Any proof he is the father?? can he PROVE it??

Madeleine's sperm donner can't and i would DIE before that fucker came anywhere near my girl and Gav's name is on her birth certificate.

When you have him registered for his birth certificate the father HAS to be with you to consent having his details on the birth certificate, just don't tell hima nd leave the "father's name" box blank. you can change it at a later date.

The downside is that you can't get the fooka to give you money BUT you get a single eliment given to you by the child tax credits people (you WILL get this As soon as you have bubs, i believe you should get over £250 a month easy, and you also have child benifit and if your a single mother that can be paid to you weekly or fortnightly.

Sorry about you having to go through this.

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Hey hun, check out if there is a local Freecycle egroup in your area. I'm always seeing free baby stuff offered on my local group, from moses baskets and cots to baby clothes. Also, check out the local free ads, most baby stuff is only used once or twice and then either given away or sold on. It is very possible to buy what's needed for very little money.

Don't know what the law is in England, but up here in Scotland unless they are married a father can only be put on the birth certificate if he is there in person.

I know this wasn't what you were asking but I just wanted to say, fuck him.. if he is trying to make you look bad when you are going to be bringing up your baby alone, he sounds like a very selfish person if he doesn't want his baby to have somewhere to sleep.

Don't worry though, you will cope.. baby can sleep in a drawer or something if you can't get anything soon. Like Marley said, try freecycle, car boots etc..

Hope you're ok.

sorry but I think if you have a father that wants to be involved, and he has not shown any just reason why he shouldn't be involved in the baby's life, (violence etc) then I think you have to accept that he will see his child. There are so many dads out there who can't be arsed to see their kids, or are crap dads but if your ex can be a good dad then that has to be something?? To keep him out of your son's life because of spite is unfair on your son. I am writing this without knowing why you spilt up, so if it was because of violence etc then you do have every right to keep your son safe.

I thought you didn't want the moses basket at your house just yet, I remember you saying that on another thread? If he is going to be like that and won't provide for his son then he needs to grow up and realise that being a parent is about providing and being there 24/7. I would say to him that he can see his son, but only if he provides for him. The Courts would say something along the same lines.

I hope you get something sorted out.

I agree that he should see his son, every child has the right to know their family and if you prevent them from doing so then you can end up looking like the bad guy.

I agree with Beanie sorry hun, but in the long run its only your son that your hurtin sorry to be so blunt about it, again i dont know the history so if im wrong in sayin this im sorry!
Its just a simular thing is hapening with my Brother his ex is not lettin him see the girls an i can see how hurt my neice is its upsetting!
Hope things turn out for the best hun!
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I agree with Beanie, I dated a guy for a while who had a child, he wanted to be involved with the child, and was paying CSA, but the mother moved out of spite and refused him access, and never passed a forwarding adress to him and the CSA wouldnt give details, so he never saw his kid, despite wanting and active role.. you can't bring spite into an arguement involving kids it could back fire on you when they are older.
My ex died 3 yrs back from Leukaemia and now his son will NEVER have the chance to know him. I think you have to accept he will be there.

Charlie and Ethans dad is such a knob, we had a very bad marriage and when it eneded he told the kids he didnt love thema nd never wanted to see them again. they were really upset about it.
He was gone from there lifes for just over a year, then i met Jase and he decided he wanted to squeeze his way back in to the kids lifes.
I really didnt want to let him back, the kids called Jase dad and were happy and settled, but i knew if i said no, the kids might grow up to hate me for not letting them see there real dad, so i gave the decsion to them, and they choose to see there real dad once a week. They dont call him dad, but they do enjoy seeing him.

I know your little one cant make that descion, but i do think its best to allow the dad in to his life untill your son is old enough to deicde for himself

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