I am mis-carrying - dont want to live anymore - Page 3

Becky_Mummy2B · Aug 8th, 2009, 12:17 PM

Laura, if this is a miscarriage, it is not your fault. I am so sorry for what you are going through, and I am thinking of you x

sahara · Aug 8th, 2009, 12:23 PM

Please, please do not blame yourself. You could not have harmed yur baby - if you a re miscarrying it will be nothing you have done.

I am thinking of you at this difficult time xxx

sophxx · Aug 8th, 2009, 12:36 PM

if you are miscarrying its not your fault! my 1st preg ended in a mmc the consultant told me that if the baby is ment to be it will be once it starts showing weak heart beat or behind of growth that can indicate something wrong! dont blame your seldf hun!

so many people misscarry xx

twiggy56 · Aug 8th, 2009, 12:38 PM

Laura, i dont want to give you false hope or anything but it may not be a miscarriage, my mum (midwife) has had women coming in with exactly what you are describing and things have turned out fine. However if you are having a miscarriage then this baby wasn't strong enough and wasn't meant to be...i understand you must prepare yourself for the worst and its exactly what i would do in your situation.

This baby was not strong enough, its nothing to do with what you did, it is in no way your fault sweetheart, honestly. Many people have terrible sickness and their babies are healthy- so the bulimia cannot be the sole reason for this. You did everything you could...you will go on to have a baby when its right and healthy.

Please do not shut yourself off, you must talk though what you are feeling. You can make it through this and we are all here for you to vent your feelings and worries.

You are in my thoughts and prayers

xxxxx

Lauraaraa · Aug 8th, 2009, 12:53 PM

i knew something was wrong when they said the heart beat wasnt as strong as it should be. . . . it was dying then i now think

i hope that one day i can be pregnant again and have a happy healthy baby.

think i will just get on with doing what i did before, prob throw myself into the gym again, its the only thing that makes me feel better.

if the mis carriage is confirmed next monday will go to work on the tuesday and just forget about it

part of me honestly knew i was going ot mis carry think it was coz i didnt FEEL pregnant at all
just didnt feel that pregnant feeling or anything
when someone mentioned it i got angry coz knew it wasnt going to stay.

thank you all for your kind words.

Lauraaraa · Aug 8th, 2009, 12:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sophxx

if you are miscarrying its not your fault! my 1st preg ended in a mmc the consultant told me that if the baby is ment to be it will be once it starts showing weak heart beat or behind of growth that can indicate something wrong! dont blame your seldf hun!

so many people misscarry xx

yeaa mine showed a weak heartbeat the other week when i had the scan
wish they had just tld me then to expect the worst but part of me knew

just had a few more tears.

so hard

AshleyNichole · Aug 8th, 2009, 12:56 PM

how far were u?

Lauraaraa · Aug 8th, 2009, 12:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by twiggy56

Laura, i dont want to give you false hope or anything but it may not be a miscarriage, my mum (midwife) has had women coming in with exactly what you are describing and things have turned out fine. However if you are having a miscarriage then this baby wasn't strong enough and wasn't meant to be...i understand you must prepare yourself for the worst and its exactly what i would do in your situation.

This baby was not strong enough, its nothing to do with what you did, it is in no way your fault sweetheart, honestly. Many people have terrible sickness and their babies are healthy- so the bulimia cannot be the sole reason for this. You did everything you could...you will go on to have a baby when its right and healthy.

Please do not shut yourself off, you must talk though what you are feeling. You can make it through this and we are all here for you to vent your feelings and worries.

You are in my thoughts and prayers

xxxxx

hello

i think i am mis carrying bleeding stil not stopping must be getting everything out i dont know.

should have looked after myself but worried ALL the time

now look whats happened.

i wil stay positive, think it will be better after monday, when i know for sure and can get on with my life then.

prob go off the rails, ie get more tattoos piercing etc etc and over do the gym, i did that last time something in my life went wrong.
makes me feel better for a short space of time.

the piercings and tattoos i enjoy the pain factor side of not in a weird way just because i think i deserve to feel it, and feel proud when i dont flince.
i probably sound strange now

Lauraaraa · Aug 8th, 2009, 12:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AshleyNichole

how far were u?

not far about 6 prob 7 weeks last week

so was only a fetus still

AshleyNichole · Aug 8th, 2009, 13:05 PM

Sorry to hear that...

Aug 8th, 2009, 12:17 PM	#21
Becky_Mummy2B Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Bolton Posts: 1,224	Laura, if this is a miscarriage, it is not your fault. I am so sorry for what you are going through, and I am thinking of you x

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Aug 8th, 2009, 12:23 PM	#22
sahara Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 1,353	Please, please do not blame yourself. You could not have harmed yur baby - if you a re miscarrying it will be nothing you have done. I am thinking of you at this difficult time xxx

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sophxx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 6,506	if you are miscarrying its not your fault! my 1st preg ended in a mmc the consultant told me that if the baby is ment to be it will be once it starts showing weak heart beat or behind of growth that can indicate something wrong! dont blame your seldf hun! so many people misscarry xx

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twiggy56 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 7,795	Laura, i dont want to give you false hope or anything but it may not be a miscarriage, my mum (midwife) has had women coming in with exactly what you are describing and things have turned out fine. However if you are having a miscarriage then this baby wasn't strong enough and wasn't meant to be...i understand you must prepare yourself for the worst and its exactly what i would do in your situation. This baby was not strong enough, its nothing to do with what you did, it is in no way your fault sweetheart, honestly. Many people have terrible sickness and their babies are healthy- so the bulimia cannot be the sole reason for this. You did everything you could...you will go on to have a baby when its right and healthy. Please do not shut yourself off, you must talk though what you are feeling. You can make it through this and we are all here for you to vent your feelings and worries. You are in my thoughts and prayers xxxxx

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Lauraaraa Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: North East Posts: 2,954	i knew something was wrong when they said the heart beat wasnt as strong as it should be. . . . it was dying then i now think i hope that one day i can be pregnant again and have a happy healthy baby. think i will just get on with doing what i did before, prob throw myself into the gym again, its the only thing that makes me feel better. if the mis carriage is confirmed next monday will go to work on the tuesday and just forget about it part of me honestly knew i was going ot mis carry think it was coz i didnt FEEL pregnant at all just didnt feel that pregnant feeling or anything when someone mentioned it i got angry coz knew it wasnt going to stay. thank you all for your kind words.

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