salmynka

I'm not familiar with the social system over there but i am a mental health worker with some experience in situations similar to yours. Obviously i don't know all the details so i can't help massively.

I do know however that over here each pregnancy/birth would be assessed individually and the child wouldn't be taken away if there was any chance of supporting the two of you and keeping the baby with it's mother.

You were very young when you had your other children and it would appear that your situation has improved since then so I would try not to judge this pregnancy with the last two and try to be positive and fight your corner. You need to get an advocate which should be provided either by social services or by a charity. Your GP may be able to help point you in the right direction?

Try to keep positive and remember that you are in a different place this time mentally and emotionally.

xxx

shadowsilk

I am married and have 2 kids. I don't live with the kids??? I dont recall saying that...

shadowsilk

Thank you, <3

Tam

coccyx

Think Ann Marie is referring to post where you said your father had your 2 kids.

leeanne

I am confused as well. Here you said you lived with your husband and kids just found out.. my father wont be pleased and now you say your father has custody.

It's just a bit confusing.

In summary though, I hope that everything turns out well for you.

Uvlollypop

id complain and fight tooth an nail hun, if you are ok no there is no real reason why you cant fight to keep+get your other kids back.

just be aware that if you do fight it might bring up memorys for you and you need to make sure you and your husband are fully ready to take that on.


i hope it works out for you
x

shadowsilk

Oh well yeah I was sorta not thinking when I wrote im sorry the correct way of what I emant to say was" Im married, I have two kids" not Married living with 2 kids and hubby.. sorry

anita665

Hey.

I'm really sorry you're having such a rough time at the moment.

My step sister is in a similar situation to you, only maybe worse as she has 4 kids who were taken by social services and adopted to she can't even see them & has no chance of getting them back.

That was a year ago & she's now pregnant again (due 3 weeks after me). She's facing the possibility of them taking her baby as soon as she's born and if not then, possibly when she's a toddler. The whole family was really angry at her for getting pregnant again so soon after her kids were taken, not to be nasty but because they cared about her and knew how painful it would be to see her have to go through that again.

Just remember that however your dad reacts, it's only going to be because he's concerned for you and the baby. In this country I think that at times social services can be to hard on people but at the same time they can be really blind to situaltions where there help is really needed.

Like my step sister, all you can do is do your best to prove to them that you can care for you baby. I really hope it works out well for you and you have some support. Try not to let the situation bring you down too much or your just playing into their hands.

shadowsilk

Your;e right. tho the kids were taken almost a year ago
i hope i can cope, my father knows now and he took it okay, so hes not mad. and my husbands slowly easing up.