Moulder86

Ok some of you may know from other threads my ex has said he won't be at the birth and probably won't be around much if at all afterwards.

I'd still like his family to be involved and to a certain extent I think they do to, I want to do a scrap book for bubs and need some photos from his side of the family so thought I'd text and ask him but just want to run my text past someone first.......

'Probably a strange question but I don't suppose you could ask your mum if shes got some photos of ur side of the family I could have? I'm doing a scrap book for bubs and I would still like your half of the family to be in it, i'd just rather pass it by you 1st than ask your mum for them.'

Do you think I've gone into it too much or should I just send it?? I'm a crap decision maker.

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Gabi

Well I don't know much about the story or your ex but that sounds fine to me.

It's polite, straight to the point and isn't intrusive.
If he takes offense and gets all wierd about it then he's immature.


You could also word it as such:

"I'm making a scrapbook for bubs and I'd like your family to be included. I want to ask your mom for some photos of the family I can have. Just running this by you. Is this ok?"

Same thing really.. Just different wording

Moulder86

Thanks Gabi, I'm rubbish at wording things as well I have a tendancy to say things the long winded way so thank you for that.

Just because he isn't interested doesn't mean that my baby shouldn't know anything about his side of the family and he's going to know my ex's lil boy (his ex wants him to know his brother, if that makes sense) so at the very least having photos of the rest of his family I thought would be a nice idea. Sorry I'm babbling now, being on my own all day makes me think about things too much.

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Gabi

No problem. I think it's wonderful that you want your baby to know the whole family. Alot of people wouldn't allow that.

Moulder86

It's not my babys fault and it's not my ex's fmaily either it's just Rich who's being a twat! x

moomin_troll

Sounds fine to me! Personaly i wouldnt even text him and go straight to his mum but im a bitch lol

Moulder86

Yea well I would but I want to try an keep him onside a bit just incase he does change his mind about knowing our son. x

thelilbump

sounds good to me. Polite and to the point. and if he doesn't respond or is arsy he can't say u didn't try

moomin_troll

your a better perosn than i am if my partner n i split and he said he wouldnt be at the birth or much if any after id well kill him lol but seriously id just say fine and cut him out n if he changed his mind he could beg me. But i would still let his family be involved

Moulder86

Well I text him and good news he said it shouldn't be a problem I can text or he can ask her on Saturday when he sees her. I said I'd rather him ask so she knows I've asked him first. x