Kayles1/8/08

Just spoke to my friend who had a baby 2 weeks ago...doing it on her own like me..

she was really upset on the phone saying she can't cope and she just doesn't know what to do..
I feel really bad for her and its making me terrified to think of what i'm going to be like..

baby is forever crying for no reason and she's blaming herself for it..iv'e told her its not her fault and shes doing a great job..i feel really upset that she's getting upset and blaming herself when she's doing better than her best!!

Pisses me off that her mate she lives with is taking the piss..coming in steaming drunk slamming doors arguing down the phone with people..and says things like..why won't she stop crying and stop being an attention seeker..

annoyed!!!

toriaaaaTRASH

Maybe you could offer to help her out? Every little helps I guess

bexy_22

I agree, maybe you could help her out, then when you have your LO you can help each other out.

Kayles1/8/08

Yeah iv'e offered to go down and sit with her but she sayed her dads coming down about 2.30..and then her mum..so don't think she wants to talk about it infront of them..

her mum keeps saying u can't just cry when things get tough and uses the old.."i had 2 kids"..difference is her husband was there so she doesnt know how hard it is for my mate..
I feel terrible that she's feeling like she is and when she started to cry and blame herself i felt so helpless..
I told her to not be so proud and ask for the help she needs no one will judge or think any less just because she asked for help..

feeling really bad for her x

tinytoes

offer to go round another day. just watching the baby for half an hour while she has a shower might help. She should talk to her doctor. Keep an eye out in case it's post natal depression..

bexy_22

aww sounds like she is having a rough time, especially when you should be really enjoying a new baby. She shouldn't blame herself, it's hard for everyone even more so for those doing it alone. Can she not stay with her parents for a while? The person she lives with is obviously extremely disrespectful and if they were any kind of friend they'd be helping her out. Hope all works out for her in the end

Kayles1/8/08

yeah i went up all weekend last week but i know shes constantly got visitors and don't want her to feel like she has no time for just her and connie!
might just give her a phone back n ask if she wants to come out tommorow i'll go up to hers early and she can go get ready sort herself out while i watch connie...she's only been out 2 times since having her 2 weeks ago because she said its such a massive effort to get out the house..so maybe that would help..x

Emmea12uk

Take her out - go for walks in the park with baby and her. Just being there will be a huge help and comfort to her. The more she is out and about the better she should feel. PLus baby should be occupied by all the sights and sounds.

It isnt easy dealing with a baby that cries all the time and i feel sorry for her. But she must be doing a good job!

Kayles1/8/08

pretty shit though because when people are up for an hour or 2 connie seems perfect baby just sleeping..but they don't realise my mate has her24/7 and sees everything..

gave her a text anyways..fingers crossed shes up for going out x

greenkat

Are there any like 'new baby' groups or 'mother and baby' groups she can join? I know you said she finds it difficult getting out the house but maybe it'd help to meet others that have gone through the same things and can give tips.