Spoke to my sister last night... or rather got lectured by her for 45mins:

You'll need this, you won't need that, you'll never cope without disposable diapers, I did this and my kid is fine, people who do that are stupid... I feel like an inadequate mom already and baby hasn't even been born yet

Anyone else have family members who are trying t take over?

I've spent all night up thinking about this. I know she is just trying to help so don't want to start a big fight. But I also want to do this thing my way and refuse to be bullied

Ouch, sorry to hear that. I've been lucky so far when it comes to family and advice, although I do have a good friend who insists on telling me what I should and should not be doing anytime I talk to her (she doesn't have kids and has never been pregnant), I just tell her I have to go. Luckily I live far enough away from everyone that I can hang up on them if it gets too bad.

Hope it gets better for you!

She is just trying to help. If youve had children before its actually quite hard not to offer up advise to first time mums especially when it comes to items they will/wont need or things that they could do that will make things easier.
Honestly I just think if you take it on board and remember she means well you will most likely find 99% of the advise becomes incredibly useful. Its also just advise, you dont have to follow it shes just giving you ideas for what she found good.

take it with a pinch of salt they mean well I am sure - I am digesting everything and when it comes to buying things / doing things I will see what info was helpful.

I think everyone just gets excited for you so they want to help - however what works for one person may not for the other.

just nod and smile !!!!

my sister kinda took over when i was pregnant last time around, she came to all my appointments with me and was there through the labour etc. I did appreciate everything she did, and to be honest if it wasn't for her the baby wouldn't of had things it really needed. However, it did annoy me when she went on one of her rants, 'you'll need to think of this when the baby comes' and 'you've only got 10 weeks to go is it not time you you thought about this..' grrr did my head in but i kinda felt she just had my best interest at heart.
This time around she is actually not very well herself and hasn't been able to drive or really leave the house so in a way i am missing all the attention i got last time around. I have a wonderful OH though who is doing his best to make up for my sister. The only annoying thing that she is going on about though is the fact i have a daughter with previous partner who has his name and now obviously due a baby with my current OH and he will have his name. So she says i need to think about the surnames for when they go to school!!! im like its years away and who cares what other people think!! family lol xx

Sorry to jump on this thread but for information my auntie (who is now 70 ) has three childeren all by different men and all with different surnames (she is also on her 4th husband bless ) there were lots of circumstances but her kids were not affected by having different names

Know what u mean im dreading telling my MIL as she will be even more over bearing than she is now! lol
Just remember noone is "telling" you what to do they are just "advising" lol. xx

when i was preg i did get unwanted advice i think every one does, you learn to take bits of advice and throw out some, but yes it is handy to have advice from people bout what you need and dont need cause somtimes you end up wasting your money on somthing you never use i didnt listen to my mother who told me that it's silly to get a bassinette because u only use them 4 a few weeks i went oput and brought one and used it for 3 weeks because bub kept rolling or getting her amrs or legs caught in the bars i think its good to listen to her advice just take what you need i think its a natural thing to want to give advice when you become a mother because its part of sharing your exspiriences and also she is probly excited to, also i remember disposibles being a godsend in those first few weeks last thing u need is washing lots of dirty nappies lol cause you need the sleep, hope i helped

Thanks for your advice everyone, it has brought me back down to earth - I know that my sis was just trying to help, and she is very VERY excited about this pregnancy and I should appreciate that. I guess it was just the way she said things rather than what she was saying that upset me. I'm also feeling a bit oversensitive at the moment, even though I don't want to admit it