Can I do this alone?

louise85 · Oct 31st, 2009, 16:42 PM

Okay so this is the situation,

I am about 6+6, I haven't been with the FOB long he's however decided he doesn't want to be with me, although last week he wanted to try again!!

This week he is being so nasty 2 me saying he can't stand me and doesn't know anything about and doesn't want to either

I know he would be there for the baby, but he lives an hours drive away from me so most the time I would be on my own. I feel deeply for this man, its just not a mutual thing, he's basically said if it was his decision he would get rid of it, its not the right time or circumstances.

I already have one daughter from a previous relationship and just feel so confused and alone

lillprutten · Oct 31st, 2009, 16:45 PM

Mine also tried that one, it's not the right time, maybe in a few years time we could have an another one. Biggest lie of the century if you ask me.
Seems like a lot of men have been taking lessons how to make a woman consider and go thru an abortion.
Only you know if you can do it alone, I am going thru it alone.
I ordered a book about it about a week ago

louise85 · Oct 31st, 2009, 16:54 PM

I honestly want this baby so so badly, its just him putting these thoughts and doubts in my head!!

He says I'm not thinking realistically and that he'd only be around 2days a week, and whats so bad about abortion??!! I mean seriously, its not him that has to do it is it!!!

How are you getting on?? Has it got any easier?? Are you speaking to FOB??

Sorry million questions!! *hugs*

louise85 · Oct 31st, 2009, 17:17 PM

O my god he's just pissed me off even more apparantly this baby's going to have a shit life!! How dare he!!!

I am fuming!! Well looks like there's nothing to do but prove him wrong!!

lnic1970 · Oct 31st, 2009, 17:29 PM

he sounds like a right charmer!!! You will be far better off without him, honestly, you will find the strength!! Ive raised a baby on my own with a 7 yo at the time also, I wont lie it wasnt easy but id do it again rather than be with the wrong man or the other option..

Wishing you all the best and sending you loads of PMA!! Theres always someone here to talk to aswell

x

debgreasby · Oct 31st, 2009, 17:30 PM

You prove him wrong sweetie! How dare he? All I can say is, it's his loss!

You will do just fine on your own, you don't need him and his horrid words!

Personally I'd leave him to it for now, just get in touch if it's something important - ie scans etc.
We're all here if you want to rant, moan or ask questions.

Your baby will not have a shit life - he will because he will be the one missing out!

Jkelmum · Oct 31st, 2009, 17:33 PM

You can do this alone and you dont need him x

Jasa1911 · Oct 31st, 2009, 17:36 PM

Women are the stronger of the two! FACT! When we are dealt these situations we always find a way through!

Thats what my mum told me and she has been a single mum all of my life!

I think that as you already have one daughter you know deep down you are strong enought to do this!

wishing you the best of luck and if he so cold and calas as to say such hurtful things about you and his child- he doesnt deserve to even be a part of it in my opinion! A child is a sacred and special thing!
Take care chick and tell him where to shove his hurtful words till he can stand up and be a proper man and have a decent conversation about how he wants to actually be involved - rather than guilt trippin you into doubting yourself!

(Sorry ima but grotty today and it annoys me when I see women feel so low beacuse of a situation that actually took two!!)

Love and hugs xxxx

louise85 · Oct 31st, 2009, 17:38 PM

Thanx girls ur all so lovely!

I've just text him saying basically do what he wants, he's the 1 missing out and I ain't gonna chase him no more, its his decision.

I know it's not gonna be easy, but why should I deny my baby a chance at life just because their Dad's being like this, I think I will leave him alone now and let him contact me whenever that may be!!

I know it will all be worth it the end, he just makes me so angry!! Last week he wanted us to try again and was saying he couldn't wait to buy baby stuff and now this!! Does he expect me to change my mind as quicklyas him!! lol

xx

Shady_R · Oct 31st, 2009, 18:26 PM

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Originally Posted by louise85

Thanx girls ur all so lovely!

I've just text him saying basically do what he wants, he's the 1 missing out and I ain't gonna chase him no more, its his decision.

I know it's not gonna be easy, but why should I deny my baby a chance at life just because their Dad's being like this, I think I will leave him alone now and let him contact me whenever that may be!!

I know it will all be worth it the end, he just makes me so angry!! Last week he wanted us to try again and was saying he couldn't wait to buy baby stuff and now this!! Does he expect me to change my mind as quicklyas him!! lol

xx

Good on you, you dont need that going on, sounds like he needs a good kick up the arse. You can do this alone, it will be hard to start but you will get there. Hes so in the wrong for saying those awful things to you, I got told if you cant say something nice dont say anything at all, doesnt always work but I try lol.......Dont let him make you angry anymore, he may come round yet, given some time alone. But he deff is the one missing out so he be the one having a shit life.......

Oct 31st, 2009, 16:42 PM	#1
louise85 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Birmingham Posts: 1,377	Can I do this alone? Okay so this is the situation, I am about 6+6, I haven't been with the FOB long he's however decided he doesn't want to be with me, although last week he wanted to try again!! This week he is being so nasty 2 me saying he can't stand me and doesn't know anything about and doesn't want to either I know he would be there for the baby, but he lives an hours drive away from me so most the time I would be on my own. I feel deeply for this man, its just not a mutual thing, he's basically said if it was his decision he would get rid of it, its not the right time or circumstances. I already have one daughter from a previous relationship and just feel so confused and alone

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Oct 31st, 2009, 16:45 PM	#2
lillprutten Other Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 761	Mine also tried that one, it's not the right time, maybe in a few years time we could have an another one. Biggest lie of the century if you ask me. Seems like a lot of men have been taking lessons how to make a woman consider and go thru an abortion. Only you know if you can do it alone, I am going thru it alone. I ordered a book about it about a week ago
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Oct 31st, 2009, 16:54 PM	#3
louise85 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Birmingham Posts: 1,377	I honestly want this baby so so badly, its just him putting these thoughts and doubts in my head!! He says I'm not thinking realistically and that he'd only be around 2days a week, and whats so bad about abortion??!! I mean seriously, its not him that has to do it is it!!! How are you getting on?? Has it got any easier?? Are you speaking to FOB?? Sorry million questions!! hugs

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Oct 31st, 2009, 17:17 PM	#4
louise85 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Birmingham Posts: 1,377	O my god he's just pissed me off even more apparantly this baby's going to have a shit life!! How dare he!!! I am fuming!! Well looks like there's nothing to do but prove him wrong!!

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Oct 31st, 2009, 17:29 PM	#5
lnic1970 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: The Wee Toon, West of Scotland Posts: 660	he sounds like a right charmer!!! You will be far better off without him, honestly, you will find the strength!! Ive raised a baby on my own with a 7 yo at the time also, I wont lie it wasnt easy but id do it again rather than be with the wrong man or the other option.. Wishing you all the best and sending you loads of PMA!! Theres always someone here to talk to aswell x

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Oct 31st, 2009, 17:30 PM	#6
debgreasby Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Sutton in Ashfield, Notts Posts: 5,561	You prove him wrong sweetie! How dare he? All I can say is, it's his loss! You will do just fine on your own, you don't need him and his horrid words! Personally I'd leave him to it for now, just get in touch if it's something important - ie scans etc. We're all here if you want to rant, moan or ask questions. Your baby will not have a shit life - he will because he will be the one missing out!

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Oct 31st, 2009, 17:33 PM	#7
Jkelmum Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In my own bubble Posts: 17,575	You can do this alone and you dont need him x

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Oct 31st, 2009, 17:36 PM	#8
Jasa1911 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 802	Women are the stronger of the two! FACT! When we are dealt these situations we always find a way through! Thats what my mum told me and she has been a single mum all of my life! I think that as you already have one daughter you know deep down you are strong enought to do this! wishing you the best of luck and if he so cold and calas as to say such hurtful things about you and his child- he doesnt deserve to even be a part of it in my opinion! A child is a sacred and special thing! Take care chick and tell him where to shove his hurtful words till he can stand up and be a proper man and have a decent conversation about how he wants to actually be involved - rather than guilt trippin you into doubting yourself! (Sorry ima but grotty today and it annoys me when I see women feel so low beacuse of a situation that actually took two!!) Love and hugs xxxx

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Oct 31st, 2009, 17:38 PM	#9
louise85 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Birmingham Posts: 1,377	Thanx girls ur all so lovely! I've just text him saying basically do what he wants, he's the 1 missing out and I ain't gonna chase him no more, its his decision. I know it's not gonna be easy, but why should I deny my baby a chance at life just because their Dad's being like this, I think I will leave him alone now and let him contact me whenever that may be!! I know it will all be worth it the end, he just makes me so angry!! Last week he wanted us to try again and was saying he couldn't wait to buy baby stuff and now this!! Does he expect me to change my mind as quicklyas him!! lol xx

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