OK so I just wanted to get everyone's opinion on something. A tiny bit of background: My two best friends (they are sisters) who are actually no longer friends as far as I am concerned. We had a falling out about a year ago, and recently they have been in contact, emailing and seemingly trying to mend fences. I had been going through some rough times, and I made the STUPID mistake of telling them I was seeking therapy for some of the issues that had contributed to our falling out. Even though I was not entirely at fault for this rift, I spent a very long time blaming myself entirely, and have only realized the past couple of months that I am pretty angry at them too. Also stupidly, I told them that I was pregnant with the bean I ended up losing. When I had to tell them I lost it, I got the expected response, I'm so sorry, it must be hard, etc. Then one of them hit me with it. She says, "well maybe it will happen again when you're more ready to be a mom." Is she kidding? WTF?! All of this exchange has been via email, also, things have been too raw to communicate on the phone or in person. Then when I mentioned what she had said to her sister (the other former friend), instead of saying "oh, how thoughtless" she says, "well I don't know for sure, but she probably said it because (blah blah blah)" The blah blah blah being my issues. Even worse is that the beotch who said it is about to give birth herself in just a few weeks.

On what planet is that remark not HORRIFIC to say to someone who's just had a mc? And how could the other one not be horrified and actually attempt to justify it? I am pisssed.

That is horrible hun, I'm so sorry that they seem to have a lack of common sense on how to talk to people. Sorry for your loss, and your insensitive "friends".

I feel for you. There is no excuse for people who act like that. Dont let them get you down!!! You are the better person and time will show that.

Keep your chin up and concentrate on your family.... that is what I have to do!!

Thank you both. These two people are not my friends, and I finally blocked them once and for all. I have a lot better things to worry about than two idiots. Seriously there is no excuse for crap like this and I will not indulge their crap. Thanks all for letting me get this off my chest.

They sound like a right pair of numptys, dont get worked up over them.

i'm so glad you are back frippledip xxxxx

You dont need these people they arnt your friends concerntrate on you hun and dont get stressed they aint worth it xx

Oh yeah...OK so after the 1000th heated email exchange, I finally kicked them to the curb! Blocked their email and phone calls. It's amazing how judgmental and critical they are, and all the time I am supposed to be grateful because they are "such great friends to me." I do not need this in my life. I tried to be tactful and nice and tell them I wasn't ready to talk but she kept provoking me with unfounded assumptions. I told her I was pregnant again, meaning hormonal, but she couldn't let it be. Well i finally let her have it. This is a huge step for me, as I have been angry with them for a long time, and have known that a reconciliation is not going to happen. This is just the "therapy" I've needed. Thanks girls for listening. I try not to post off topic but I had to get this out.

Ugh they sound vile! Better off without em!

Aren't pregnancy hormones fab!! It is great to be able to say exactly what is on your mind without a second thought to how the other person feels - I NEVER say what's on my mind so am really enjoying my new found freedom.

I am sure that you have lots of friends who will be very supportive of your new bean and also won't stomp all over your feelings like this pair of no hopers.

Be strong honey, your bean clearly is!!

Believe it or not my boss said exactly the same thing after my m/c...and then kept on saying it everytime we had a meeting - it was like he was almost worried that we might be trying and he might lost out on a member of staff... unfortunately there are some prats around...i could tell you some horrific stuff thats been said to me!

Hope your ok
xx