Younglutonmum

I know im meant to be wrighting in the 2nd trimester bit now but certain people in here always give me great advice so going to post my new dilemma here

Well as alot of you know ive had housing difficulties. im now staying with my dad up in London. This was just meant to be for a few months while I try & sort a place back in Luton. Last night my dad came into the room & said im more than welcome to stay here & have the baby. He said it's no problem what so ever.

So do i stay?

I do miss Luton & my friends. & im worried if my babys dad is serious about being involved with his baby (yes he's changed his mind again!!) How will he build a relationship with his baby. He doesnt drive & it will be expensive for him to travel up every weekend. My dad said he has messed me around anough & I need to stop bending over backwards 4 him. My dad said if Stu wants to be involved he'll just have to make an effort n not waste his money.

Also if I stay here my dad pointed out I can save loads more money as he doesnt want rent & then when the baby is a few months old I could maybe think about going back to Luton. My dad was saying because if Stu doesnt get involved maybe it would be best if I stayed in London away from him as Lutons only small n we're bound to bump into each other.

What you all think?

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leeanne

My opinion, I think you should stay with your dad for awhile. I don't think you need the stress of getting into the routine of your baby and finding a place after you deliver.

Give yourself time to adjust and then move on, if that's what you desire.

Your dad sounds like a wonderful guy and is being very supportive. In a way, I bet he doesn't want to see you go It gives him time too to be a doting grandparent

Younglutonmum

Yeh I think you're right.

Im just worrying about the babys father but if he really wants to build a relationship with the baby he'll have to make that effort I suppose. It's a true test of his loyalty I reckon

My dad has also decided he'd like to be my birthing partner. Bless him. Im not sure if I want him in there to be honest!!

leeanne

Quit thinking about baby's dad! This is about you and your baby.

If he has complaints afterwards that he has to drive to come see you, etc. well, tell him he better start financially supporting the baby then too.

OMG, that is so sweet of your father. Perhaps you should take him up on it. I bet it would be the most joyous occasion for him and it would be the best way to thank him for all he has done.

GemLou

Younglutonmum

I suppose it would be the most amazing way to thank him. He really is the greatest. I just don't think i'd feel comfortable though. I could probably have him in the room for some of the labour just not the final push. Oh I dunno!!

N I promise no more worrying about the babys dad
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leeanne

Trust me sweetie, all modesty goes out the window when you are delivering a child! Don't feel embarrassed, or whatever.

What you need is someone there who is supportive, who loves you, etc.

When I was in delivery for my first, I had my hubby, his mom and my mom. I was glad they were all there and truthfully, I could care not at that time what they saw. LOL

Thank god they were there because they gave my gynecologist hell a few times until the gynecologist finally gave up and said that I was going in for a C-section.

You need someone there who loves you, supports you and will stick up for you if need be.

Younglutonmum

I know ur right. Guaranntee when the time comes i'll be clinging on to my daddy 4 dear life

leeanne

Give him some joy and stick around for awhile and let him be there for you. It sounds like he loves you to pieces!

You also need comfort in knowing someone for sure will be there for you when you really need someone, like in delivery of your baby!

Younglutonmum

Woo i'm going to stay. All last night I was itching to get on the computer & get advice lol!!