Miss~Gaby

ok so here in the UK baby showers aren't really a big deal. I know they are slowly becoming the "done" thing, but well i wont be having one this pregnancy lol

so my question is, would you let your friends/family know you have a baby gift list??
Again, not something a lot of companies here offer either. However we made one up on Mothercare.com as there were a few bits & bobs we would love but are not really part of our budget.

A couple of friends & family have asked us if there is anything we want but its difficult to say "yea, this or that blah blah thing" without being rude or looking greedy. I dont want to just turn around and say a specific thing and for someone to thing we were being rude asking for something maybe too much out a price range that they were looking to gift us kwim???

So anyway, thus far we have made the baby gift list and i am very reluctant to even email people with it because I dont want it to look like we're even asking for things coz really we're not!!! lol Its really aukward all this lol The best I could think of doing was putting a link to the list on my bebo & facebook pages (where most of my friends and family use anyway) and saying "for those that have asked if we have a gift list, here is the link, thanks for the gifts reveived so far, they are much appreciated"

You think that is appropriate??? what would you do/what have you done???

TIA xx

wantababybump

Im not from the UK but I think the link on your facebook is a great idea because you arent saying "This is what we want from you" its more implying "we have a list and if you would LIKE to buy gifts here are the things we need". I had this same problem when I had my wedding shower because my husband and I already lived together and I bought everything the year before we moved in when I lived on my own for college, we didnt need gifts but wanted money instead so we could get the things we felt we did need but didnt want to make it sound greedy. Eventually we figured out the right wording. Good luck!!xo

bexy_22

Sounds like a good idea. I had a baby shower, was fun =] x

Ann-Marie

I was gonna do the same thing, but when I asked my mum what she reckoned, she said it was really cheeky, which is how it felt when I was getting ready to send the email form Olivers Baby Care. So I'm not doing it

Emmea12uk

I am having a baby shower and I just mentioned to my sister who organised it what i needed - like newborn clothes, toys. Dont need 0-3 month clothes etc, need a baby book.

I havent made a list because I dont expect people to buy anything more than a couple of pound.

lady3

I just had my baby shower today (I'm American living in the UK). My mil and sil threw it for me and I just gave them a list of things that I needed. I had my mothercare registry for my American family/friends (but that's what they expect). In the UK I don't know if people are fully ready for a baby registry. I mostly got clothes though anyway, even with the list given to sil/mil. I like the facebook link idea. Wish I had thought of that!

Linzi

I think it's a good idea yeah. It saves you getting duplicates and means you can ask for what you need as opposed to getting 2000 newborn baby outfits that will never be used.

Saying that, we never bothered yet lol It is a good idea though. I always struggle to not sound rude when people ask what we want them to buy us.

xxx

magicvw

I think it's a good idea. Everyone wants to buy something when a LO is born, but it's difficult to know what's really needed or what other people have bought. I didn't do a baby shower for my no1, but I would contemplate doing one for no2 (if he/she appears!) after hearing the endless "I didn't know what to get you stories" after no1. People want to spend a few quid, but they certainly don't want to buy something which isn't going to be used or you already have. Not everyone is comfortable with this tho, especially in the UK, where it's new as you say.

May be you could get your mum to act as a kind of secretary? I think people who want to buy gifts but who don't know what to buy often approach the Nana, to see if she has any ideas. If your mum has a list of stuff, that might work.

Good luck!!!

Becki77

Hey, im not having a baby shower but keep getting asked by my family what i would like them to buy. Ive left them suggest things first so i roughly know the price range they are thinking off then said what we want.
We do have our own list and im ticking things off as we get them, i dont mind people looking at my list ( leaving it on the side when there at your house is a good idea!) but wont be giving people a list of things we want!
So far we have had the pram brought for us and the whole nursery furniture! along with little things, so not doing too bad!
This baby is being spoilt! xx

polo_princess

Im not sure on this one .... id like one but i dont feel that comfortable asking people for things.

So im on the fence lol