Baptizing your Baby

venusrockstar · Nov 24th, 2009, 08:02 AM

Are you planning on having it done?

I was raised United and my hubby Catholic, but neither of us really practice our religion, nor do we attend church. We had a non-denominational wedding when we got married. His mother is VERY religious and I'm pretty sure she would be mad if we didn't have our child baptized, but I think it would be hypocritical to do so since hubby and I are not overly religious. I would rather just teach my child values and morals and let them choose their own religion later in life and make their own decision regarding what to believe in.

I just know that my MIL will be upset over this though...any thoughts?

AtomicPink · Nov 24th, 2009, 08:05 AM

My MIL will be upset if I dont get Alex christened - i have no religion, she'll be upset, the rest of her family will be upset but tough - its not her daughter. I'm not going to do it because someone else wants me to.

jess_smurf · Nov 24th, 2009, 08:05 AM

no we wont if they want to when they are older it the childs choice but we wont be doing it religion is not important for us at all

kaylynn040485 · Nov 24th, 2009, 08:08 AM

I am protestant and OH is catholic and again we do not practice our religion but we both felt it was important to have jessica baptised. Think its a personal choice but for me, i attended sunday school as a child and learned about god etc, nothing too deep and I wanted that for my child, to belong to a church but not particualrly any religion. I beieve that god exists so for me it was important to be baptised although i dont practice my religion iykwim! If u r unsure about baptism u could have a naming ceremony or blessing which is like a baptism but the parents do not make vows, which most churches offer as an alternative to a baptism Kx

Trix · Nov 24th, 2009, 08:13 AM

We'll be having our baby Christened into the Church of England, but that's just our personal choice.

Let it be the personal choice of you and your husband and don't feel that you need to make a decision just to keep other parties happy.

tinybutterfly · Nov 24th, 2009, 08:13 AM

we're both catholic, but not practicing catholics at all, OH says he's agnostic and i'm the atheist

the only reason i was baptized was so i wouldn't feel left out in school
and also because if you weren't baptized, schools tended to look down on you.

but that era has passed so we're not baptizing our kiddo, he/she can choose for herself later on

TrishyC · Nov 24th, 2009, 08:16 AM

My DH (who was born and raised in Italy) and I were both raised as catholics but neither of us attend church. Still, here in Italy, it is just assumed that you will baptise your children. So when we returned here from Australia we had DD baptised basically because they just all do it. My view was that because it was important to DH, then it was fine by me, cos at the end of the day, if you want it to mean something then it will, but it doesn't have to mean anything. My daughter is the same person baptised or not and I didn't feel it was worth the fight tbh.
However, I personally wouldn't do it to please a family member.

Jake_1 · Nov 24th, 2009, 08:22 AM

I had my son baptised, I'm Anglican and hubby has not been baptised and does not have a faith. We don't practise although my Parents still do, but I figured I would do it for him while he is too young to understand and when he is older he can choose to follow a religion of his choice or not. I guess in a way you could say we hedged our bets, just incase he needed it - if you know what I mean.

Do whats right for you, screw MIL's your going to piss them off somehow!

Good luck making a decision. x

TrishyC · Nov 24th, 2009, 08:30 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jake_1

Do whats right for you, screw MIL's your going to piss them off somehow!

Yeah baby!!

Eskimobabys · Nov 24th, 2009, 08:36 AM

some ppl say babies go to hell if not.But baptizing is a catholic thing, we I.e Christians dedicate our babies to the lord it is a just a little prayer thing you go up to the pastor….as far as babies going to hell not sure but the bible does say we are born into sin and no sin can enter the kingdom of heaven, I believe if your parents are saved when you are a baby if you die you go to heaven but if not I don’t know, God is God and man is fallen so I really am not too sure about the baby thing .

Nov 24th, 2009, 08:02 AM	#1
venusrockstar Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: CANADA Posts: 4,171	Baptizing your Baby Are you planning on having it done? I was raised United and my hubby Catholic, but neither of us really practice our religion, nor do we attend church. We had a non-denominational wedding when we got married. His mother is VERY religious and I'm pretty sure she would be mad if we didn't have our child baptized, but I think it would be hypocritical to do so since hubby and I are not overly religious. I would rather just teach my child values and morals and let them choose their own religion later in life and make their own decision regarding what to believe in. I just know that my MIL will be upset over this though...any thoughts?

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AtomicPink Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 19,121	My MIL will be upset if I dont get Alex christened - i have no religion, she'll be upset, the rest of her family will be upset but tough - its not her daughter. I'm not going to do it because someone else wants me to.

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jess_smurf Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Bury, Lancashire Posts: 3,806	no we wont if they want to when they are older it the childs choice but we wont be doing it religion is not important for us at all

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kaylynn040485 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Glasgow Posts: 4,874	I am protestant and OH is catholic and again we do not practice our religion but we both felt it was important to have jessica baptised. Think its a personal choice but for me, i attended sunday school as a child and learned about god etc, nothing too deep and I wanted that for my child, to belong to a church but not particualrly any religion. I beieve that god exists so for me it was important to be baptised although i dont practice my religion iykwim! If u r unsure about baptism u could have a naming ceremony or blessing which is like a baptism but the parents do not make vows, which most churches offer as an alternative to a baptism Kx

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Nov 24th, 2009, 08:13 AM	#5
Trix Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Surrey, UK. Posts: 382	We'll be having our baby Christened into the Church of England, but that's just our personal choice. Let it be the personal choice of you and your husband and don't feel that you need to make a decision just to keep other parties happy.

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tinybutterfly Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 3,903	we're both catholic, but not practicing catholics at all, OH says he's agnostic and i'm the atheist the only reason i was baptized was so i wouldn't feel left out in school and also because if you weren't baptized, schools tended to look down on you. but that era has passed so we're not baptizing our kiddo, he/she can choose for herself later on

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TrishyC Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Italy Posts: 1,346	My DH (who was born and raised in Italy) and I were both raised as catholics but neither of us attend church. Still, here in Italy, it is just assumed that you will baptise your children. So when we returned here from Australia we had DD baptised basically because they just all do it. My view was that because it was important to DH, then it was fine by me, cos at the end of the day, if you want it to mean something then it will, but it doesn't have to mean anything. My daughter is the same person baptised or not and I didn't feel it was worth the fight tbh. However, I personally wouldn't do it to please a family member.

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Nov 24th, 2009, 08:22 AM	#8
Jake_1 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 476	I had my son baptised, I'm Anglican and hubby has not been baptised and does not have a faith. We don't practise although my Parents still do, but I figured I would do it for him while he is too young to understand and when he is older he can choose to follow a religion of his choice or not. I guess in a way you could say we hedged our bets, just incase he needed it - if you know what I mean. Do whats right for you, screw MIL's your going to piss them off somehow! Good luck making a decision. x

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Nov 24th, 2009, 08:36 AM	#10
Eskimobabys Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 8,043	some ppl say babies go to hell if not.But baptizing is a catholic thing, we I.e Christians dedicate our babies to the lord it is a just a little prayer thing you go up to the pastor….as far as babies going to hell not sure but the bible does say we are born into sin and no sin can enter the kingdom of heaven, I believe if your parents are saved when you are a baby if you die you go to heaven but if not I don’t know, God is God and man is fallen so I really am not too sure about the baby thing .

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