Anja

I dont know what to do. My husband and I are seperating but he would still like to be at the birth. I just dont want him there as I dont want to be under any more stress than I have to be......BUT.....neither do I want to take this most precious, wonderous moment away from him....the birth of his child.

WHAT DO i DO?????

rae05

Let him come in after. Don't have him there when you're pushing or in labour. Just let him be waiting outside so you don't have to deal with him and he won't stress you out.

Beltane

Send him a video! That way he can still experience it without hovering over you.

nikky0907

I would honestly advise you to let him be there.

Ii am also not with the father of my child but I am definitely letting him be at the birth.
It is a magical moment,for him to see his child being born and holds him for the first time.

And it may not even cause that much stress for you.Maybe his support while you're in there actually helps...
If not,just think about how wonderful it is that you guys shared this moment together if nothing else...

Well,thats my advice.

Rach & Bumpy

ah hun, what a hard decision for you to make.

I think it is a good idea for him to be there at that magical moment his baby is born, but to be honest, if it were me i think i would feel uncomfortable about him being in that same room with me.

If you are parting on good terms then it seems a good idea to let him be there... gosh i'm confusing myself now.. such a big decision

((hugs)) maybe wait a little closer to the time and see how you feel then hun

missjacey44

If it was me i would still let him be there, just tell him not to do/say anything thats going to make me more stressed!! I think its still nice if you both share the moment when your baby comes into the world even if your not together!

Anja

Thank girls....I really do appreciate all the opinions on this one!!!!

xXDonnaXx

Personally I wouldn't want him there, Because it would feel awkward... but I would feel abit cruel for not letting him see the birth of his son/daughter. It also depends on what terms you're on, if it's good terms, then I'd let him. If you're on bad terms, then I wouldn't. Just my opinion hun. x

enigma

I think id let him be there, but id give him conditions to obey of course, like "you are not allowed to touch me, you have to be quiet and remember im capable of breaking your neck when im so much pain" and so on.
It wouldent really be fair to make him miss the birth of his child.
Plus when its happening, if he pisses you off, you could always punch him to make your self feel better lol.

leeanne

My OH and I separated a month before our second child was due. He wanted to be at the delivery, and in part I didn't, but I allowed it. It is his child and I truly believe he had every right to see his son being born.

Yes, it was awkward but at the same time, the dad has rights too.

We did get back together 4 months after.