Okay- I want to preface this with saying that I feeling incredibly blessed and thankful that I am pregnant with a healthy baby boy. I truly am. I already have one little boy and I know that they'll be great pals and have a great time growing up together...at least I hope. I also realize that many people try and try to have children and struggle with it and we had no problems either time...that too is a blessing.

This is the problem...
I find myself kind of mourning the fact that I am not going to ever have a daughter of my own. I want to stop thinking of it, but it keeps creeping back up on me. We are 99% sure we are done after two. It's not that I want this little guy to be a girl, guess I kind of wish we could have one more, but there are no guarantees we'd have a girl anyway. Two in daycare is going to break the bank and just can't fathom having three in daycare. Also, I am getting up there in age and think that this is enough for my body. How do I not think about what I am missing without a girl and just stay focused on my boys. It probably didn't help that I was talking to two ladies at work with only boys. Their boys are much older and they both told me that the desire to have a daughter is still ALWAYS there for them. I don't want to be like that 20 years from now!!

I don't think it is horrible to want a girl. I think you would have a different kind of relationship with a little girl as opposed to a boy, and as a women, you want to experience a mother-daughter relationship. It does not mean you charish your little boys any less. I just had a boy, and I really hope my next one is a girl. I am very close to my mom, and I really want to share that kind of relationship with a daughter.

That's exactly how I feel. I too am close to my mom and want the same. BUT, it obviously isn't in the cards for me, so how do I get over it? I feel so guilty that I feel this way as I am pregnant with this little fella!!

I don't think you should feel bad at all. I would Love a little girl and now I'm pg I want a girl even more! We have decided not to find out the gender until birth as I think that the shock and surprise of any baby will make me be glad its here regardless of a girl or boy.

The thing to remember is that no 2 people are the same. For example my mum thinks girls are soooo easy compared to boys, but my MIL thinks girls are sooooo difficult compared to boys - she is completely devoted to her son, while isn't fussed as much by her girls (sad isn't it?).

the thing is that you'll be a brilliant mum to 2 wonderful boys and who knows - you can't always plan and schedule children that easily.........

Please stop feeling guilty x

I don't know hun, I guess just give it time and work on it being something that you accept. That, and pray for wonderful daughters-in-law one day!

Dont feel bad.....I really really really really want this baby to be a boy and lots of people try and make me feel bad by saying "be grateful you have a baby" and "lots of women cant have babies" .....Obviously i am grateful and im not saying that i wouldnt want it if it is a girl and i will love it no less but I cant lie - I do have a preference!

You are normal to feel like this and you never know....you may decide after all that you would like a no. 3!

Thanks!! I am really struggling with this, but know I just need to let things come as they may. Perhaps I'd drive a daughter too batty or something!! I love my boys - I really do. I just don't always want to feel like I am missing out on something.

Thanks again for your responses. This isn't something I share with more than my OH.

I don't think that's awful at all.

Also, think it's worth mentioning that you don't know how you'll feel in a couple of years time - if you feel like there is a space in your family for another little one maybe you could look at adoption? Just something to consider in the future maybe xxx

I know how you feel. I have a 3 year old son and we hopefully find out the sex of this baby on wednesday.

I keep telling myself that this one is a boy aswell, just have a feeling it will be.

Its a horrible thing to say and i haven't admitted this to anyone, not even my OH but i will initially be a little disappointed if its a boy.

Although when i think about it, it will be so much easier if it is a boy, i know how to look after a boy, i know what boys like and dislike.

I haven't a clue what girls are into!!

I think its human nature to feel some disappointment.

But I know that if it is a boy, i certainly won't be trying for a girl!! Two LO's are quite enough for me!! LOL

There is nothing wrong with feeling bad. Ideally everyone wants a little boy and a girl, I know I want both.

Boys and girls each have a special relationship with each parent, and having a daughter that you can spoil as a baby, do girl things like hair and makeup etc, is very special. Its something that you wont have with a boy.

I know my SO wants a little boy one day. We are going to try 3 times... And after that I "may" have convinced him to adopt! LOL