Hello everyone

I thought I would ask all you ladies on your opinion as I really don't know what to do.

I have just found out that I am pregnant (unplanned), I have a dating scan for next Monday but I am possibly about 9 weeks pregnant already. I am really really happy and excited about being pregnant as I want nothing more than having a baby of my own, even though I am just 22 this year I feel more than ready. I had a miscarriage 2 years ago and then foudn out I have polycystic ovaries so I may not have too many chances of becoming pregnant.

However, I told my boyfriend of 4 years the other day and he just said 'Get an abortion, Im not ready to be a Dad'. I know dont know what to do, I want this baby more than anything but I dont want to have it and feel like Im forcing a child on him. We have many friends who are couples who now have a child which was unplanned and now they all have the cutest happiest families ever but he still doesnt understand.

Please someone help and offer advice, I really need it.

Thanks xxx

im sorry your partner isnt being supportive. but don't get rid of the life inside of you because he isnt ready! its your body and if you feel ready, i would carry on as normal he has 2 choices really, lose you, or prepare to be a dad in the next 7 months.

sorry if i sound a ittle abrupt but if its what you want continue with the pregnancy regardless of what he has said. you will live to regret it, and plus with the added complicaton of your PCOS you dont know what will happen in the future.
Good luck

I am so sorry you are going through that - I can't offer worldly wisdom unfortunately, but strangely have known someone in the same situation.

When my friend first got pregnant (unplanned) she was over the moon, but her OH told her to get an abortion (unbeknown to me at that time, until later).

They now have a 3 year old little boy and he is a brilliant dad......

What I'm trying to say is he may come round to the idea - this may be a knee jerk reaction.

But I guess you just need to sit and have a proper talk - have you told him you don't like the idea of abortion and would want to have the baby?

I hope you can come to a solution and be happy

ultimately its your baby and your body. Think hard! You are the only one that can make the decision. you can bring baby up on your own...his loss

I am so sorry you are going through this. I think you need to do what feels right for you. If you do have an abortion are you going to live the rest of your life with regret?

I had been with with my partner 14weeks when i found out i was 8 weeks preg with my son. I told him and his initial reaction was the same as your partners. I told him i could not go through with an abortion and that he could be involved as much or as little as he wanted. By the time our son was born he had really come round to the idea. And now 6 1/2 years later, we are still together and have a 8 1/2mth daughter.

Again hun, please do whats right for you

If you need to talk, feel free to pm me x

You have said you are happy and excited, so that's all you need to know. Give him time, talk to him about it and hopefully he will come around. Don't do something you will regret just to make someone else happy, even if you end up having to do it on your own you will manage.

kick his a$$ to the curb is my vote! if he didn't want to be a daddy then he should've thought about that before having with you! and if you want to keep your baby, then you should by all means. babies are blessings from God and even though you may not understand God's reasonings for things, there is a purpose behind every blessing. good luck with your decision.

^^ I like what she said

I would have the baby regardless, and either hope that he comes round when he sees it or go it alone. Do you have the support of your own family? Perhaps your parents will let you live with them initially?

Hello Hun,

i agree with what people are saying, if you want the baby, keep it, my cousin was with a guy and she found out she was pregnant, before she got pregnant she wasnt overly motherly, and wasnt entirely planning on ever being a mum (she was only 21) when she found out she went for the scan and found out she was nearly 5 months, she decided then that she couldnt, and wouldnt give up on her baby, even though she didnt want one before, her then boyfriend offered her £10,000 to get rid of it, no word of a lie, she didnt accept, and she now has a beautiful 3 year old daughter, and the dad only started seeing her when she was one, as his mother made him....so the moral or my story is its your body, your decision and no amount of money (or fake love, as thats what some men portray) is worth getting rid of your baby, especially if it isnt the decision you want.

Lots of love hun xxxx