Ok so i know this is not really a thread about my Pregnancy its more about my situation.

Me and my OH couldnt be happier that im pregnant

But we are engaged to be married next year, having a baby and he has still not moved in with me? He seems to keep putting it off. Im really hurt by this.

He wants to and has no problem commiting, but he is still living with his parents (he is 28) even though i have a house, we are engaged and having a baby, i dont understand??




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thats was meant to say 28 - twenty eight, it put a smiley on for some reason!!!

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Hi Alibeebs, have you talked to him about how you're feeling? Maybe he is just feeling a bit overwhelmed by all the things that are happening right now - sounds like such a lot is changing for you, and maybe he is just taking a little time to take it all in, which must be natural and not a sign that he doesn't want to move in. Hope you work it all out. Thinking of you x

Alibeebs - my OH didn't want to move in too quickly with me either; he did move in just before we got married; 2 & 1/2 years ago - we've been together 10 years this easter. My OH has just had his 45 b'day. So I'm not such his issues were an age thing. He'd moved out of his mum's years ago; and had not long moved back before we started seeing each other. I do know that my OH had been badly hurt by his ex, which I think is why he had such reluctancy to move in with me as he had only been with his ex 6 months when she told him she was expecting. He moved in and was there 2 years ish before thing fell to bits, it all ended rather messily. He'd slept on sofa there for a couple of years as he wanted to see his son; but things went from bad to worse and he ended up at his Mums. OH and ex still have a nasty relationship even now, neither talk to each other and it makes it awkward for everyone else; even his DS see's him so rarely as it all depends on if his Mum'll let him.

I'd do like Lucy Lu suggests and talk to him about it, there may be issues there that he's struggling with that may not even be related to you. OH said after he moved in he regretted not doing it earlier, wanted to see if we'd last longer. Most of the time we get on, but hey if you don't fall out you can't make up...

Good Luck and try not to worry...

The 8 followed by the ) is the smilie code for 8)

This is a lot of change for him all at once. We women have a tendency to want to nest when pregnant. Men don't necessarily feel the same way. We're hardwired different, so to speak. He isn't rejecting you, just taking baby steps he's comfortable with.

I dont think he has a problem committing - he wants to marry you and you are having his baby, but he is going to have to live with you by the time the baby comes....he cant expect you to live and run a house with a new bubba on your lonesome! Talk to him, and let him know how much this bothers you - I'm sure it will all work out in the end xxx