Mervs Mum

My friend hadnt actually told me out right that she was pregnant but I'd pretty much guessed and last night she said she was off work this morning and would be emailing me this afternoon with an update.

Well she just emailed me and as suspected she was going for her 12 week scan but they have said the baby died at about 9 weeks......

Why? I dont understand. How can the baby just die? And she felt fine and there were no signs??? Sorry if I sound stupid but I cant get my head around it at all.

I feel terrible because I feel bad for her and now all I can think about is me and whats going to happen when I get my nuchal scan.

WHY???

Ann-Marie

Aw hun !! Thats really sad

I had a 'missed abortion' identical to that. I went for my 12 week scan, and the baby had 'stopped growing' at 9 weeks. It sometimes signal that the placenta hadn't rooted properly. I know that does't help.

You must be really worrying about what to say. Just be there for her, and let her lead any conversation, she'll talk when/if she's ready

niknaknat

Don't really know what to say hun but like Anne marie said all you can do is be there for her if and when she needs you. xxxxxx

Mervs Mum

She's only emailed me. she said she feels numb and will be in touch. I just said I dont know what to say so I wont say anything except that I'm sending love.

I just dont get it. I saw my baby's HB at 7 weeks and I felt so reassured but now I feel like the rug has been taken froim under me. I'm at work but I leave at 3 on a friday - its a good job coz I'm sat crying and I dont do crying at work.

Ann-Marie

All the symptoms disappeared for me from 9 weeks.....

You still have your symptoms.... sickness, tired................. Please don't worry

miel

oh lisa...i am very sorry for your friend but don't stress yourself , you are fine and your baby is fine i am sure of it you a very very good dear person nothing will happen don't worry to much.
sending you lots of love.

Vickie

I'm so sorry for your friends loss.

babezone

aww hun try not to worry to much....i know what you mean tho i gets scared.....is there nothing u can do to keep reasuring yourself.....maybe a doppler of ebay..but then i dont no how far gone u hve to be to hear it with one.....jus not try take it easy...sorry about ur friend hun thats just awfull xxx

elles28

I am so sorry for you & your friend

wishes

I just dont understand why that happens either... you just have to believe that everything happens for a reason i guess.

Youll be fine hun, please dont worry.