I am sorry he is putting you through this. And what I am going to say isnt meant to be harsh in anyway and obviously I dont know your circumstances

BUT at the end of the day if he was not ready to be a dad then why not use contraception? Maybe you were as I say I dont know.

You seem so happy to be pregnant and when you go to GP to start the process of termination you have to justify your choice/reason and if you are in ANY doubt they will send you away and tell you to come back in a week.

Obviously depending how far along you are gives you less time to decide BUT DO NOT RUSH IT!

I work in a unit that do terminations and have seen so many women/girls "forced" into having a termination or doing it as its what they think is right for their future with a partner etc etc and its so upsetting to see.

I have also seen 2 of my friends actively ttc with their partners only to have them turn around when preg and "make" them get rid of the baby....at t he end of the day it was their choice but obviously I was there for them before and after the termination and both have wished they kept their baby as the relationship funnily enough ended.

At the end of the day there is so much help about for single mothers and I dont know if you have family who you can talk to and look to for support but I think you should talk to someone before being made to make a descision which will affect the rest of your life.

to you.

Emma.xx

you have to do what is right for you. i have been seing the fob for 6 weeks and am 6 weeks pregnant, when i first told him, he thought i should get rid of it. i couldnt, i would have to live with that regret....

anyway a week down the line, hes actually excited and wants us to be a family. i think all guys initial reaction to unplanned pregnancy is the same xx

Thank you so much everyone for all your opinions. I agree with what you have all said. I think and really hope that if I carry on with the pregnancy then towards the end he will come round more to the idea and hopefully by the time the baby comes he will turn into a great dad and then soon not realise what life was like without his child.

I have actually had an abortion with a previous partner years ago and that was horrible. I would never ever want to do that again.

Like I said I am going to wait untill my scan next week to find out how far I am and then speak to him again.

Thank you everyone, I really hope I get to keep this baby. Xxx

Abortion talk is banned on bnb never mind in a section where everyone worrys if there baby will make it past 12 wks

My thoughts exactly. He should have thought about that before ! You'll be fine bringing it up without him if that's the case anyway. If you want to keep it, you keep it! Good luck chick xx

Have you been with your partner long? Would you regret having an abortion for him, if this is what you truly want? What if you are not together five years from now? My twin sister had a very similar situation. She got pregnant with a man she had been dating for several months. She was actually on birth control pill at the time, but still got pregnant (the Dr's think because she was taking antibiotics at the time). She was 23. Her boyfriend said the same words "abort, I don't want to be a dad". She said no, and he dumped her. He told her that her life would go nowhere and that she was ruining it. She is now almost 35. She is an ER registered nurse. She has three children, a big house in the suburbs, and a husband (not the same man). She is going to Jamaica on vacation in a couple weeks. Does she regret it? No. Did she ruin her life? No. Did she go somewhere? Alot farther than the father of this child did. You have to make a decision that is right for YOU and no one else.

my OH told me i was lying, was in total denial about me being pregnant, im the same age as u.

U shudda seen his face at the 12wk scan, absolutely smitten and he has been over the moon ever since.
Blokes react differently, mainly coz they think their life will end i think!!

If u want the baby (which i think u should have, u sound ready!) then do it with or without him; he will more than likely come round tho.

if u wanna chat PM me :-)

I have been with my partner for 4 years, we have lived together for 3 years.

I know I could raise it on my own but I do want to raise the baby as a family just the 3 of us. I have read on other sites where the woman keeps the baby and there partner leaves and has nothing to do with the child. That's horrible and I rePly don't want that to happen.

Does anyone know someone who kept their baby and then their partner left them?

i think as always people have to make what decsion is right for them, my friend is due on the 29th of this month, when her bf first found out she was pregnant he walked out and told her it was over, he did however eventually come round and now they have a house together and that baby being born healthy is the most important thing in the world to him.
lots of men/lads take alot of time to come round to the idea, theres never a perfect time to have a baby, but once you are blessed with one, they are amazing life changing little princessess/princes and i want mine to be born healthy and carried to full term more than anything in the world!

good luck with your descion xx

Oh hon...if he has been with you that long, then he should be by your side no matter what. I honestly cannot believe he suggested abortion. Is he just freaked out, you think? You both are adults, obviously in a serious relationship, and now you both are pregnant. He needs to be responsible.