mBLACK

Just wondering what everybody's thoughts are about this. I must admit I did this on occasion, my OH and I split up when I was about 7 weeks along. Now anything sexual with anybody feels wrong, but I did 'slip up' a couple times before.
Everybody else's thoughts?

leeanne

TBH, if I was separated from OH and was pregnant I wouldn't sleep with anyone else.

First of all, knowing I was pregnant and that in itself would make it feel wrong.

Secondly, knowing I was pregnant with another's child, would make it feel wrong.

These are only my thoughts and feelings as to what I would or would not do.

I just couldn't be sexual with anyone at that time and would definitely wait it out until after my child was born. Even then, a mother's attitude comes into effect and I just couldn't sleep with anyone unless I had been dating for quite awhile and knew it would lead to a more serious relationship.

rae05

Ohhhh, if you only knew how many times I have debated/wanted to do this. But I can't bring myself to.

mBLACK

I know what you mean by the mother's attitude part, it wasn't really 'real' for me until I felt my baby kick for the first time! After that I refused to have any sexual contact with anybody/anything. Not toys, not touching, nothing!
Before that I did sleep with somebody who wasn't my baby's daddy and boy do I regret it now, I feel my body is like a sacred space for me and my baby - it just didn't seem real at the time!

leeanne

Well, you have to think about even after you have your baby and as that child grows up. What will they learn from a mother who has a one night stand?

I look at my OH's ex. She has 3 kids from 3 different fathers. She is 37 and has no one. Why? Imagine the guy who starts to date her. It would be more accepting if she had 3 kids by one father, but what does a guy think by seeing three kids from three different fathers?

What do those kids learn?

The other ex has violent relationships. What does that child learn from those relationships and the child is a boy?

leeanne

To elaborate as I did go off-topic slightly is that starting while pregnant to make the best choices for yourself will go a long way to ensure the child will learn love and "right" relationships later on.

mBLACK

That's true, I always beat myself up for it now cause I feel bad! I let myself get pulled in by men sometimes, especially since this was a guy I have loved for a long long time..

leeanne

Men can be manipulators, that's for sure. So can women.

Always remember though that it's your baby who is more important now and whatever you do your child will be watching you with big eyes and learning from you.

mBLACK

Yeah I try to remember that all the time! I try not to swear now too.. don't want my son to pick up bad habits! My mom also has kids from 3 different guys, mind you I love my brother and sisters but whew.

leeanne