Hi Girls, just wondered how many of you were or have experienced this as well.
I have told all my closest friends about my pregnancy and my OHs family and they are all very pleased for us. Im just so worried about tellin my own family particularly my mom, Im just goin into my third year of nursing and will obviously need to take time out. I think my mom will be disappointed that I havent finished uni and im 21 and that its not the right time etc!!! I live with my OH and we are a very very happy couple and excited about the pregnancy! I just feel the fact I havent told my family is like a weight on my shoulders!
I have to hide scan pics, preg books etc when mom comes to visit.
Has anyone got any advice??? or anyone been in a similar sit?? I know i need to tell her soon as im startin to show and its gettin me down
sorry to rant on
thanks
xxx

Hi Hollie

I have had this situation with all three of my pregnancies. My parents reacted badly to my first pregnancy and asked me to do unspeakable things, it was horrible. The second time I told them they were fine. The only thing I can think of that made the difference is that the first time I told them over the phone and I acted ashamed of it, thus they thought I wasn't happy so reacted badly. The second time I told them face to face, inside I was a nervous wreck but I sounded confident in our decision to have another baby and they were fine.

I still haven't told them about this one, I'm trying to find the right time but I will definately do it face to face again. We are old enough to make our own decisions in life and I think even if they do react badly, they always come around eventually. If they are anything like my parents you won't be able to keep them away once he/she is here!

Good luck hun

i was the same hun, my mum had me when she was 17 so see's her self as a young mum still. (NOT A GRANNY) so i was so scared to tell her, she made me feel this way by saying things like our kel doesnt want kids yetto her pals ect, but i just rang her up and blurted it out, what else could i do she had to no i could not hide it forever. she was stunned at first but im nearly 23 now and have been with oh 6 years. we own or house and 2 dogs. a car each what only thing we didnt have together was a LO she is over the moon now and does nothing but shop for her lil grandaughter. spoilt little girl isnt even here yet. im sure you'll find the right time to come out and say it. and if it never seems like the right time just say it any way. she cant be mad at you forever, and when LO arrives she will be very smitten im sure.

i think your family will be fine, it may just take alittle while for it to sink in. try not to worry about it too much and if they do react badly at first try not take it to heart, they will come round. make sure you let your mom see how happy you are about this and how its a positive thing. good luck x

My mum wasnt happy when I told her I was expecting #1. I was 19, just married, no place of our own and I suppose as she was a young mum too she knew the pros and cons. Once she got her head round it and obv when Emily arrived she was exactly like every other dotting grandparent and she is probably the closest person to Emily after me. If they are funny then its probably only because they love you, but they will see how happy you are etc and they'll come round.
x

absolutely spot on

I don't have any advice as I was 31 when I had my first and knew my mom would be excited as heck.

But I do wish you luck. I've heard many stories that once the parents see the baby, there was no turning back. The grandparent in them came naturally

I am sure all will be well!

I agree with Leeanne. Once the babys here things change

My family went mad. My ex is only 18 n im just 20 so its not ideal but slowly n surely they're coming around to things. It's family at the end of the day!

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I'm in a similar situation.I live alone but I still have to tell my parents...who will react horribly and I don't even want to tell them...I'm still figuring out what to do with college but they will be upset because of the ''scandal''...it's really gonna be very ugly...

I think too that part and parcel of their reaction to a pregnancy is the fact that they, themselves, have to accept the fact that they are grandparents now. They feel more aged and they have to accept that too.