Anyone have a husband who isn't being very understanding? - Page 3

Buffy71 · May 12th, 2009, 11:40 AM

Cillybean my hubby and I had the row to end all wars on Friday because he wouldnt order the pizza (friday night treat!) 10 mins early. I think when we need to eat at the mo, our bodies just SCREAM they need the food. There's no margin for waiting. My hubby just didnt get it that it wasnt about the food, it was about him not getting that I NEED IT NOW!!

Felt a bit guilty afterwards, but i dont think they get it unless we get really grumpy!!

Not very useful I'm afraid, but thought it might let you see you arent alone!
xx

magik71 · May 12th, 2009, 11:59 AM

This is really weird, it actually happened to me too. I mean my DH is very considerate, lovely but since we found out I am pregnant he said a couple of things I didn't like at all and he actually finished a phrase with: " you are pregnant not sick"

Well, it ended up with me closed in the bathroom crying my eyes out and I didn't speak to him for a couple of hours until I screamed at him that he was very immature and it should stop throwing the toys out of the pram

I know, I know, hormones!!! We never argue and he's so lovely normally

3xBlessed · Jun 6th, 2009, 19:42 PM

so glad I am not the only one...my DH actually said to me, "you're the one who wanted this" this morning when I was complaining about my morning sickness...p.s....it wasn't just me who wanted this it was both of us who tried for this for 5 months...he is just very insensitive and honestly doesn't believe any of my symptoms are real...added to that I had a lovely yeast infection that raged on for almost 3 weeks since you can't take anything during 1st tri for it!
They don't understand how bad the sickness can get and how worried we are that something will go wrong...they really have no idea what our hormones are doing to us either...to them we aren't showing so nothing must be going on...so dumb considering a human being is growing away inside of us!!!
Ah...feel a little better now that I ranted!
Hope it gets better for everyone!

cillybean83 · Jun 6th, 2009, 20:48 PM

oh hell no....did you hit him in the face with a frying pan?

Zeri · Jun 6th, 2009, 22:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Ryan's Mom

so glad I am not the only one...my DH actually said to me, "you're the one who wanted this" this morning when I was complaining about my morning sickness...p.s....it wasn't just me who wanted this it was both of us who tried for this for 5 months...he is just very insensitive and honestly doesn't believe any of my symptoms are real...added to that I had a lovely yeast infection that raged on for almost 3 weeks since you can't take anything during 1st tri for it!
They don't understand how bad the sickness can get and how worried we are that something will go wrong...they really have no idea what our hormones are doing to us either...to them we aren't showing so nothing must be going on...so dumb considering a human being is growing away inside of us!!!
Ah...feel a little better now that I ranted!
Hope it gets better for everyone!

Yeah, I don't think my DH 'gets it' either. To him, I look the same and am not having much sickness - so it's difficult for him to understand all the other changes I'm going through inside. Like feeling tired, having a lot on my mind, not wanting certain foods.... I don't think he'll really understand until I start to show a bit more. It's funny - men! It's like, ok - you look the same, so everything must be the same!

Chilli · Jun 7th, 2009, 09:10 AM

OMG how reassuring - have just had big fall out with Oh as was starving after swim so went to cafe. 2 yr old threw a "Mummy, Mummy" tantrum which he couldn't deal with so I had to, expecting him to order the food, he came back with a bacon & egg sandwich (I've been veggie for 22 years!!!) Result - got mad and came home hungry - I mean it's not bloody difficult is it!!?? A cheese sandwich!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He is becoming increasingly useless with pg and I cruelly told him to get some balls and start looking after me a bit!!! So, see, all your OHs don't know how lucky they are that they don't have this torrent of raging hormones to look after!

Buffy71 · Jun 7th, 2009, 09:15 AM

Oh my God!!! No wonder you lost the plot if he can't even get you a veggie sandwich!! What a twit. I'd have left him there!!! Xxx

3xBlessed · Jun 7th, 2009, 10:16 AM

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Originally Posted by cillybean83

oh hell no....did you hit him in the face with a frying pan?

I really would have loved to hit him with a frying pan but my 2 year old was there...froze him out and by dinner time he was willing to go to 2 different places to satisfy my food cravings and avoid my food aversions!!!

May 12th, 2009, 11:40 AM	#21
Buffy71 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: London Posts: 4,904	Cillybean my hubby and I had the row to end all wars on Friday because he wouldnt order the pizza (friday night treat!) 10 mins early. I think when we need to eat at the mo, our bodies just SCREAM they need the food. There's no margin for waiting. My hubby just didnt get it that it wasnt about the food, it was about him not getting that I NEED IT NOW!! Felt a bit guilty afterwards, but i dont think they get it unless we get really grumpy!! Not very useful I'm afraid, but thought it might let you see you arent alone! xx

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May 12th, 2009, 11:59 AM	#22
magik71 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Surrey Posts: 185	This is really weird, it actually happened to me too. I mean my DH is very considerate, lovely but since we found out I am pregnant he said a couple of things I didn't like at all and he actually finished a phrase with: " you are pregnant not sick" Well, it ended up with me closed in the bathroom crying my eyes out and I didn't speak to him for a couple of hours until I screamed at him that he was very immature and it should stop throwing the toys out of the pram I know, I know, hormones!!! We never argue and he's so lovely normally

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Jun 6th, 2009, 19:42 PM	#23
3xBlessed Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: New Jersey Posts: 65	so glad I am not the only one...my DH actually said to me, "you're the one who wanted this" this morning when I was complaining about my morning sickness...p.s....it wasn't just me who wanted this it was both of us who tried for this for 5 months...he is just very insensitive and honestly doesn't believe any of my symptoms are real...added to that I had a lovely yeast infection that raged on for almost 3 weeks since you can't take anything during 1st tri for it! They don't understand how bad the sickness can get and how worried we are that something will go wrong...they really have no idea what our hormones are doing to us either...to them we aren't showing so nothing must be going on...so dumb considering a human being is growing away inside of us!!! Ah...feel a little better now that I ranted! Hope it gets better for everyone!

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Jun 6th, 2009, 20:48 PM	#24
cillybean83 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 664	oh hell no....did you hit him in the face with a frying pan?

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Jun 7th, 2009, 09:10 AM	#26
Chilli Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Wilts Posts: 1,544	OMG how reassuring - have just had big fall out with Oh as was starving after swim so went to cafe. 2 yr old threw a "Mummy, Mummy" tantrum which he couldn't deal with so I had to, expecting him to order the food, he came back with a bacon & egg sandwich (I've been veggie for 22 years!!!) Result - got mad and came home hungry - I mean it's not bloody difficult is it!!?? A cheese sandwich!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He is becoming increasingly useless with pg and I cruelly told him to get some balls and start looking after me a bit!!! So, see, all your OHs don't know how lucky they are that they don't have this torrent of raging hormones to look after!

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Jun 7th, 2009, 09:15 AM	#27
Buffy71 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: London Posts: 4,904	Oh my God!!! No wonder you lost the plot if he can't even get you a veggie sandwich!! What a twit. I'd have left him there!!! Xxx

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