Tasha18

Ok so when me and my fiances little accident happened he was so excited at the prospect of me being pregnant and he kept touching my stomach saying he couldn't wait for me to get a bump.
But now that is it confirmed he has gone all distant on me, has stopped mentioning it and whenever I say soemthiing along the lines of " I can't do the cleaning, I'm pregnant" as a joke he either ignores me or goes off on me!
I don't know why he is behaving like this but he has really upset me all I know that is with or without him I'm keeping my bean!!

nemmie

He has probably had a reality check and is freaking out, it's going to mean a big change for both of you. My OH is behaving in much the same way, he is very scared and men don't like showing that they are! My OH settled down some once we told our parents, but he still doesn't like talking about it as of yet. I think he will be more talkative once we hit that 3 month stage, right now he doesn't know what he should be doing.

Tasha18

Thanks, here's hoping he will change :-)
Good luck with ur pregnancy btw

nemmie

thank you. You too good luck

nemmie

I think the best thing to do is probably to relax, When my OH started to freak out I stopped telling him a lot of the information I simply said, If you want to know whats going on inside me at any time just ask. He appriciated that and then was more than happy to bring me my vitimin tablets (you should be on folic acid at least - in case you aren't) and whatever floted my boat food wise. We were both smokers and I asked him to not smoke around me, but it was ok if he still wanted a cig a two and that I appriciate it's my body changing not his. Just a little give and take I think is required.

cheryl

My OH has been doing the same. We have 2 children already, I think its just a shock to them. I think part of him is keeping a distance and trying not to get attached just yet incase I have a miscarrage again. So it doesn't upset him as much. I have stopped reading stuff too him too I only talk about it when he wants too.
Good Luck and I hope he comes around soon.
Luv Cheryl xxx

pink_musician

Aww i bet the reality has sunk in and he is scared like the other girls say im sure he will be fine in time, some men just dont like to show thier emotions. Good Luck xx

nikky0907

It probably just hit him.The reality set in.

Talk to him,tell him you are scared too.
Soon,when you guys go to your scan or hear the heartbeat,every little worry will go away..

Good luck...

Tasha18

Thanks everyone for the advice, when he gets in later going to have a quiet chat with him, will let you know how I get on!

Tasha xx

rae05

My boyfriend is doing the exact same thing, although he started coming around yesterday. We haven't told our parents yet (I'm telling mine tonight), so I'm hoping after he tells his mom he will be better.

Just stick it out, BF doesn't even really want to talk about it either. I think its a shock and something so new and weird that they've helped produced another person. It is mind blowing when you think of it.