Okay I have just found out I am having triplets.

The bath in the house we rent has been leaking and is now fixed but the landlord is being a twat and won't send an electrician to check the light is okay in the ceiling as water was pissing through it and the carpet is sodden and starting to smell and is all warped and now water was obviously coming through the living room cos that carpet is wet as is the windowsill and it looks like it could go rotten.

I am starting to struggle at work as I feel so rotten and I am tired.

All my "plans" have gone out of the window, being debt free, learning to drive, starting all over with a new "fresh" life (and I feel selfish for admitting that) and the extra money I have from being debt free I will now have to save every month until I leave work as we need the cash!

My friend has just freaked my out by saying that nothing will ever be the same, what pram will I get? I DO need to learn how to drive as I will never be able to go anywhere with 3 babies, do we have the room? We need to start looking at moving house now.

We only moved in July and that was stressful enough, I can't deal with this. I want to run away and have someone else organise everything for me.

I feel totally selfish but I can't deal with EVERYTHING in one go and peoples advice ISN'T HELPING.

I know we need more money, more room and have to think about things NOW but I am dealing with enough, work, money, stupid fucking landlord as well as feeling like crap and like the walking dead.

I daren't take any more time off work, on the sick or not as I wouldnt want to risk being sacked for it (I know they COULDN'T but I would spend all my time off on the sick worrying rather than resting)

I'm sorry, I was okay til I got my friends ever so helpful advice. And now feel guilty that these babies will think I don't want them, when I do, I can just only handle one thing at once and don't appreciate people saying I need to do it all now, that stress will make me ill!

Oh hun im soooo sorry you feel so down
Congratulation on the fantastic news...

i felt a bit like you when i found out i was haveing twins 6 years ago yes it is hard but you will be just fine just take a step back and look at what you have for a mo and not what you dont have... when i found out i was expecting no 5 a few weeks ago i had comments like that from so called friend and not a congratulations in sight i was gutted but we are healthy and happy and we will be just fine and soo will you.

take care hun
sarah

Thanks hun.

I am not very good at handling stress at the best of times when it comes for waiting for stuff to be done ie the landlord to sort things out, if he just came and fixed it NOW that is fine with me, but I know life doesnt work like that.

I am no good at being patient and when a million and one things need sorting and they are endless phonecalls and arranging etc etc it stresses me out.

I was happy to deal with clearing my debt by Nov and then enjoying settling into being pregnant and now everything just seems to have come at once and peoples helpful advice, isnt helpful

xx

I don't think you need to start everything NOW. Maybe look into starting driving lessons. I know round here they do 10 hours for £100. You won't actually need to move until way nearer your EDD.
I know it must be really stressful (3 times as stressful as for the rest of us!) but maybe take everything one thing at a time and it'll seem a bit more manageable?
AND I can totally sympathise about the landlord. My boiler broke over a month ago, and my front door was kicked in by some drunk from upstairs (I know, it's a LOVELY building..) and he won't do anything

Aw sweeite *hugs* don't worry you don;t have to think about everything at once just do things in order as and when they need doing, take it all step by step and it will get done.

As for room, I have heard of people with triplets putting all 3 to sleep together in a single cot bed to start with, as some like to be close together. As for pushchairs there are options available although you may need to buy it from a specialist and have it delievered, here are some of the styles available, I'm sure you can have good fun looking at all the options futher into your pregnancy:



Firstly thou you need to prioritise - have a nice sit down and a cup of tea

Thanks honey

I like that first pram, that would be better.

Another friend told me you can get some prams that turn into car seats too. I will need to look at those.

oh sweetie im feeling for you so much, and with my new batch of angry hormones i seem to have got today i want to go and puch your landlord!!!!

you have every right to feel overwhemed right now, wat works for me wen i get overwhelmed is i give myself half an hour a day to worry and thats it. it sounds strange but it has worked for me in the past, i think maybe because if you tried to ignore your feelings of worry all together it would all build up. so i have that half an hour to figure things out, worry and i feel better for it afterwards. if that doesnt work for you or just sounds daft haha!! then i hope everything will works its self out and i hope u feel better soon x x x x

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you do realise if the landlord isn't doing the things he should be and keeping the place in a living standard and safe from faults then you are within your right too withhold rent payments too him? if you are ever unsure of anything about your lease or rent ect take your lease too citizens advice and have a chat with them xx

Thanks a lot

I want to be enjoying my pregnancy, not worrying about petty things when I need to "worry" the babies are okay!

xx