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Younglutonmum · Jun 25th, 2008, 21:42 PM

I personally couldn't have sex with anyone while i'm carrying another mans child but I don't think it's wrong to do so

I've been on a few dates as a heavily prego woman & they've done me the world of good. Totally boosted my self confidence. I certainly didn't sleep with him though & nor do I plan to in the near future

It's nice building up our relationship/friendship purely on an emotinal level rather than on the sexual level that alot of blokes my age expect

xxx

Wobbles · Jun 25th, 2008, 22:46 PM

I couldn't have a sexual relationship with someone whist carrying another mans baby - if he likes you he'd wait if he gets narky about it stick him in the bin!

mBLACK · Jun 26th, 2008, 00:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Wobbles

I couldn't have a sexual relationship with someone whist carrying another mans baby - if he likes you he'd wait if he gets narky about it stick him in the bin!

I tried to keep that in my mind, see I did say 'no' alot of times but he kept pressuring me and I gave in thinking it could actually go somewhere! Dickface hasn't bothered to call me since I got a 'boyfriend' (I told him that to see if he would still stick around). Let me tell you I sure learned my lesson!

mBLACK · Jun 26th, 2008, 00:27 AM

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Originally Posted by leedsforever

I peronally couldnt ever have relations whilst pregnant with another guy other than the babies dad.... there is something about it that in my eyes I think is just weirdly wrong!!

before my holiday with my OH (the one in which we conceived) I was using the internet to talk to an old friend and had even kissed him on previous ocasions whilst seeing him up town! It could have got so messy!! I felt that I was missing out on something... my feelings were I knew my OH was the one but it was lacking something!! I must stress this was the first time in nearly 4 years I had EVER kissed another guy!! I even stayed the night at his but I did not actually have sex with him! It was about getting attention of someone else he made me feel wanted!! he was a good friend that I was dangerously getting close to!! It was fun... and new and exciting!!

Anyways my big family holiday in florida made me feel absolutely awful for what I had done.. my OH so didnt deserve it one little bit!! And the time away proved that it was him.... him only I wanted!! I found myself apoligising to him whilst he was sleeping! A week later upon returning from that hol I found out I was pregnant!!! I was VERY happy but still to this day I feel sooooooooooooooo awful for ever doubting our relationship!!! At the beginning of my pregnancy I HATED myself for kissing another guy the same month my baby was conceived!! I still cant believe I let myself kiss another guy!!

I know this isnt what you asked mBlack but I havent been able to tell anyone this and when i first joined BnB I never wanted to start a thread about it as I didnt want to be judged!! i know now that you ladies are not like that at all

Def agree.... without more long winded writing my parents have not been together since my dad left when my sis was 6 months old!!! They still do NOT get along...!! Seriously to the point of when i told my mum I was pregnant.... she first of all said "I cant believe I have to share grandchildren with HIM"!!!

Anyways this hatred between them had such a negative effect on me!! My first relationship as a 13 year old ended in which made me think no relationship ever lasted!! I was treated for depression!!

I think my upbringing with my parents the way they are makes me soooo badly want to be with my babies daddy for as long as I live!! I dont want her going through what I went through

You will never get judged here, as people we all make mistakes it's just our job to learn from them, what else can you do? Don't feel bad because it's in the past, everybody fucks up sometimes, just know that you love him and time will heal.

ryder · Jun 26th, 2008, 00:38 AM

I dont think an unstable parental relationship affects children all that much... My OH had 3 different fathers growing up. His biological dad left when he was young, and his mother married twice after.

My OH is still so loving and respectful. We have a great relationship. I think if anything he learnt from his mothers mistakes in relationships and had some good examples of what he didnt want.

I dont see anything wrong with having sexual relationships with other men while your pregnant... me? personally I couldnt do it. But I wont judge anyone who does.

The thing I would have a problem with is if someone was sleeping with random guys in front of their children.

tinytoes · Jun 26th, 2008, 08:34 AM

personally i wouldnt, but then if you love the guy then why not. I mean - it's not like it was a drug fuelled orgy. (I hope!?!?

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I cant imagine it but thats because I'm so solid with my DB.
As long as you were safe (obviously STDS are dangerous for baby as well as you!) and its not a new guy every day then i say its fine. Dont beat yourself up. Baby wont know...we wont tell him..shhhhh ;-)

meg_lo21 · Jun 26th, 2008, 16:15 PM

Ah, uhmm, well...
I won't lie, and I know this is going to sound terrible. However I don't feel particularly bad about anything I've done. I was with a few ppl in the beginning of my pregnancy... I just really did a 180 when I accepted that I was having this baby.

I have bipolar, and the medication I was on was very bad for baby, so I went off of it pronto. One of the things I have always struggled with related to being bipolar is the hypersexuality... I had a few slipups in the first few months. Protected, yes, and this was in the first like 2 months. Then I got back together with the baby's father, and WE haven't even had proper sex in about 4 months! It just won't FIT!! haha.

I am freaked that after the baby, after I lose the weight, I will feel the same as before... tempted into being overly sexual again. I am going to try to stay of the medication for as long as I can since I plan on breastfeeding...

But I totally understand, mBlack and nobody should judge you at all for what you've done.. especially yourself! You will be a great mom, and you have been treating yourself well so I really don't think you have anything to worry about.

And i am due like 1-2 days before you! hah

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