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Old May 6th, 2008, 13:25 PM   #11
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Well if youre 99% sure he isn't, then you need to relax Not good for baby.
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Old May 6th, 2008, 14:14 PM   #12
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You really need to see a law professional.

If you were worried about the health of your baby, you'd see a doc right?

Get thee to a lawyers office pronto.

STOP all contact with him. Once you have a lawyer in retainer, forward all contact from him to the lawyer.

You are protecting yourself and your child.
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Old May 6th, 2008, 14:25 PM   #13
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i read that if the child is under 16 that you have to give premission so if you dont he cant
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Old May 6th, 2008, 14:39 PM   #14
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i read that if the child is under 16 that you have to give premission so if you dont he cant
can't without a court order. If a court rules that you have to submit to a dna test, you have to or be in contempt.

Get a lawyer (solicitor).
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Old May 7th, 2008, 11:59 AM   #15
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As Magerle says he needs to take it to court once the baby is born and get a court order to have a dna test done. Alternatively you could do one with your OH now since then atleast you would have control.

Once the baby is born you put on the birth certificate your new partners name then he has all the rights and responsibilties of a father and it is only you who decided who and what goes on the bith certificate unless you are married it is only the mother who has the rights and responsibilities to the baby until you register. The 'father' (or someone who thinks they are) has to take you to court to get registered as the father or to get a dna test done. Go to a solicitor and talk to them and they will reassure you.

(I'm doing family law in Scotland just now so think thats all right ha ha)
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Old May 7th, 2008, 12:34 PM   #16
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If it was me i would relax and tell him he can have one if he wants to pay (call his bluff...he might not know how much they costs!) under the condition taht he leaves you alone until the baby is born as a test cannot take place until the child is born so no point worrying until then. Do your current partner and ex look similar? maybe when the child is born it may have definite features of your current partner and then you know it is his and can let your ex do the test cos you know the result anyway.

If you really dont want to, then say no but then if he really wants to go through with it, is it worth it to let him run you down, hassle you and drag you through courts only for the court to determine that you should test anyway?
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Old May 7th, 2008, 20:29 PM   #17
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Ok, I have had a dna test done on my daughter for the same reasons u did. My ex (a drug dealer, not nice) and my new b/friend a policeman, great ombo hey. There was also a small chance my ex could of been the dad but i agreed to a dna test as in my heart of heart i knew he wouldn't be. Anyhow, you CAN deny a test, only the mother has the right to sign to say you can have her childs dna. ALTHOUGH if he is on the birth certificate (which im guessing isn't or wont be) then he cant.
He will be able to take you to court over it although do u really think he would go to that length? Also he would have to pay, our court approved dna test cost £379.00 plus swab taking process at docs (£40 and afidavit form from solicitors £10.00).
We used a company called dna solutions www.dnasolutions.com ......
I know it may not be nice if that 1% turns out to be 100% his but also your baby needs to know who his daddy is. Also if he is agressive and violent etc...and known by the police then you have a good fight in court for him not to see your baby or only while supervied.
I reccomend just making the police aware of his aggresive behaviour towards you just incase in the future it gets worse, at least they have a record of it then. Also you could get a restraining order against hi quite easily then he wont be able to contact you, thats what i did with my ex....and he left me alone.
Good luck and i hope everything sorts out for u xx
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Old May 8th, 2008, 09:38 AM   #18
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I would deny it and let him waste all the money he wanted on court!
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