any one would think my OH was the one who's preggers, not me.
his been moaning at me since we found out. we planned this pregnancy, and was looking forward to it, until the positive test came back. ever since that test his been soo selfish.
I've lived on my own since i was 16, and pretty used to running my flat how I want too. Now he claims, the way i run my flat and life is wrong, and how will I be able to have a kid etc.
His now on this whole " i need to move, to where he lives, as he don't want no kid of his brought up in London" and " if i don't move he'll take the kid off me". his answers to everything is either " get rid or i'll take it off you"
He just makes me feel like a womb donator and that i'm not good enough to have his kid.
I've got my own place, money, great friends and family. I've always known we might not always be together, but i still want to carry on with this pregnancy, with or without him, but since his claimed he'll take the kid off me, i can't win either way.
he claims, that any court will pick him over me, cos his working and lives in a better area than me.

i'm soo scared, as I don't want an abortion, as i had one when i was 17 with my ex, and it really messed my head up, yet now it seems if i go through with this pregnancy , his going to take the kid off me
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Originally Posted by minimoo90 any one would think my OH was the one who's preggers, not me. his been moaning at me since we found out. we planned this pregnancy, and was looking forward to it, until the positive test came back. ever since that test his been soo selfish. I've lived on my own since i was 16, and pretty used to running my flat how I want too. Now he claims, the way i run my flat and life is wrong, and how will I be able to have a kid etc. His now on this whole " i need to move, to where he lives, as he don't want no kid of his brought up in London" and " if i don't move he'll take the kid off me". his answers to everything is either " get rid or i'll take it off you" He just makes me feel like a womb donator and that i'm not good enough to have his kid. I've got my own place, money, great friends and family. I've always known we might not always be together, but i still want to carry on with this pregnancy, with or without him, but since his claimed he'll take the kid off me, i can't win either way. he claims, that any court will pick him over me, cos his working and lives in a better area than me. i'm soo scared, as I don't want an abortion, as i had one when i was 17 with my ex, and it really messed my head up, yet now it seems if i go through with this pregnancy , his going to take the kid off me x

Hun, he sounds like a Class A cock! Excuse my language, but what an awful situation to put you in but he wont get the baby and his whole " I live in a better area than you " wont hold much water in a court of law. You said you have your own place, and money you sound like your really responsible and mature the court cant just take custody from you because of some idea he come up with on his lunch break and how old is he? Dont worry hun, you have your baby and you will be a great mummy xxx

No court would EVER allow him to just take the baby... especially if you plan to breastfeed.
There would have to be some extremely substancial reasons for him to get full custody of your baby.
He sounds like a mean, threatening drama queen to me, and you do not deserve that.
I wouldn't worry... just carry on and do what is right for you and your baby... even if that means going it alone.
It sounds like you have quite a support system behind you no matter what you decide.
Take care!

thank you soo much,
you'd be shocked to hear his 27 :s
you'd think at 18 i should be the one getting my knickers in a twist, but i'm chilled, because i know where i live is big enough for a baby, until it's atleast 3/4
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Originally Posted by minimoo90 Quote: Originally Posted by EternalRose Quote: Originally Posted by minimoo90 any one would think my OH was the one who's preggers, not me. his been moaning at me since we found out. we planned this pregnancy, and was looking forward to it, until the positive test came back. ever since that test his been soo selfish. I've lived on my own since i was 16, and pretty used to running my flat how I want too. Now he claims, the way i run my flat and life is wrong, and how will I be able to have a kid etc. His now on this whole " i need to move, to where he lives, as he don't want no kid of his brought up in London" and " if i don't move he'll take the kid off me". his answers to everything is either " get rid or i'll take it off you" He just makes me feel like a womb donator and that i'm not good enough to have his kid. I've got my own place, money, great friends and family. I've always known we might not always be together, but i still want to carry on with this pregnancy, with or without him, but since his claimed he'll take the kid off me, i can't win either way. he claims, that any court will pick him over me, cos his working and lives in a better area than me. i'm soo scared, as I don't want an abortion, as i had one when i was 17 with my ex, and it really messed my head up, yet now it seems if i go through with this pregnancy , his going to take the kid off me x Hun, he sounds like a Class A cock! Excuse my language, but what an awful situation to put you in but he wont get the baby and his whole " I live in a better area than you " wont hold much water in a court of law. You said you have your own place, and money you sound like your really responsible and mature the court cant just take custody from you because of some idea he come up with on his lunch break and how old is he? Dont worry hun, you have your baby and you will be a great mummy xxx thank you soo much, you'd be shocked to hear his 27 :s you'd think at 18 i should be the one getting my knickers in a twist, but i'm chilled, because i know where i live is big enough for a baby, until it's atleast 3/4 x

27..yeah I am shocked! He is an immature fool! But no, if your a good mummy which you will be the courts cant take the baby from you hun he is just trying to threaten you hun. He thinks because your 18 your naive but you sound quite mature to me, dont let him intimidate you hun xx

thank you..
i've sent him off to his mums, as i can't keep taking this crap, i suppose i expected him to be happy, as we planned this baby..but didn't get the reaction i wanted x

Yeah he sounds like he is being really mean, try and think about yourself and the baby now hun and dont let him get you down. He could be just going through shock of the pregnancy and may come round but it still doesnt mean he can treat you like crap, so keep your distance good on you for chucking his ass out! I wish i was as strong at you at 18 xx

Get rid of him. He sounds like an arse lol. Better to be alone and happy than with someone and miserable!!! xxx

Fair play to u hun, u sound like a very mature and sensible 18 year old and good on you for sending him off to his mums. i wouldnt have been that strong when i was 18 either!!

A court of law would never take your baby away because the father lives ina better area than u?!?! what a knob, sorry!!!! As long as u are capable of looking after your baby and can provide for it, the courts will always favour the mother, so please dont let him initimidate you with his silly little stories xxx

thank you

i'm soo confused..i'm going to look up on my legal rights, because i'm not letting him dictate to me, what i'm going to do with my body and life..
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