I am forever watching young girls on Maury who once are given a baby to look after for a while, buck up their ideas and realise its best to wait.
I must admit i wanted a baby when i was about 14 but the thing about wanting love is right, i was so hurt by not having a dad around i felt a baby would compensate, now i thank my lucky stars that i threw myself into a career and waited until i was at least a bit older
When I was about 21 I went through a tough period of time and was kind of lonely and started brooding over a baby. The period of time went quick though. LOL I put it down to wanting a person to love me. This is why I can see why teens want to have a baby at a young age...they are truly missing out on love and affection.
I've said this before, but will again. If my daughter came to me while she was in her teens saying that she wanted a baby I would blame myself. Did I not give her love and affection that she required?
its no coincedence that the UK has the highest teenage pregnancy rate, and the easiest way to get a coucil house/benefits is to be pregnant.
my mum ended up homeless 6 months ago, has lived and worked here since she was born, and cant get a council house because she is not a 'priority'.
its a disgrace - we should take the lead of countries like sweden etc - if someone gets pregnant young, they are given to their parents, and they are their responsibility. no benefits, no houses, no free ride. 'trying' to conceive at such a young age and getting a free house and free money is not teaching our youth responsibility - its teaching them that this is an easy way out.
and I agree with the person who said its NOT each to their own - not when everyone else has to pay for it and they get everything handed to them on a plate!
phew - rant! but it's something that I feel strongly about
Im 19 and my fiance is nearly 21 and we're TTC...but we know that thjis is right, and that we can and WILL look after our baby right...
When i was 14, i had a boyfriend but i would never have dreamed of having sex or having a baby...
why do kids this young want to gow up so fast...i mean the ones that are perposuly getting pregnant??
I know teenage mums whos babies were accidents, and they are fantastic mums, but on the flip side, i know some who are completely irresponsible and even put wholes in the condoms or 'forgot their pill' just to get a house or trap their bf cos they are scared of loosing them...
in my personal opinion, the teenage mums who purposely tried to get pregnant are worse mums than the ones whos babies were accidents.
but as others have said, can you ever be financially ready for a baby??
my old media teachers ex wife is a teacher, and she said that they have 12 year olds that are sexually active...it really is frightening...
i agree tryin for a baby at such a young age is stupid etc.
but i don't understand why like leanne said, she would feel responsible for her child gettin pregnant at a young age but did it not occur to everyone that the mother of a child is not the one tellin the child to go an get pregnant?
i am 16 + pregnant, my baby was a mistake yeh but i don't regret keeping him one bit but seein my mum blame herself for me endin up in this situation hurts because she never forced me an adam to act stupid + not be careful enough to not end up with a baby in the end.
if 14 year olds thinkin that them pregnant will get them a council house + benefits, wel then they are stupid an provin there immature because at that age even my age cannot get priority on a council house/flat an have to wait there turn like everyone elsean they will not be the ones gettin the benefits either it will be there parents.
I know Im not in your situation Rachel but young, single parents do get priority, over older generation!!
I cant comment on 14 year olds benefits going to their parents because I didnt know that but Im sure if they were declared homeless they wouldnt be seen on the streets!!
Im 22 and so many girls in my year already have babies, they are single (or so they tell the social), have lavish apartments and have it sooo easy where money is concerned!!! Is a proven fact that whatever age you are and "single" you are better off than a working class couple!! This is what we mean about the government getting it so wrong!! Girls see this and see that having a baby is actually quite appealing!!
However I am not stereotyping that all young mums behave in this way but as mentioned before we have the highest rate of teenage pregnancy and the government wonder why?!?! they should look at their system!!!
but i don't understand why like leanne said, she would feel responsible for her child gettin pregnant at a young age but did it not occur to everyone that the mother of a child is not the one tellin the child to go an get pregnant?
i am 16 + pregnant, my baby was a mistake yeh but i don't regret keeping him one bit but seein my mum blame herself for me endin up in this situation hurts because she never forced me an adam to act stupid + not be careful enough to not end up with a baby in the end.
I think Leanne was reffering to the teens TRYING for a baby..
For teens who fall pregnant when it isnt planned, i dont think she would blame herself?
But the majority of those teens who are TRYING to get pregnant.. they are looking for the love they dont get...
So i can see what Leanne is saying... if i got that right?
Yeh i didn't read it the way she meant it to sound. i only went on personall situations + what i've experienced through the council etc.
i know for a fact its wrong for a 14 year old to be TRYIN for a baby but it's not our life, its theirs + they may live to regret it or they may live to love it what ever way it goes, its their lifes but everyone has their own opinion.
this topic has really hit everyone hard in different ways because of the way they personally see things.
xx
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