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Jun 28th, 2008, 13:52 PM
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| You poor thing, I'm 33 weeks and I can't iron more than 1 or 2 things at once simply because I can't stand longer than that without being in pain.
Don't let it get to you too much, try and explain to him that this is universal amongst pregnant women all over. |
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Jun 28th, 2008, 14:11 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | Maybe you should show him some of our ramblings? Feel free to tell him I've done nothing at all since my sickness started. (I think I already posted the sum total of my housework before). That my DH has done everything as well as work long hours and that he still wants to give me cuddles and says he's fine and that I'm working harder making the baby.
I'm sorry to say it and I'm sure he is lovely otherwise but he is being selfish about this. My husband's shirts haven't been ironed this whole time, he hasn't time so he just wears them creased! lol You mustn't let him feel that you are the one being lazy or selfish because it's the other way around.  |
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Jun 28th, 2008, 14:15 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | I've tried telling him that It's painful to stand which is why he said to sit down. I appreciate he does pretty much everything including working long hours but I'm 9 months pregnant for God's sake! He just tells me I'm being dramatic about the pain. |
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Jun 28th, 2008, 14:19 PM
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Originally Posted by bexy_22 I've tried telling him that It's painful to stand which is why he said to sit down. I appreciate he does pretty much everything including working long hours but I'm 9 months pregnant for God's sake! He just tells me I'm being dramatic about the pain. | Did you try my suggestion about kicking him in the balls? Maybe when he's lying down so you can then kick him in the back. That might be comparable pain right? |
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Jun 28th, 2008, 14:26 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling: |  I do tend to be a bit dramatic sometimes but I'm seriously not about this! In bed I have to wake up everytime I want to turn over because I have to hoist myself over because if I go too quickly it hurts twice as much! Grr why can't he be more understanding?? |
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Jun 28th, 2008, 14:35 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | I don't agree with his acting out but in all fairness he's probably shitting himself. Your are about to have his baby!
It sounds to me as if he's transfering his anxieties about the birth process onto you. He's saying things like, "if you can't handle this then how will you handle the birth?" In order that you feel some of his worries about it. He obviously has some control issues as well which are going to be challenged with the new arrival and he's feeling frought, poor love.
Not that I'm condoning his behaviour at all for I also would kick him I the knackers. I'm just playing with the Devil's Avocatt is all making a snowball or too. MMMmm. I wish I could drink. *drools*  |
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Jun 28th, 2008, 14:39 PM
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Originally Posted by Angelmouse I don't agree with his acting out but in all fairness he's probably shitting himself. Your are about to have his baby!
It sounds to me as if he's transfering his anxieties about the birth process onto you. He's saying things like, "if you can't handle this then how will you handle the birth?" In order that you feel some of his worries about it. He obviously has some control issues as well which are going to be challenged with the new arrival and he's feeling frought, poor love.
Not that I'm condoning his behaviour at all for I also would kick him I the knackers. I'm just playing with the Devil's Avocatt is all making a snowball or too. MMMmm. I wish I could drink. *drools*  | Angelmouse, I've noticed you often have remarkably insightful posts. What's your secret? Are you a psychologist?! |
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Jun 30th, 2008, 14:58 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | Just a student of life honey.
I do have an interest in psychology but usually it's directed at dream interpretation. |
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Jul 2nd, 2008, 22:27 PM
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Originally Posted by Angelmouse Just a student of life honey.
I do have an interest in psychology but usually it's directed at dream interpretation. | Well you often seem to hit the nail on the head! |
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Jul 3rd, 2008, 14:55 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | Thanks Honey.
I'm actually thinking of taking a Psychology course once Bubble has arrived and settled in. I'm just freestyling atm, checking out online articles and things.
I have to be honest it's really given me a boost that you picked up on it and I'm now more determined to go ahead with it. I'd been umming and erring for ages so I just wanna thankyou for that.
Hey whattaya know; I'm going back to school!  |
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