Ok so i cant judge i was a teenage mum but i sure didn`t try to fall pregnant at all. So somebody want to explain to me whats with the trend of TTC at Such a young age like 14 come on girls is this realistic.
I know i might sound judgemental but i DO NOT agree with TRYING to fall pregnant at such a young age is there a good enough reason for it I DON`T think so.
Sorry for the rant but i just cant understand but i guess everyone is different.
I was 13 and TTC. But the reason was because I was a really messed up kid - doing drugs and drinking, and my BOYFRIEND was my life. The thing is you can't understand unless you're there. It was a stupid decision - I didn't have money, I was failing school, I was on drugs ALL of the time and just I just generally had a fucked up life. Looking back on it I pity myself, and thank God that I hadn't actually conceived a child. I was trying because it was like I would feel needed by another human being to survive - somebody would actually NEED me in their life! I would be the most important thing in my child's life, ME, the most important thing, and MAYBE, just maybe, me and my boyfriend would work money issues out and we would live happily ever after.
It doesn't work like that though.
Sadly, by the time any young teenager TTC realizes that it's far too late. Rather than judging them I try helping young people to understand that YOU aren't the most important thing in your baby's life, your baby is the most important thing in yours. It's hard for young people who are lost, sometimes they just need a little guidance to help them see the way.
P.S.-Don't worry, I straightened my life out and am actually mature enough to care for this child now. My son, though still unborn and an accident, is the best 'accident' that ever happened to me.
Oh yer i totallu understand what you are trying to say. fell pregnant at 16yrs with my first i thought it would be a sinch to my disgrace my first born daughter was born very very sick, i than spent the next 3-4 months sitting in hospital by my daughters side.
So my point is if they want to do it let them go but there is so much of it going on at the moment especially now in australia as women are given a large sum of money for having children PLEASE girls think about what you are doing before its to late.
I don't really understand why either. I'm on 20 and I feel pregnant at 17 with my son. He was a complete accident. Me and my mum discussed what I wanted to do. I have a serious eye condition that will more than likely leave me blind when I'm 30. So that's why I decided to keep him. So I could see him grow up. Shortly after me and my OH decided to try for another to complete our family and so that once again, I see some of the babies lives.
Alot see it as an escape from a bad life. Bad parent's.
I never tried to get pregnant and i talked to my mum, but she said since we'd been together so long it was the right thing. Though i always wanted to be fairly young mum like 21-22. But my child is going to get a lot really, i can send them to private school let them have horses etc. Obviously i have to rely on my mum and OH parents for help while i'm at uni obv but then what are families for, i hope that my children can rely on me. But no i dont think its very right to try to have a baby so young unless you are properly prepared which i dont think anyone is until they have children. I have nooooo idea what this is going to entail after my baby is born but i'm so lucky that i have a good family to support me
I see all those threads in the teen pregnancy section where 16year old girls are ttc,you have to think what's going on in their heads...
I'm 18 and my daughter(still unborn) was an accident,a complete accident.
Franky,I never wanted to have children,I just didn't.But now I'm so happy that I'm going to have this little girl in my life in a few months...Although I'm young,I still can offer a lot to her,I'll have an education and I'm financially pretty stable.
I guess since children were never on my mind,especially when I was 16,I cannot grasp the concept of wanting to have one so young...
They fall in love but I'm sure half of them doesn't have a strong relationship that can survive such responisibility.
i dont get it either. bad eductaion is all I can assume.
it's rediculous...I mean, how can a 14 year old support themselves?? Without social support etc? An accident is an accident but purposely getting pregnant and relying on state support is rediculous and not something to be proud of. In fact it's 100% chavvy and stupid. And is the reason the UK has sooooooooo many social problems....there are too many idiots. (Dont get me wrong, I AM british and love the placeĻ!!)
It's children having children and i hold their own parents responsible.
Gosh I'm ranty today!! You can tell it's the end of the week.
Plus I'm hungry..best eat before I go on any more....
14!!!! MY god at 14 I wasnt even sexually active!!! I was running riot about my school being cheeky to my teachers!!
I think this country makes it too easy for young girls to get into this position.... they know too well they get an easy ride!!!
Few months back I was in boots looking at the baby clothes I heard a young lad say to what I can only assume was his girlfriend!! "shall we have a baby?" "We will get a house and money"!!! I WAS SHOCKED!!! If this is the attitude of youngest then what is too come?!?
My god TCC at 14.... still cant get my head around it!!!!
I don't get it either. I still feel too young at 21 to be having a baby! Theres SO much I remember doing from being like 13 or 14 until now that theres no way I would have been able to do if I had a baby that young, and to be honest, I probably would have ended up resenting it!
However, each to their own.
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