Dealing with a breakup. update pg3 - Page 3

karamel · Dec 21st, 2009, 15:27 PM

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Oh that blows babe. Its gonna be hard, but I know your strong and you can make it through.
Im sure he'll be a great father, regardless.

We are all here for ya's!

Yes a great father indeed -- such a great father that he told me tonight "the only reason I'd play with a knife would be to give you an abortion" -- during our break up this evening.
Yeah, a wonderful father.

You are well out of it!!! I know it sounds harsh but if he is that kind of a person he is not someone you need around you! You sound like a lovely person who will be a great Mummy! I'm glad that you have your mum and sister there to support you. Take care....

He is definitely not someone I need around me, or my baby.
Being the father or not, and i know it's harsh, but he's not having anything to do with this child. I dont need nor want child support, and I dont want to EVER let my child alone with him.

Jordicia · Dec 21st, 2009, 17:08 PM

I think you are very brave and increadibly sensible for thinking to the future for you and your baby. Surround yourself with your family for support as you will need them at times. You are going to have the most amazing bond with your baby, just cherish him or her and stay strong xxx

karamel · Dec 21st, 2009, 17:36 PM

**Update**

He has been released from jail.
He has conditions which include not being able to come within 200 meters of my house. Can't come near my work. And can't be anywhere that i am or might be. If he is, I am to report it to the police.
And he gets one opportunity to gather his belongings from my apartment, and it will be with a police escort, at my convenience.
These conditions apply till he goes to court, which will be most likely a year + .
I feel much more safe and comfortable now.

Starbucket · Dec 21st, 2009, 19:41 PM

Im glad you are feeling more secure..that is good news.

bek74 · Dec 21st, 2009, 19:49 PM

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Originally Posted by karamel

**Update**

He has been released from jail.
He has conditions which include not being able to come within 200 meters of my house. Can't come near my work. And can't be anywhere that i am or might be. If he is, I am to report it to the police.
And he gets one opportunity to gather his belongings from my apartment, and it will be with a police escort, at my convenience.
These conditions apply till he goes to court, which will be most likely a year + .
I feel much more safe and comfortable now.

What was he in jail for? you didn't mention anything about jail or charges in your other posts. Sorry just a little confused. Cause last night he made that horrible comment about abortion and now he is released from jail.

JASMAK · Dec 21st, 2009, 21:21 PM

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Originally Posted by karamel

**Update**

He has been released from jail.
He has conditions which include not being able to come within 200 meters of my house. Can't come near my work. And can't be anywhere that i am or might be. If he is, I am to report it to the police.
And he gets one opportunity to gather his belongings from my apartment, and it will be with a police escort, at my convenience.
These conditions apply till he goes to court, which will be most likely a year + .
I feel much more safe and comfortable now.

Take care hon, and remember...we are all here for you.

loopylou86 · Dec 22nd, 2009, 03:54 AM

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Originally Posted by karamel

Well it's official, the father of my bean and I are breaking up.
It's been coming for a while, but it's still going to be hard to accept.
I just don't know what I'm going to do to be honest.
It's already planning that I'll be moving in with my sister in April now, but it's going to be very hard to be a single mom right from birth.
I guess I just really need some support.

Hun, I understand where you are coming from. I am having problems with my OH too and am really thinking I am going to be alone. Will still live at home and he thinks we can stay that way until after the baby is born but I cant stay at home, no room and thought we would be starting our life together. Seems things are too messed up for him and I am going to end up doing this alone. I mentioned about the nights and days where I will be alone and he will only be there every now and again and we just ended up rowing. So scared, not sure where to start to get help

beatnick · Dec 22nd, 2009, 04:49 AM

jail?

WTF?

there is me thinking he is just a bit of a b@st@rd!

You are well out of that!

karamel · Dec 22nd, 2009, 08:52 AM

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Originally Posted by bek74

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Originally Posted by karamel

**Update**

He has been released from jail.
He has conditions which include not being able to come within 200 meters of my house. Can't come near my work. And can't be anywhere that i am or might be. If he is, I am to report it to the police.
And he gets one opportunity to gather his belongings from my apartment, and it will be with a police escort, at my convenience.
These conditions apply till he goes to court, which will be most likely a year + .
I feel much more safe and comfortable now.

What was he in jail for? you didn't mention anything about jail or charges in your other posts. Sorry just a little confused. Cause last night he made that horrible comment about abortion and now he is released from jail.

Sorry i guess i failed to mention that when he made that comment, my being unaware if he would actually follow through with the threat, i called the police and had him arrested. Uttering a threat to cause bodily harm.

karamel · Dec 22nd, 2009, 08:55 AM

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Originally Posted by karamel

Well it's official, the father of my bean and I are breaking up.
It's been coming for a while, but it's still going to be hard to accept.
I just don't know what I'm going to do to be honest.
It's already planning that I'll be moving in with my sister in April now, but it's going to be very hard to be a single mom right from birth.
I guess I just really need some support.

Hun, I understand where you are coming from. I am having problems with my OH too and am really thinking I am going to be alone. Will still live at home and he thinks we can stay that way until after the baby is born but I cant stay at home, no room and thought we would be starting our life together. Seems things are too messed up for him and I am going to end up doing this alone. I mentioned about the nights and days where I will be alone and he will only be there every now and again and we just ended up rowing. So scared, not sure where to start to get help

I'm not sure where you're from, but if there's anything like public health in your area, you're first place to start would be there.
I know where I am, they're very helpful in getting you support and groups to help through pregnancy, with the father or not.
I'm sorry you're going through this as well, but good luck. And i'm sure you'll make the right decision for you and your bean <3

Dec 21st, 2009, 17:08 PM	#22
Jordicia Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Surrey Posts: 244	I think you are very brave and increadibly sensible for thinking to the future for you and your baby. Surround yourself with your family for support as you will need them at times. You are going to have the most amazing bond with your baby, just cherish him or her and stay strong xxx

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Dec 21st, 2009, 17:36 PM	#23
karamel Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 453	Update He has been released from jail. He has conditions which include not being able to come within 200 meters of my house. Can't come near my work. And can't be anywhere that i am or might be. If he is, I am to report it to the police. And he gets one opportunity to gather his belongings from my apartment, and it will be with a police escort, at my convenience. These conditions apply till he goes to court, which will be most likely a year + . I feel much more safe and comfortable now.

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Dec 21st, 2009, 19:41 PM	#24
Starbucket Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Toronto, ON Posts: 290	Im glad you are feeling more secure..that is good news.

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beatnick Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Hampshire UK Posts: 1,766	jail? WTF? there is me thinking he is just a bit of a b@st@rd! You are well out of that!

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