Bridesmaid dress for 37 weeks. Ack.

moose · Nov 5th, 2008, 17:43 PM

I am supposed to be a bridesmaid for a wedding in May 2009, I will be 37 weeks!

I am at a loss at how to order/what to order for the wedding.

The bride wants this dress, http://www.houseofbrides.com/product...cat=488&page=2, for the bridesmaids. I asked if I could have a dress that is floor length and she chose this one http://www.houseofbrides.com/product...cat=488&page=2.

I don't know if this is going to work.

I am a size 22 right now...I don't know if just ordering a regular dress will have the room for my tummy at 37 weeks. And if the above dress with the natural waist will work. I have shown her some dresses with empire waists but she wants me to match the other girls as closely as possible.

Can a regular dress just ordered larger work or will I need a maternity dress at 37 weeks?

Has anyone had to order a bridesmaid dress and go through this before?

Sweetie · Nov 5th, 2008, 17:52 PM

Unfortunately I told the bride that I wasn't comfortable with the idea when I was put in this situation. Mine was for 36 weeks though and I didn't think I was up for dealing with the stress of being in the actual wedding and we ended up both happier. I had a great time and really enjoyed the day and we made sure we got some fantastic photos.

malpal · Nov 6th, 2008, 02:42 AM

Hi hun, i was a bridesmaid about four weeks ago for my sister. I did have to have a maternity dress in the end, but did try and go for a normal 'bigger' dress. The problem i had was that when we approached the dressmaker about the alterations she was not happy at all to do it. She said to alter the dress she would have to take it apart at every seam and re stich a week before the wedding. Also the length wouldn't hang right as she would have needed to take more of the back than the front (to go over bump) and this totally effected the hang and empire line of the dress. So i had a maternity dress by alfred sung in the end. I know it would mean looking different from the other bridesmaids but tbh i would prefer that than not looking right in the dress. Sorry not sure i have been much help to you Good Luck xxxx

moose · Nov 6th, 2008, 03:23 AM

Thank you both.

I would like to be in the wedding party as we have been friends for 16 years (there are 6 of us).

Hmmm, that is what I thought about a normal dress. That they would have to completely take it apart to fit. I will talk to her more about this. Thank you, it is what I was thinking would happen.

Eek, well what happens happens eh?

Pyrrhic · Nov 6th, 2008, 13:54 PM

I think you're quite brave agreeing to be a bridesmaid when that heavily pregnant. I certainly wouldn't be able to manage and I imagine it could be quite hard on you. Even something like standing at the alter for 45 mins could be a challenge.

I hope you get something sorted with the dress. I know that this company do lovely dresses that will feel really comfy for you too http://www.tiffanyrose.com/maternity...s/dresses.html

NickyT75 · Nov 6th, 2008, 14:08 PM

I dont think it's very realistic of her to say you should wear a fitted dress when you are so heavily pregnant hun.

You have no idea what size you will be by the time the wedding comes around so you could end up buying a dress that simply wont fit you.

Maybe you could just opt for a lovely maternity dress nearer the time in a colour that compliments the other bridesmaids dresses but isnt exactly the same?
Im sure you will look lovely & much better in something which is designed for your pregnant body & the bride needs to think about comfort for you too xx

moose · Nov 6th, 2008, 14:39 PM

Eek, I would hope that it wouldn't be 45 minutes. It is a ceremony with a justice of the peace so hopefully she will just cut everything short.

I just realized, and she forgot to mention again that she wants us in three different dresses. One chinese, one vietnamese, and one bridesmaid.

Oh my goodness that Clementine dress on your link rafwife is to die for! I am in love, but it doesn't go up to my size.....or I would by it just bum around town in. So lovely!!

Well off to email her again.

Pyrrhic · Nov 6th, 2008, 14:48 PM

I'd say you will definitely need a maternity gown. Not only for the cut, but the fact that normal clothes are incredibly uncomfy to the point of sore when you're so big. I managed to buy normal clothes in a size up until I was about 25 weeks and have been in maternity things since. I think the cut of a maternity gown will be more flattering too.

PeanutBean · Nov 9th, 2008, 15:11 PM

I agree definitely need a maternity gown. The waist on that dress is simply not going to work over any 37 week bump. Ordering too big will only mean that the rest of the dress hangs off you. Your friend should be more reasonable and less anal about what people wear! It's supposed to be a wonderful occasion where you get to share in her special day, it's not about what dress you wear! You would be able to get an empire line style with a ribbon at the empire waist and a cross over top and in the same fabric as the style she has chosen and look just as lovely as the others that match!

Soon2be3 · Nov 9th, 2008, 22:32 PM

Im in the same Boat as you, Im Matron of Honor for a wedding on May 10th, Bad part, Twins are due May 8th. For my sake I hope they are born a bit early so Im up and moving. But For twins sake I hope they cook as long as possible.

My bride is alittle understanding but the dresses she wants, the dressmaker is talking her out of having me in the party

Let us know what you two decide

Nov 5th, 2008, 17:43 PM	#1
moose Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 335	Bridesmaid dress for 37 weeks. Ack. I am supposed to be a bridesmaid for a wedding in May 2009, I will be 37 weeks! I am at a loss at how to order/what to order for the wedding. The bride wants this dress, http://www.houseofbrides.com/product...cat=488&page=2, for the bridesmaids. I asked if I could have a dress that is floor length and she chose this one http://www.houseofbrides.com/product...cat=488&page=2. I don't know if this is going to work. I am a size 22 right now...I don't know if just ordering a regular dress will have the room for my tummy at 37 weeks. And if the above dress with the natural waist will work. I have shown her some dresses with empire waists but she wants me to match the other girls as closely as possible. Can a regular dress just ordered larger work or will I need a maternity dress at 37 weeks? Has anyone had to order a bridesmaid dress and go through this before?

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Nov 5th, 2008, 17:52 PM	#2
Sweetie Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Edmonton, AB Posts: 4,674	Unfortunately I told the bride that I wasn't comfortable with the idea when I was put in this situation. Mine was for 36 weeks though and I didn't think I was up for dealing with the stress of being in the actual wedding and we ended up both happier. I had a great time and really enjoyed the day and we made sure we got some fantastic photos.

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Nov 6th, 2008, 02:42 AM	#3
malpal Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Leicestershire Posts: 2,500	Hi hun, i was a bridesmaid about four weeks ago for my sister. I did have to have a maternity dress in the end, but did try and go for a normal 'bigger' dress. The problem i had was that when we approached the dressmaker about the alterations she was not happy at all to do it. She said to alter the dress she would have to take it apart at every seam and re stich a week before the wedding. Also the length wouldn't hang right as she would have needed to take more of the back than the front (to go over bump) and this totally effected the hang and empire line of the dress. So i had a maternity dress by alfred sung in the end. I know it would mean looking different from the other bridesmaids but tbh i would prefer that than not looking right in the dress. Sorry not sure i have been much help to you Good Luck xxxx

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Nov 6th, 2008, 03:23 AM	#4
moose Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 335	Thank you both. I would like to be in the wedding party as we have been friends for 16 years (there are 6 of us). Hmmm, that is what I thought about a normal dress. That they would have to completely take it apart to fit. I will talk to her more about this. Thank you, it is what I was thinking would happen. Eek, well what happens happens eh?

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Nov 6th, 2008, 13:54 PM	#5
Pyrrhic Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 14,567	I think you're quite brave agreeing to be a bridesmaid when that heavily pregnant. I certainly wouldn't be able to manage and I imagine it could be quite hard on you. Even something like standing at the alter for 45 mins could be a challenge. I hope you get something sorted with the dress. I know that this company do lovely dresses that will feel really comfy for you too http://www.tiffanyrose.com/maternity...s/dresses.html

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Nov 6th, 2008, 14:08 PM	#6
NickyT75 Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Cumbria Posts: 16,975	I dont think it's very realistic of her to say you should wear a fitted dress when you are so heavily pregnant hun. You have no idea what size you will be by the time the wedding comes around so you could end up buying a dress that simply wont fit you. Maybe you could just opt for a lovely maternity dress nearer the time in a colour that compliments the other bridesmaids dresses but isnt exactly the same? Im sure you will look lovely & much better in something which is designed for your pregnant body & the bride needs to think about comfort for you too xx

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Nov 6th, 2008, 14:39 PM	#7
moose Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 335	Eek, I would hope that it wouldn't be 45 minutes. It is a ceremony with a justice of the peace so hopefully she will just cut everything short. I just realized, and she forgot to mention again that she wants us in three different dresses. One chinese, one vietnamese, and one bridesmaid. Oh my goodness that Clementine dress on your link rafwife is to die for! I am in love, but it doesn't go up to my size.....or I would by it just bum around town in. So lovely!! Well off to email her again.

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Nov 6th, 2008, 14:48 PM	#8
Pyrrhic Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 14,567	I'd say you will definitely need a maternity gown. Not only for the cut, but the fact that normal clothes are incredibly uncomfy to the point of sore when you're so big. I managed to buy normal clothes in a size up until I was about 25 weeks and have been in maternity things since. I think the cut of a maternity gown will be more flattering too.

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Nov 9th, 2008, 15:11 PM	#9
PeanutBean Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: May 2008 Location: Greater Manchester Posts: 18,226	I agree definitely need a maternity gown. The waist on that dress is simply not going to work over any 37 week bump. Ordering too big will only mean that the rest of the dress hangs off you. Your friend should be more reasonable and less anal about what people wear! It's supposed to be a wonderful occasion where you get to share in her special day, it's not about what dress you wear! You would be able to get an empire line style with a ribbon at the empire waist and a cross over top and in the same fabric as the style she has chosen and look just as lovely as the others that match!

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Nov 9th, 2008, 22:32 PM	#10
Soon2be3 Pregnant (Expecting) Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Maple Ridge, BC,Canada Posts: 796	Im in the same Boat as you, Im Matron of Honor for a wedding on May 10th, Bad part, Twins are due May 8th. For my sake I hope they are born a bit early so Im up and moving. But For twins sake I hope they cook as long as possible. My bride is alittle understanding but the dresses she wants, the dressmaker is talking her out of having me in the party Let us know what you two decide

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