Grrrr people scaring me

Angel2Fire · Oct 9th, 2008, 15:16 PM

I have a friend who has 2 kids and she's been telling me things like 99% of women have to be cut in the vaginal area whilst giving birth and it means your sex life will never be the same again. and that your nipples go darker and larger and never go back to how they were.

I'm prepared for my body to change but she's freaking me out with all this stuff.

Angelmouse · Oct 9th, 2008, 15:36 PM

That kind of scare mongering when you're so early on is really miserable.

Things do change but not always so dramatically. Pay no attention.

Charlotte-j · Oct 9th, 2008, 15:39 PM

just ignore her, ur body will change but not like overnight lol and will eventually go sorta back to how it was, not exactly the same but u can get close

and not that many people have to be cut, for example me and 7 of my friends had babies and only one had to, unless i know all that 1% taht it dont happen to - which i doubt lol, just ignore her hun

Lilipop · Oct 9th, 2008, 15:41 PM

Well after 4 kids I never got cut and only tore with number 4... and my nips are the same now as they were before! So

to her!

Younglutonmum · Oct 9th, 2008, 15:43 PM

I think your friend is abit of a drama queen hun!!

It was only the other day I read that being cut in labour is less common than people think. People seem to think it happens all the time though because they hear horror labour stories & only remember these ones!!

As for your nipples, well mine are perfectly normal after having Maya & if anyone says otherwise, i'll whip them out for all to see!!

Dragonfly · Oct 9th, 2008, 15:47 PM

I hate when poeple go on about the labour. No one says anyting good that I know apart from its terrible and that they dont know how i will get through it. i would like to tihnk I was stronger than that and that i am not that scared of it as it would be an end to throwing up constantly for 9 months and worrying about what i eat and baby etc.

I think if no one tells you about the horror things like nipples you will be ok if you get them. mine are like dinner plates no only no one said that to me so I dont care but hopefully they do go back to smaller ones after but i aint worried.

Loads of woman have done it and its natural thats what i keep thinking and it just means your stronger for it.What ever you do dont be looking at air brushed celebs after they have had babies they are photo shopped and have the money for costmetic surgery and its false. Real women look like crap lol

Jem · Oct 9th, 2008, 15:51 PM

Don't listen to her! I had to be cut and I was fine, I haven't altered in anyway in that area I can assure you! And your nipples will be fine too, mine haven't changed! x

v2007 · Oct 9th, 2008, 16:25 PM

Ignore her, scaring you when ur so early on is just stupid. Every pregnancy, labour and delivery is different.

v X X

mummymadness · Oct 9th, 2008, 18:22 PM

Some women will say anything to scare ..
My nipples went dark but went right back to normal afterwards , I was cut and it isnt nice but its there and its ok .
Every one is different hun . xx .

Logiebear · Oct 10th, 2008, 02:49 AM

Some women do scare just for fun. I suppose knowing the worst isn't too bad as long as you keep it in perspective. Like other have said, yes you could end up being cut but it is not very likely and your nipples do change but they only really stay darker etc if you breast feed. Your body will change in little ways and you will notice little difference after you have had your baby but these things aren't obvious to others and aren't awful thingd. For example I had never had a spot in my life until I had my first baby and then after that I was quite prone to having them. Not a big deal!

I hope you don't let people scare you off hun, some ladies just want to watch others squirm and like I said knowing how bad it can get is not a bad thing but keep it in perspective xxx

Oct 9th, 2008, 15:16 PM	#1
Angel2Fire Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Derby Posts: 811	Grrrr people scaring me I have a friend who has 2 kids and she's been telling me things like 99% of women have to be cut in the vaginal area whilst giving birth and it means your sex life will never be the same again. and that your nipples go darker and larger and never go back to how they were. I'm prepared for my body to change but she's freaking me out with all this stuff.

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Oct 9th, 2008, 15:36 PM	#2
Angelmouse Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Suffolk UK Posts: 2,139	That kind of scare mongering when you're so early on is really miserable. Things do change but not always so dramatically. Pay no attention.

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Oct 9th, 2008, 15:39 PM	#3
Charlotte-j Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: ipswich Posts: 3,098	just ignore her, ur body will change but not like overnight lol and will eventually go sorta back to how it was, not exactly the same but u can get close and not that many people have to be cut, for example me and 7 of my friends had babies and only one had to, unless i know all that 1% taht it dont happen to - which i doubt lol, just ignore her hun

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Oct 9th, 2008, 15:41 PM	#4
Lilipop Trying to conceive (TTC) New BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: From UK, Live in Texas! Posts: 7	Well after 4 kids I never got cut and only tore with number 4... and my nips are the same now as they were before! So to her!

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Oct 9th, 2008, 15:43 PM	#5
Younglutonmum Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Luton Posts: 3,157	I think your friend is abit of a drama queen hun!! It was only the other day I read that being cut in labour is less common than people think. People seem to think it happens all the time though because they hear horror labour stories & only remember these ones!! As for your nipples, well mine are perfectly normal after having Maya & if anyone says otherwise, i'll whip them out for all to see!!

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Oct 9th, 2008, 15:47 PM	#6
Dragonfly Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: N.Ireland Posts: 13,133	I hate when poeple go on about the labour. No one says anyting good that I know apart from its terrible and that they dont know how i will get through it. i would like to tihnk I was stronger than that and that i am not that scared of it as it would be an end to throwing up constantly for 9 months and worrying about what i eat and baby etc. I think if no one tells you about the horror things like nipples you will be ok if you get them. mine are like dinner plates no only no one said that to me so I dont care but hopefully they do go back to smaller ones after but i aint worried. Loads of woman have done it and its natural thats what i keep thinking and it just means your stronger for it.What ever you do dont be looking at air brushed celebs after they have had babies they are photo shopped and have the money for costmetic surgery and its false. Real women look like crap lol

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Oct 9th, 2008, 15:51 PM	#7
Jem Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Leicestershire Posts: 4,444	Don't listen to her! I had to be cut and I was fine, I haven't altered in anyway in that area I can assure you! And your nipples will be fine too, mine haven't changed! x

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Oct 9th, 2008, 16:25 PM	#8
v2007 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Trendy Morecambe Posts: 24,528	Ignore her, scaring you when ur so early on is just stupid. Every pregnancy, labour and delivery is different. v X X

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Oct 9th, 2008, 18:22 PM	#9
mummymadness Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Lincolnshire Posts: 7,558	Some women will say anything to scare .. My nipples went dark but went right back to normal afterwards , I was cut and it isnt nice but its there and its ok . Every one is different hun . xx .

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Oct 10th, 2008, 02:49 AM	#10
Logiebear Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Manchester, England Posts: 3,516	Some women do scare just for fun. I suppose knowing the worst isn't too bad as long as you keep it in perspective. Like other have said, yes you could end up being cut but it is not very likely and your nipples do change but they only really stay darker etc if you breast feed. Your body will change in little ways and you will notice little difference after you have had your baby but these things aren't obvious to others and aren't awful thingd. For example I had never had a spot in my life until I had my first baby and then after that I was quite prone to having them. Not a big deal! I hope you don't let people scare you off hun, some ladies just want to watch others squirm and like I said knowing how bad it can get is not a bad thing but keep it in perspective xxx

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