should i tell my boss?

wanabamummy · Nov 16th, 2009, 16:08 PM

I work quite closely with my boss , and we have been doing some planning for next year.ie who does what and who is better at this type of job to make the department run smoothly as the company is expanding alot next year.

so one of the people she wants to get involved is pregnant (part timer). but she doesnt know it yet. plus i am pregnant as well. which is 2 people out of a department of 3 full time and 2 parttime. i am full time.

so the other lady is futher along than me and will annouce in a couple of weeks. by then i will be about 8 weeks. i know my boss is gonna have a heart attack so do i let her know that i am expecting too or wait till i come back from xmas hols in the new year to tell her?

i feel like i should to be loyal, and not agree to her plans knowing full well its gona completely change!! or should i just wait till my 12 weeks?

soooo confused.

clogsy90 · Nov 16th, 2009, 16:12 PM

i told mine as soon as i found out main reason being the safety aspect but they can't tell anyone and i figured if the did happen, god forbid then they would find out anyway as id end up off etc so it can't do any harm also they cant tell anyone so thts a plus

mrsbeanbump · Nov 16th, 2009, 16:18 PM

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Originally Posted by wanabamummy

I work quite closely with my boss , and we have been doing some planning for next year.ie who does what and who is better at this type of job to make the department run smoothly as the company is expanding alot next year.

so one of the people she wants to get involved is pregnant (part timer). but she doesnt know it yet. plus i am pregnant as well. which is 2 people out of a department of 3 full time and 2 parttime. i am full time.

so the other lady is futher along than me and will annouce in a couple of weeks. by then i will be about 8 weeks. i know my boss is gonna have a heart attack so do i let her know that i am expecting too or wait till i come back from xmas hols in the new year to tell her?

i feel like i should to be loyal, and not agree to her plans knowing full well its gona completely change!! or should i just wait till my 12 weeks?

soooo confused.

Hi!! I know its hard being a loyal employee and all but plans are going to change regardless of pregnancies etc so I think its totally up to you when you feel comfortable sharing your news (as long as it is before the legally required time). I've been in the same situation at work and I know what a nightmare it can be. I've decided to wait until after my company does pay reviews (end dec/beg jan.) or the first scan whichever is sooner. At least it sounds like you have a good relationship with your boss and she should hopefully understand your choices. Good Luck hun!

HayzalBean · Nov 16th, 2009, 17:09 PM

It depends entirely on your relationship with your boss. Your priorities have totally changed now and your baby is more important to you than your work next year, so don't feel disloyal to your boss. It's up to you and how you feel.

I also think that it is important that someone at your work knows about you being pregnant, so that if something happens (god forbid), then someone would be able to speak up and say you are pregnant. I am always worried that I will slip at work (I am a waitress), so my boss knows so should something happen to me he can tell the ambulance or whatever straightaway. I am just really over cautious with these things though, one of those people who always see the worst in every situation.

MommyAJ · Nov 16th, 2009, 18:11 PM

Speaking from an HR point of view, I say tell your boss ASAP. This will help in being flexible with job duties, scheduling dr. appts., etc. Your boss will appreciate you being forthcoming! Good luck!

wanabamummy · Nov 17th, 2009, 02:30 AM

i was hoping that i might get a pay review as well, so that would be good to get that in before i break the news as i wont get one after.

maybe i will break the news in a couple of weeks when the part timer breaks hers,i will be 8 weeks by then. that way both jobs can be assessed at the same time rather than 5 weeks later again....

Beadette · Nov 17th, 2009, 02:45 AM

I have told the office manager but not my own line manager yet. The office manager is a lovely woman and I told her just for the safety aspect - if something went off! She was so excited though she ran over the office and gave me a huge hug!!! Lol not telling my line manager until I'm a little further along!!!

Tudor Rose · Nov 17th, 2009, 02:52 AM

i told my team leader who was on duty i havent told my main manager yet but will do some time this week im only telling them due to health and safety as i work in a care home.

DebzD · Nov 17th, 2009, 05:34 AM

I am holding off from telling work as they are doing pay reviews in Jan and I have been promised (verbally) a raise and don't want them to find an excuse for this not to happen.
From a loyalty point of view, it's entirely up to you, if you don't think there would be any negative effects from telling your boss then why not! Work (well my bosses) are the only people that don't know!!

star2002 · Nov 17th, 2009, 09:48 AM

I told my boss just after learning the news. I hoped it would make life a little easier with app'ts and ms. I also do not want to put myself in an unsafe situation as my job is unpredictable.

Nov 16th, 2009, 16:08 PM	#1
wanabamummy AutoSignup (SAAB) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 973	should i tell my boss? I work quite closely with my boss , and we have been doing some planning for next year.ie who does what and who is better at this type of job to make the department run smoothly as the company is expanding alot next year. so one of the people she wants to get involved is pregnant (part timer). but she doesnt know it yet. plus i am pregnant as well. which is 2 people out of a department of 3 full time and 2 parttime. i am full time. so the other lady is futher along than me and will annouce in a couple of weeks. by then i will be about 8 weeks. i know my boss is gonna have a heart attack so do i let her know that i am expecting too or wait till i come back from xmas hols in the new year to tell her? i feel like i should to be loyal, and not agree to her plans knowing full well its gona completely change!! or should i just wait till my 12 weeks? soooo confused.

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clogsy90 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: lincoln Posts: 788	i told mine as soon as i found out main reason being the safety aspect but they can't tell anyone and i figured if the did happen, god forbid then they would find out anyway as id end up off etc so it can't do any harm also they cant tell anyone so thts a plus

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Nov 16th, 2009, 17:09 PM	#4
HayzalBean Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Essex Posts: 680	It depends entirely on your relationship with your boss. Your priorities have totally changed now and your baby is more important to you than your work next year, so don't feel disloyal to your boss. It's up to you and how you feel. I also think that it is important that someone at your work knows about you being pregnant, so that if something happens (god forbid), then someone would be able to speak up and say you are pregnant. I am always worried that I will slip at work (I am a waitress), so my boss knows so should something happen to me he can tell the ambulance or whatever straightaway. I am just really over cautious with these things though, one of those people who always see the worst in every situation.

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Nov 16th, 2009, 18:11 PM	#5
MommyAJ Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern California Posts: 37	Speaking from an HR point of view, I say tell your boss ASAP. This will help in being flexible with job duties, scheduling dr. appts., etc. Your boss will appreciate you being forthcoming! Good luck!

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Nov 17th, 2009, 02:30 AM	#6
wanabamummy AutoSignup (SAAB) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 973	i was hoping that i might get a pay review as well, so that would be good to get that in before i break the news as i wont get one after. maybe i will break the news in a couple of weeks when the part timer breaks hers,i will be 8 weeks by then. that way both jobs can be assessed at the same time rather than 5 weeks later again....

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Nov 17th, 2009, 02:45 AM	#7
Beadette Other BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Notts, UK Posts: 11,289	I have told the office manager but not my own line manager yet. The office manager is a lovely woman and I told her just for the safety aspect - if something went off! She was so excited though she ran over the office and gave me a huge hug!!! Lol not telling my line manager until I'm a little further along!!!

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Nov 17th, 2009, 02:52 AM	#8
Tudor Rose Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Cheshire Posts: 3,486	i told my team leader who was on duty i havent told my main manager yet but will do some time this week im only telling them due to health and safety as i work in a care home.

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Nov 17th, 2009, 05:34 AM	#9
DebzD Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Stockport/Hyde Posts: 667	I am holding off from telling work as they are doing pay reviews in Jan and I have been promised (verbally) a raise and don't want them to find an excuse for this not to happen. From a loyalty point of view, it's entirely up to you, if you don't think there would be any negative effects from telling your boss then why not! Work (well my bosses) are the only people that don't know!!

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Nov 17th, 2009, 09:48 AM	#10
star2002 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Ontario Posts: 313	I told my boss just after learning the news. I hoped it would make life a little easier with app'ts and ms. I also do not want to put myself in an unsafe situation as my job is unpredictable.

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