When are you planning on telling people?

sunshine114 · Dec 1st, 2009, 13:32 PM

I'm 4+3 with #1, we were thinking of telling our parents soon, but now I am not sure... part of me likes it being our secret, but then the part of me that doesn't think it is actually real is thinking perhaps telling our parents would make it more real IYSWIM.

When are you planning on telling people? (people being parents.. not random people on the street...)

Crypto1976 · Dec 1st, 2009, 13:40 PM

I told my mum and dad (oh's are dead) at about 5 weeks. I think my mum suspected anyway by we are quite close and I felt guilty about sneeking off to the hospital and not telling them.

Even if something had gone wrong (or does go wrong) we would be telling them that anyway.

Plus my mum has started a big piggy bank where everyone is putting money they would have otherwise spend on xmas pressies into the piggy bank ( very very very kind I know!!).

sunshine114 · Dec 1st, 2009, 13:44 PM

Thanks, we are really close family, I am finding it quite hard speaking to mum on the phone at the moment, I am sure she suspects something is going on... Probably not expecting this though! And you're right, if something did go wrong that would be a worse thing to have to tell them if they didn't already know, the shock would be worse.

Now DH is held up at work I can't help but wonder if it is the universe telling us not to tell. AAArgh! I'm hopeless!

lauralora · Dec 1st, 2009, 13:46 PM

i told people today

sunshine114 · Dec 1st, 2009, 13:47 PM

Wow, bet that was exciting. Were people shocked or expecting it?

wannabemamma · Dec 1st, 2009, 13:47 PM

I'm early on at the moment (4+5) so not just yet, tempting as it is. I've booked at early scan for 7 wks, which will fall a few days before I go to see my family for Christmas. If all is as it should be we'll tell them then, then the famil-in-law the following weekend when we see them. We'll start telling close friends over the Christmas period as well if all is well.

In terms of work/the wider circle we'll prob wait until 12 wks. If I start getting quite poorly then I might have to tell select people at work earlier.

I'm getting so impatent though! A colleague is pregnant too, about 8 wks ahead of me. I'm finding it really hard not saying anything when chatting babies with her and my other colleagues as we're quite a small department.

lauralora · Dec 1st, 2009, 13:49 PM

everyone has been really supportive towards me, got lots of congratulations, godparent requests (lol) and people wanting to buy me baby clothes! its been lovely
theres always the odd jealous or bitchy people that you can tell arent happy for you, but apart from that its been a good day!

sunshine114 · Dec 1st, 2009, 13:50 PM

Just a couple of days ahead of me! I don't get scan for ages yet. I have app with midwife on 28th Dec, then they book the first scan for after that...

katy1310 · Dec 1st, 2009, 13:54 PM

We told our parents at 4 weeks, a couple of close friends at around 6 weeks and I told my boss today because I have to get away for yet another appointment this week! I was so nervous about telling her but she was so delighted for us and is now totally looking after me!! It's like having my mum at work! When I took some work up to her this afternoon she told me I've to email her instead and she will come to me, as we can't have me running up and down the stairs all the time! Very sweet. I knew she'd be happy for us but she has been even lovlier than I expected. She told me she wishes her son would get on and make her a granny

andresmummy · Dec 1st, 2009, 13:59 PM

Today I made it official on Facebook, but my immediate family was told sooner and first because I MCd last year, and just in case it happened again I wanted the support!

Dec 1st, 2009, 13:32 PM	#1
sunshine114 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Bristol, UK Posts: 1,872	When are you planning on telling people? I'm 4+3 with #1, we were thinking of telling our parents soon, but now I am not sure... part of me likes it being our secret, but then the part of me that doesn't think it is actually real is thinking perhaps telling our parents would make it more real IYSWIM. When are you planning on telling people? (people being parents.. not random people on the street...)

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Dec 1st, 2009, 13:40 PM	#2
Crypto1976 Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 2,820	I told my mum and dad (oh's are dead) at about 5 weeks. I think my mum suspected anyway by we are quite close and I felt guilty about sneeking off to the hospital and not telling them. Even if something had gone wrong (or does go wrong) we would be telling them that anyway. Plus my mum has started a big piggy bank where everyone is putting money they would have otherwise spend on xmas pressies into the piggy bank ( very very very kind I know!!).

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Dec 1st, 2009, 13:44 PM	#3
sunshine114 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Bristol, UK Posts: 1,872	Thanks, we are really close family, I am finding it quite hard speaking to mum on the phone at the moment, I am sure she suspects something is going on... Probably not expecting this though! And you're right, if something did go wrong that would be a worse thing to have to tell them if they didn't already know, the shock would be worse. Now DH is held up at work I can't help but wonder if it is the universe telling us not to tell. AAArgh! I'm hopeless!

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Dec 1st, 2009, 13:46 PM	#4
lauralora Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 3,860	i told people today

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Dec 1st, 2009, 13:47 PM	#5
sunshine114 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Bristol, UK Posts: 1,872	Wow, bet that was exciting. Were people shocked or expecting it?

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Dec 1st, 2009, 13:47 PM	#6
wannabemamma Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 804	I'm early on at the moment (4+5) so not just yet, tempting as it is. I've booked at early scan for 7 wks, which will fall a few days before I go to see my family for Christmas. If all is as it should be we'll tell them then, then the famil-in-law the following weekend when we see them. We'll start telling close friends over the Christmas period as well if all is well. In terms of work/the wider circle we'll prob wait until 12 wks. If I start getting quite poorly then I might have to tell select people at work earlier. I'm getting so impatent though! A colleague is pregnant too, about 8 wks ahead of me. I'm finding it really hard not saying anything when chatting babies with her and my other colleagues as we're quite a small department.

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Dec 1st, 2009, 13:49 PM	#7
lauralora Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 3,860	everyone has been really supportive towards me, got lots of congratulations, godparent requests (lol) and people wanting to buy me baby clothes! its been lovely theres always the odd jealous or bitchy people that you can tell arent happy for you, but apart from that its been a good day!

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Dec 1st, 2009, 13:50 PM	#8
sunshine114 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Bristol, UK Posts: 1,872	Just a couple of days ahead of me! I don't get scan for ages yet. I have app with midwife on 28th Dec, then they book the first scan for after that...

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Dec 1st, 2009, 13:54 PM	#9
katy1310 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: North East England Posts: 2,963	We told our parents at 4 weeks, a couple of close friends at around 6 weeks and I told my boss today because I have to get away for yet another appointment this week! I was so nervous about telling her but she was so delighted for us and is now totally looking after me!! It's like having my mum at work! When I took some work up to her this afternoon she told me I've to email her instead and she will come to me, as we can't have me running up and down the stairs all the time! Very sweet. I knew she'd be happy for us but she has been even lovlier than I expected. She told me she wishes her son would get on and make her a granny

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Dec 1st, 2009, 13:59 PM	#10
andresmummy Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 388	Today I made it official on Facebook, but my immediate family was told sooner and first because I MCd last year, and just in case it happened again I wanted the support!

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