This is my story: I met a girl that was perfect. She had a kid from a relationship that I would son find out was recently over. We had a few hurdles to overcome but both of us were happier than we had ever been. We talked of marriage, kids, family, and everything. We then found out she was pregnant. neither of us could be more excited. We loved the news. We told our family and friends. We started looking at wedding rings. We started planning our future. We were completely into the pregnancy and the baby. Then she got nausea all day. Her body really started changing (6th week). She then started to become distant from everyone especially me. We spent all our time together until the ninth week. I then received a text telling me she was not happy and needed space (we had still been talking about the marriage the day before). The first day we only talked briefly. The second day not at all. She didn't even return my text messages. The morning of the third day she informed me she wanted to terminate. She says she is not happy and that is it. She does not want it. She can not think about anything because her head is a mess and she wants to get rid of the baby.

What should i do?? She says she loves me but does not want to hear what i feel. This is her decision and it is made and is final. I'm lost. I don't agree with this but i don't know how to approach her. Is there any hope? Could she have done it already in one or two nights of me not being around? Would I be able to tell?

First off...I'm sorry about your whole situation. That's terrible. I don't think it's right of her to make the decision herself. I wish i could be of more help. And i wish laws were different for situations like this. Good luck. I hope she'll listen to you before it's too late.

Sorry to hear about the situation you're in. I agree with baby.girl I don't believe it's her decision alone. Those are my thoughts anyway. I find that to be quite selfish of her especially since you want to be a part of her life and provide for her.

Unfortunately with pregnancy comes hormones. One day we're fine the next day we're evil, irrational monsters. Somedays we're both....several times. I can understand her confusion in it all. She may be concerned about future problems.

I'd really say sit down and talk to her. Unfortunately if she's ignoring you that could be difficult. She needs to know that you're more than willing to take on this child and that you will love her unconditionally.

I really truly hope that you can both solve this problem and live happily together. I'm sorry I couldn't be more help. Wishing you the best of luck!

I'm sorry about your situation.
But you shouldn't just let all of this happen right in front of your eyes.
Talk to her,make her explain.She is hormonal but you don't want to let her make a mistake that she will regret because of this.

There are obviously some other things going through her mind so you definitetly need to listen to her.

And the girls above me are right,it shouldn't be her decision only...

I am sorry to hear about everything you are going through.

Something bothers me and that it is the girl who can make the ultimate decision. They can make a decision to manipulate a condom in order to get pregnant to keep a guy (sore subject for me but my OH has been there....twice), they can make the decision to terminate, and on it goes.

It should not be her decision only to terminate the baby that you both have created. Yet, something is pulling her in that direction...hormones, fear, etc.

Having a baby is a life-changing event and one that can certainly bring uncertainty to the mother.

I hope that both of you can sit down and discuss this. Ending the life of a little baby is drastic and I'm afraid that she may feel even worse if she does go through with it. I've read many stories and the guilt remains for a long time, in addition to regrets and what-ifs.

Sorry to hear this the girls are right it shouldnt just be her decision thats really unfair, i really hope she will talk to you and you can work it out together. xx

I totally agree. It should be your choice too xxx

You need to get her to sit down and talk with you. You both need to understand how each other feel before anybody makes a decision.

All you can do is try to talk to her. Maybe she's freaking out a bit?? If she's had one failed relationship involving a child perhaps she's scared that things wont work out for you too - she's been burnt before??
Dont push her. Try to gently talk to her about it and try to work out what she's scared of.

x

Hun, bless you!!. This is a horrible thing for you to be facing...especially when this should be the happiest time of your life!.
Like everyone else has said, all you can do is talk to her. Let her know your there for her. Its not just her decision to make. As she is ignoring you, and families know, is there no way you could talk to her parents, or a friend and see if they'll talk to her.
I hope everything works out for you!.