hey everyone thanks for the insight....

....pretty much what i am/planned to do.......but i needed to know if there was any special things i should do....

....i have figured out that i am scared to touch the tummy....even though its only really a "dot" the now.....is this a normal reaction??

i've expressed my feelings and thoughts to my OH and ensured that she feels good.....should i be doing anything that would seem obvious to you lot that i have overlooked??? just scared that i mess up because i really want this to work out! i'm thinking months and months ahead is this normal?? the 1 biggest thing is that with every movement my OH makes i get worried! i feel like i am crowding her! is this normal???

I wouldn't know if any of that's normal because my OH is an ass . You sound like you have it pretty much figured. If she wants anything else I'm sure she won't be afraid to ask you

It sounds like you are off to a wonderful start. The fact that you are aware of the need to take care of her during this time is wonderful. You'll do great!

you'll get over the fear of belly touching. it took weeks for me and my boyf to get our heads around the idea. It even amde me feel quite queasy for a while, knowing there was a creature in there. But a few weeks on you get used to it.
My boyf has been brilliant since I've been pregnant, I can't stop telling people how great he is. And the one thing he does that really helps is really dull - house work.

I get so tired and sick, and he has done sooo much. Really, he cooks, tidies up after and doesnt mind while i lay on the sofa. The fact that he doesnt mind is the best thing. really, i felt guilty but i feel so sh*te that at times I cant face doing anything let alone keeping the kitchen clean.

So my advice would be to do as much aorund the house as is humanly possible!! And keep it up - i have been amazed at how much my DB has done without me having to ask him. a real knight in shining armour. I think he's proud in being able to say Whos the Dadddy and looks after me and baby!


OH - and to allow her to talk about baby 24/7 as no doubt she will want to!! get excited together.

Everythimg thats already been said, but I would add don't tell her you think she's making it up when she feels so rough, that didnt work so well for me!!

I love it when my Hubby does the dishes. I just don't have the energy to clean, especially when I'm tired and feeling nauseous after a day of work. Oh...and one of the other things that rocked was when he went out to find me vanilla soft serve one night when I was craving it and just NOTHING else felt like it would stay down ;-)

It sounds like you're on the right track...you'll be a great daddy!!

Being fussed over too much used to annoy me a bit, if I was carrying a bag my boyfriend and mum would tell me off! lol and I would say "it's just one bag". Don't get me wrong, it's lovely and sweet of them really.. but can get a bit annoying! so try not to overcrowd, just let her know you're there for her!

You sound like you're doing great and it's a normal reaction to be a bit unsure about the "dot" at first!

First of all I just want to say congrats. You sound sincere and caring. Like all the other posts said, I would just make her feel comfortable. Help out around the house (cleaning, dishes, laundry, etc....). Help her carry groceries in. Be patient with her, she may feel sick, irritated, tired and cranky. Give her space to be alone if she wants it. My hubby doesn't help around the house and that is one thing that I wish he would do, instead he makes messes and it makes me crazy. So I would highly recommend helping with house chores. I'm sure you will be very helpful. It's nice to see the men posting on here being supportive.