuating all over the place as well so that doesn't help. Just try and keep the second tri insight when things start to calm down a bit - so I'm told! Big And like GemGems said, we're here for you to vent to!

Tasha18

Aww hun, My fiance was just the same, he was so nasty about the bean and he even walked out on me!
Just give him time to adjust to things or write him a letter explaining how you are feeling, I did this with Chris and had a quiet little chat and he suddenly opened up and explained that he was scared that he wouldn't be a good dad.
Men don't easily open up but just give it time
If you need to talk feel free to PM me

rae05

My boyfriend is like this too. He just doesn't care that I'm sick. I had to practically beg him to go get me a glass of water yesterday because everytime I moved pretty much I had to run to the washroom.

I don't even know what to say because I can't make Adam realize either...maybe have a good friend or brother or his dad or even his mother talk to him and explain to him what women are like when they're pregnant and how he can act? Adam won't let me go near his mom since he told her (she's not pleased with HIM, not me), so I haven't been able to ask her to do that yet.

Belle

Sorry to hear your going through such a crappy time, trust me it will all get a little better and somedays are always worse than others!!
xx

DonnyDoo

I think men are so scared of the prospect of being Dads, and of you being poorly, that they put on a front, and act insensitive, when inside they are bricking it!!

Mine keeps laughing at all my symptoms, and joking "Ive done my part now, I can relax" relax? relax? you wait till we are in that delivery room matey, you are in for a world of pain!!

Think its just of case of having a word in his shell like, tell him you feel hes not bothered, and that you would like to talk about it xxxx

nemmie

im with you on the sickness everyday constantly none stop! Its actually feeling better now... Another idea with the lemonade pour some into a pan and boil it until the fizz is gone, keep smelling the vapours and when its completely fizz free pour it into a mug and drink it when its cooled a bit also i find salt is also a BIG help, salty crisps the saltier the better yum yum :P