Maybe baby is crying because he senses her distress and that is why he/she is good when other people are around??

I agree with what everyone has said. You may also want to try and put it in perspective for her- it's only been two weeks, her hormones are still all kinds of screwy, so she's bound to feel overwhelmed even in the best of circumstances. But things will improve as her body starts to settle down a bit- she will feel better able to cope with all the problems.

maybe she has too many visitors?! Its another option. Is she busy trying to appear as the perfect mum? I know I wont want hundreds of visitors in the first weeks. I'm fully expecting to be an emotional exhausted wreck, without needing to be making teas and offering biscuits and having small talk all the time. With us it'll be best friends and family only. and even family are waiting a few days.

It could be because she's got too many visitors. I know after I had Nathan people came around and I just wanted to be left alone so that when Nathan was sleeping I could get on with doing things I wanted or sleeping and not having to entertain visitors. In the end I had to tell them to go and that I would tell them when it was ok to come around. Maybe if she's feeling up to it then she could take baby to their house instead so they can still see baby but it get's her out of the house and somewere different?

Going out with her for the day will be good for her and baby. Baby might be more settled when out and in the pushchair and it gives your mate time out of the house then

Down my area there isn't really much going on like that to be honest..(mother baby groups)
To be honest i think i told her what she needed to hear today that shes doing a good job and shes a good mum...don't think anyones actually told her that

yeah people are turning up her house every single day unexpectidly! Really do think she needs to get out the house though!

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that'd drive me mad - they should at least call first!!

Tell her to tell them to call next time. Time to get rude with people if needs be.

Has anyone considered post-partum depression? I mean,it could be that she is in a lot of stress,having a baby is very overwhelming and she's alone,people are telling her what to do,she doesn't have much real support,andthe baby feels it so he's crying.
But maybe the problem is a bit deeper...

I have to say you're being a fantastic friend. Even if you can't go to hers, try and phone her once a day. I'm sure she's so glad to hear from you.