my mood swings have been violent, and me and my husband have been fighting like cats and dogs for about a week now. and we've only been married for about 2 weeks. this pregnancy wasn't exactly planned but we weren't opposed to it. but now i'm feeling like maybe it was bad timing. the fighting is driving us apart. i'm excited about this new addition to my life, but the effects of being pregnant i think maybe be tainting our relationship.

any advice ladies?

I think that this could have happened at any time really, mood swings are part of the territory when it comes to pregnancy. You're quite early on so it's not uncomon but you should expect to see things getting better in a month or so. Until then, have you had a chat with him in your calmer moments? It might be a good idea to tell him that you don't hate him, you don't think all these things about him that you may say you do and that it's not entirely in your hands. So long as he knows this isn't what you and married life are really like then he should calm down himself.

That said, you can't blame hormones completely and you have to regain a bit of control. In future, when you're about to explode try leaving the room or making yourself a cold drink. Anything to distract you from the immediate rage, because, once you're a little calmer you can think much more clearly.

I threw DH's playstation 2 out the window so I might not be the best to dispense advice in this category....mood swings happen...i'm sure if our men had a human in their belly they would be a bit moody themselves so I don't even feel bad anymore!

If you know your being over the board catty try training yourself to not be, it takes practices lots of it. I was the BIGGEST B to my bf and always felt guilty after, also look on the bright side the mood swings might pass. Lots of luck hon.

I'm a guy, with a new wife (been together 11 years; recently married), now she's pregnant and going into her 6th week. I know that moodiness is common. Heck, it's expected, really. For my wife and I, since we found out we were pregnant, we felt it best for BOTH of us to quit smoking too. OMG Now there's some fireworks. The nice thing about our relationship though is, we have an understanding. She knows I'm going to be cranky about not smoking and I know she's going to be upset about the same thing, plus she has other issues to deal with. But the one thing that I've found that works the best to stop the fighting....a hug. It could be right in the middle of the worst battle, as long as one of you decide that the fight is fairly redundant, just hug and say, "I'm sorry for the way I'm acting, I love you."


What could it hurt to try? Arguements are part of marriage. Hugs are part of Love. Crankiness is part of pregnancy. And it's all part of Life.

My OH and I have been married for just over a year and we've never had a serious big argument, we get snappy over little irrelevant things but it never last more then it takes for one person to just smile at the other. Now though we have been a bit more snappy at each other, i get at him cause my hormones are going crazy which has him snapping back as he doens't like how he's being spoken to. I agree with Noisetest though, a hug and an 'I love you' even in the middle of it, is enough to calm us both down. and when I'm calm I constantly apoligise for being a moody cow.

I sat my husband down and explained to him that sometimes I just cant control my temper, or what comes out of my mouth. I said it would really help if he just put his arms around me.

This has worked so far although it tends to send me from anger to sobbing........which I think he prefers! It's probably much better for his safety too!!

Aw hun its totaly normal you'll get through it dont worry i was AWFUL to OH for 9 months when i iwas pregnant with charlie! we got married about 5 weeks ago so said he wanted to go away for 9 months because im awful pregnant but really once you both see that bump start to grow it'll make everything better :-)

I personally found the 1st tri the most difficult in terms of moods and emotions. Our pg was very much planned and we were over the moon and felt blessed when it finally did happen - but in it's own way it needed some time to sink. I can imagine if unplanned (although very much welcomed as you say!) it needs even a bit more to sink in - it is a pretty huge mental and emotional adjustment.

I was hyper alert as to what my OH was and wasn't doing during this time and in the end probably made things unecessarily worse for the both of us. Eventually we had a long talk about it and turns out he was actually also having quite a difficult time at work which I wasn't even aware of.
Since then things have more or less returned to normal and we are both together excited in anticipation of our son.

I guess what I am trying to say is that it's a lot to take on board, but things do "settle down". In the mean time try and sit down and have a really frank talk about it (to stop you feeling like to opposite poles existing in the same house!). And like the other ladies have said, although you are likely to be hormonal try and keep yourself somewhat in check (easier said than done - I know - but the hormones will subside/ level out eventually as well).

Good luck!!!

xx

My partner is suffering from a depression episode at the moment the stress of finishing his course and our surprise pregnancy is all a little bit too much for him, so were at the GP today.

if your mood swings are making you violent it might be worth your while going too, the stress of your marriage and this pregnancy might be a little more than your happy coping with too, and your DR may be able to offer some support.