Special arrangements for labour?

Angel2Fire · Nov 13th, 2008, 18:34 PM

The hospital I plan to give birth at doesn't allow partners to stay with you once you've given birth, but because of my circumstances the midwife is arranging it so my partner can stay with me and so I can have a side room.

I was wondering how common it is for them to allow this, and if they are likely to actually do it, or just say "oh we can't do it when the time comes."

Has anyone else had special arrangements planned and actually got them?

Thanks x

Kimboowee · Nov 13th, 2008, 18:51 PM

Why wouldn't they not let him stay?
You live near me! Which hospital is it?

x

Angel2Fire · Nov 13th, 2008, 20:08 PM

Derby city. I just worry, cus I totally understand why they dont usually let partners stay and I do think its fair, but I just know I wouldn';t cope without him.

Blah11 · Nov 14th, 2008, 03:42 AM

They let them stay with you unless you get moved to a ward. Unless I'm thinking of someone else, don't you have a disability? That's maybe why they want to keep you in a littlelonger. Most women who have a 'natural' birth don't need to go up to a ward so the partners can stay until baby and mummy is ready to go home

helen1234 · Nov 14th, 2008, 06:12 AM

my best friend had her baby and derby city, she went upto the ward 4am and he had to go sit in the car till 7am how ridiculous, I'd have a word with the ward hun if you want him to stay get your midwife's support
x

enigma · Nov 14th, 2008, 09:54 AM

If they've arranged this for you, i can see them going back on it. You do have more complacated reasons for having him there and they should see this.
Hope all goes to plan. xxx

Ria_Rose · Nov 14th, 2008, 10:11 AM

As I understand it - my OH can stay with me until I am transfered from the labour ward to the maternity ward - at which point he can stay if it's during visiting hours. I think they like to move you onto the ward about 2 hours after the birth.

The reason he can't stay (even if we get a private room) is firstly that it is a secure ward and visiting hours are restrictive, and they don't have extra bed facilities, also its not very fair on the other Mothers on the ward to have a strange man wandering around.

Clairebear went to the same hospital and she said they were very good about letting OHs stay longer than hours allowed thou, so i'm hopeful.

If I have a straight forward birth I think they'll let me go home after 24 (for a first baby), but it could go up to a week for a c-section. I hope not as I'll be going out of my mind.

Shifter · Nov 14th, 2008, 12:44 PM

I don't know much about your circumstances Angel, but I think the best thing you can do is get your MW firmly on your side so she can support your request. Talk to a couple of different people at the hospital about these special arrangements, make sure a few people know about them so that whoever is on duty when the time comes knows the arrangements are in place.

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Originally Posted by Ria_Rose

If I have a straight forward birth I think they'll let me go home after 24 (for a first baby), but it could go up to a week for a c-section. I hope not as I'll be going out of my mind.

It probably varies from one NHS trust to another, but I'm fairly sure you can leave hospital as soon as 6 hours after the birth if it has all gone smoothly. They might not like to let you go that soon, but you can if you want. Friends of mine were very firm about their wishes and were allowed to leave that soon. That was near Norwich.

I'm not keen to stay longer than is absolutely necessary. It will depend what time it is when bubs arrives, but I can't see myself sticking around more than 12 hours! I will want to use my own bath and sleep in my own bed, not to mention get some decent food!

Blah11 · Nov 14th, 2008, 13:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Shifter

I don't know much about your circumstances Angel, but I think the best thing you can do is get your MW firmly on your side so she can support your request. Talk to a couple of different people at the hospital about these special arrangements, make sure a few people know about them so that whoever is on duty when the time comes knows the arrangements are in place.

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Originally Posted by Ria_Rose

If I have a straight forward birth I think they'll let me go home after 24 (for a first baby), but it could go up to a week for a c-section. I hope not as I'll be going out of my mind.

It probably varies from one NHS trust to another, but I'm fairly sure you can leave hospital as soon as 6 hours after the birth if it has all gone smoothly. They might not like to let you go that soon, but you can if you want. Friends of mine were very firm about their wishes and were allowed to leave that soon. That was near Norwich.

I'm not keen to stay longer than is absolutely necessary. It will depend what time it is when bubs arrives, but I can't see myself sticking around more than 12 hours! I will want to use my own bath and sleep in my own bed, not to mention get some decent food!

Thats the same policy here in Edinburgh. They let you go home if everything is okay with you and the baby, after you've eaten and maybe had a little sleep and after they make sure baby is eating and doing fine. I'm not staying in overnight unless I really have to.

Tegans Mama · Nov 14th, 2008, 14:33 PM

My baby was born in Jessops in Sheffield, and because my baby has Spina Bifida and would need to be taken away straight after birth, we were given a single room for the entire length of my induction (3 days for the first part, then went home, then went back when waters broke and had a c-section, then stayed in four days.) and after the baby was born, until I was discharged. We were classed as special circumstances because of the babies problems and the midwives knew it would be a hard time after she was born.

Hope you get what you want.

Nov 13th, 2008, 18:34 PM	#1
Angel2Fire Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Derby Posts: 811	Special arrangements for labour? The hospital I plan to give birth at doesn't allow partners to stay with you once you've given birth, but because of my circumstances the midwife is arranging it so my partner can stay with me and so I can have a side room. I was wondering how common it is for them to allow this, and if they are likely to actually do it, or just say "oh we can't do it when the time comes." Has anyone else had special arrangements planned and actually got them? Thanks x

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Nov 13th, 2008, 18:51 PM	#2
Kimboowee Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Derbyshire Posts: 9,445	Why wouldn't they not let him stay? You live near me! Which hospital is it? x

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Nov 13th, 2008, 20:08 PM	#3
Angel2Fire Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Derby Posts: 811	Derby city. I just worry, cus I totally understand why they dont usually let partners stay and I do think its fair, but I just know I wouldn';t cope without him.

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Blah11 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 32,873	They let them stay with you unless you get moved to a ward. Unless I'm thinking of someone else, don't you have a disability? That's maybe why they want to keep you in a littlelonger. Most women who have a 'natural' birth don't need to go up to a ward so the partners can stay until baby and mummy is ready to go home

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helen1234 Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Dudley Posts: 7,833	my best friend had her baby and derby city, she went upto the ward 4am and he had to go sit in the car till 7am how ridiculous, I'd have a word with the ward hun if you want him to stay get your midwife's support x

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enigma Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: northwest Posts: 1,768	If they've arranged this for you, i can see them going back on it. You do have more complacated reasons for having him there and they should see this. Hope all goes to plan. xxx

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Nov 14th, 2008, 10:11 AM	#7
Ria_Rose Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Swindon, UK Posts: 2,419	As I understand it - my OH can stay with me until I am transfered from the labour ward to the maternity ward - at which point he can stay if it's during visiting hours. I think they like to move you onto the ward about 2 hours after the birth. The reason he can't stay (even if we get a private room) is firstly that it is a secure ward and visiting hours are restrictive, and they don't have extra bed facilities, also its not very fair on the other Mothers on the ward to have a strange man wandering around. Clairebear went to the same hospital and she said they were very good about letting OHs stay longer than hours allowed thou, so i'm hopeful. If I have a straight forward birth I think they'll let me go home after 24 (for a first baby), but it could go up to a week for a c-section. I hope not as I'll be going out of my mind.

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Nov 14th, 2008, 14:33 PM	#10
Tegans Mama Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Sunny Derbyshire Posts: 12,026	My baby was born in Jessops in Sheffield, and because my baby has Spina Bifida and would need to be taken away straight after birth, we were given a single room for the entire length of my induction (3 days for the first part, then went home, then went back when waters broke and had a c-section, then stayed in four days.) and after the baby was born, until I was discharged. We were classed as special circumstances because of the babies problems and the midwives knew it would be a hard time after she was born. Hope you get what you want.

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