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biteable · Jul 10th, 2008, 16:08 PM

you have got to do what ever is best for you hun,if it makes you feel uncomfortable then ask him to wait outside,i was with the father of my 1st and he made me feel worse than what i felt already so he was madee to wait outside,the 2nd baby my b/f was there and he was great just seeing his face made it all worthwhile,your body your choice,you may change your mind once you actualy start,good luck with your decision xx

Blob · Jul 10th, 2008, 17:27 PM

Maybe say to him that you'd like to let him be there but if it gets too much ask him to leave the room for a while but get the midwife to get him in just before baby is born? Must be such a hard decision Good Luck!!

o0oCharlieo0o · Jul 10th, 2008, 17:32 PM

maybe you should speak to him and tell him how you are worried it will be stressful him being there, and ask him if he really wants to be in there or if he wants to wait outside, you might be suprised he may just want to wait outside anyway, but i personally wouldnt stop him coming in if that is what he wants because it is the mans baby to and i wouldnt want that right taken away from me so i wouldnt do it to the man, however its your choice hun do what you want to do

PeanutBean · Jul 10th, 2008, 18:13 PM

I would tell him it concerns you, allow him to be at the hospital (or wherever) and come in right after so he can greet the baby. But maybe see how you feel at the time about him being in the room. Either you could call him in or you could start off with him there but ask him to leave it began to make you feel uncomfortable.

babymello · Jul 10th, 2008, 19:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Anja

I dont know what to do. My husband and I are seperating but he would still like to be at the birth. I just dont want him there as I dont want to be under any more stress than I have to be......BUT.....neither do I want to take this most precious, wonderous moment away from him....the birth of his child.

WHAT DO i DO?????

Just let him be there to share that experience too.

Mello

dizzy65 · Jul 10th, 2008, 19:26 PM

yeah dont let him in when ugive brith but let him in when it is all over and done with.. You can do with out the added stress... and maybe tell him how u feel too or something.. because u guys arent a couple any more...

Anja · Jul 11th, 2008, 07:23 AM

head f*ck!!!
I would let him be at the hospital.....no question about that so he could see the new little person as soon as they were born.....as for the rest????? I just dont know! I will try and forget abouty it for now and concentrate on N moving out and then I can go back to it again later.
Thank you all SOOOOOOO much for your input!!!

cuddles314 · Jul 11th, 2008, 07:55 AM

I think it's difficult for you to decide that at the moment, you need to see how things are between you nearer the time.
Maybe you could call him in just for the final stage, so he can be there for the actual birth, without causing you too much strss before hand?
xx

stefb · Jul 11th, 2008, 08:50 AM

let him come in as your pushing as you probably wont realize hes there at that point that way he still sees bubs being born

Sarah88 · Jul 11th, 2008, 08:54 AM

I agree with those who are saying that if you're on good terms then let him be in there. It is ulitmately your decision and you shouldn't be swayed by whatever he says. However if you guys are friends then he might be of some use to you in the room just for some extra support.

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