Hello sweetie,

As Serina points out, discussion regarding abortion isnt really allowed on BnB. I really hope you make a decision you are happy with, and the girls in first tri would be more than happy to welcome you if you do decide to keep the baby x

I think the answers in your question, hunny. Please don't let anyone make decisions for you, because it sounds like you'd regret it, judging by your post

Could have written this myself. Take a look at my preg journal and you will understand.
I lost a little girl nearly 2 years ago when I was 6 months pregnant and he wanted rid of her aswell. Now Im pregnant again and he wants rid of this one. Hes begging me to get an abortion because hes not ready and we have been together 5 years.....
He said its not the right time...but when would there ever be a right time?

Please msg me if you want to talk. I hope both of our men come around very soon....I know how hard it is because you love him and you will most likely want the 3 of you to be a family....just like I want this baby, myself and him to be a family.

Thinking of you x x

We have been together for 4 years so yes it is serious. Trouble is he is abit immature for his age and I do find it hard to see him raising a child but I really hope he comes round to the idea.

Like what pink_tinks says I'm really hoping that when I have my scan, although he won't be there I may have a picture to take home so he can see and then realise how amazing having a child is.

Aaw, sweetie, it's really difficult I know. This happened to my sister (she was also 22), she had the baby and now I have the most beautiful niece who was 2 on Christmas Eve. She told her bf at the time that if he wanted to be involved then fine, if not that it was his choice. He chose to walk away. My sister met someone new who treats them both like princesses and is getting married next month. Everything will work out fine. Be strong and make choices you can live with is my advice. All may look bleak just now but trust me, things will work out xx

if i was in your position personally, i would keep it, in the end its your decision, your the one growing that life inside of u, and if u have been with hime for 4 years thean he will adventually come around, and in the end he wil proabably be happy that u keep the baby imstead of aborting it

Well too bad for him because he doesn't get to decide! I'm sure whatever his true character he's probably really scared right now, so just let him opt out of it. If he's a good guy, he'll stick around, if not, then really, why do you want him? I think it's clear what you want your decision to be...please, please, please don't let his opinion influence you.

Im like that too... we've been together nearly 5 years now and OH is immature at times but i know that he will be sensible when he needs to be.
And seeing him hold a baby is hillarious; went to see his mate and 11 day old baby girl at the weekend, he was scared he would break her and couldnt cope with her wriggling lol.

Hope u dont mind me asking, but is he not going to be at the scan because he doesnt want to be, or because he cant actually go?

I personally don't think you should have this baby with the hope he will come around, he may not and he may resent you and the baby.

If you decide to go through with this pregnancy then you have to be prepared for the worst, you have to be prepared that he may leave you.

What do you want more? this baby and the chance to be a mother or him and the relationship you have with him?

Personally I would choose the baby over any bloke.

I had an abortion once before also, I was young and it was actually to my husband (been together 15yrs now), but the difference was NEITHER of us were ready for a child, we hadn't been dating long and it was something we talked about and both agreed on, he said ' at the end of the day, you have the final word' and I know I did.
Did we both regret it, I think I did more (and still do), did he feel sad watching me go through all I went through, yes he did. It made our relationship stronger and we now have 3 sons and are pregnant with twins. The difference with my situation was that we BOTH agreed I honestly at the time felt I wasn't ready.

If you feel ready and you want this baby, then I say have it, just know that it could mean the end of your relationship with him, but it also means a whole new begining and one that is just beautiful.

All the very best.

Thanks again for all your comments, hearing all your opinions has been really interesting.

He isn't coming to the scan because he can't leave work at all. I don't mind really, because of having the miscarriage before I'm thinking the worst although I have been pretty I'll lately and they say having morning sickness and that means that you may have a healthier pregnancy so who knows.