Dona

Your not being silly - its pretty normal to feel like this. I agree with the others in that you will be glad that you can share these times with your sis in law. My sister has only just had her baby in December and she's been a life saver with any questions I have as she has just been through it. I can't imagine how much better it will be going through pregnancy with someone else.

Gabi

I wouldn't say you're being silly. I've done it too. With my last pregnancy. Except people started announcing their pregnancies shortly after I'd m/ced.

Jealousy is a useless emotion that we could all do without yet somehow we all seem to fall back on it more often than advisable.

I'm dreading anyone coming and announcing their pregnancy. I've had my cousin telling me she's going to soon. (In a new relationship, just out of school, seems to think it'll be cool to fall pregnant, is running away from home, all rebellious etc) I have nothing wrong with it at all but it still annoys me a bit when she goes on about it as if the only reason why she wants to fall pregnant is to steal my thunder. It's all pretty silly in the end I suppose.

But we're pregnant! We're allowed to be irrational!

gde78

I'd feel exactly the same if my SIL announced a pregnancy now. It would be horrible, I would be gutted too. But like the others have said, it might be nice to share stuff and they will amuse each other at family 'do's' which is a good thing!

anita665

My step sister announced her pregnancy about a month after me and is due 3 weeks after me. I don't see my family that much but she's there every week so obviously she gets a lot more attention than I do but for me personally I don't care. When I was told she was pregnant I was shocked that it had happened for us both so close together but not worried about it. It's good having someone at a similar stage.

She on the other hand does always seem to act like it's a bit of a competition which can annoy me a little. She really relies on my family for support and I'm much more independant but she doesn't seem to understand that. One day I was visiting and every time I'd go to talk to my mum, she would drag her off for a private chat. She talked non stop about her pregnancy but quickly changed the subject if mine came up and even asked my mum to tell me not to talk about it. I'd hardly said anything anyway except reply if someone asked a question.

I hope this doesn't sound too harsh but pregnancy (for me at least) is an experience for you and your partner. It's not about getting attention from other people or being in the spotlight and it doesn't matter what they think.

Belle

Thanks all!!
I feel so much better about it today and it will be so nice 4 the babies to be so close in age!
I think it was shock yesterday and my hormones playing a big part!!
Thanks 4 all the kind words and advice.xxxxxxxx

bubbles

Same sorta situation here but completely opposite. I really don't get on with my sis in law so took great pleasure in announcing my pregnancy to my parents in front of her and my bro (I know it sounds harsh) there a a couple of reasons I did it. Firstly they tried to steal my thunder on my wedding day but bragging about how much money they were spending on theirs and how it was going to be bigger and better that ours. Secondly knowing how much I wanted a baby they rubbed it in that she had got pregnant without even trying or particularly wanting a baby and I was jealous for ages. But I know I would feel exactly the same as you if it was the other way round, it's not silly at all it's just human nature

Jules

My friend is having a baby and is due the day before me. Its actually quite fun, because we can share all our experiences and get advice from one another!

melbo

i would feel the same hun, dont worry.
xxx