nikky0907

Vickielouise,I didn't think it was you,I was just reffering to your post.Your poor friend.

Dreamcatcher,you should read vickielouise's post.

And,court always sides with the mother,unless the mother is crazy,which in this case isn't.If there is evidence that the father is an adict,violent,the court will not terminate his parental rights but they also won't extend his visitation rights...

dreamcatcher

nikky courts these days don't automatically side with the mum they used to but since unmarried couples have equal parental rights now (its the law) all aspects of both parents situation's are taken into account, finally the law has realized that a baby needs a mum and a dad if the dad wants to be there that is and they dont stop dads visiting rights they can put orders on like must be supervised visiting but unlikely to stop dad seeing baby

toriaaaaTRASH

Umm, unmarried couples only have equal rights if she puts him on the birth certificate. If he wants visitation she can get him drugs tested too.

lfc_sarah

Although its a bad situation hun, whatever hes into... i think he deserves to know if hes going to have a child...

Also the child deserves to know who the father is...

Maybe he will change...
If not you have a right to keep the baby away from him!!

nikky0907

Yes,idealy,baby should have a mom and a dad but in a case like this,where the dad is an idiot who can't even take care of himself,the baby is better just with a mom.It's better to have one parent who is responsible than two of which one is an adict and is going to keep on disturbing the other parent.

And if the parents aren't married,the court will provide the father visitation rights,but not in the case of a troubled father.

If he has ever been arrested(which he may have been considering his eratic behaviour) the court will either suspend his visitation rights or give him a court ordered monitor for when he has the baby or it will give the mother the right to monitor visits.
I don't know where you are from but i'm in us and over here much attention is paid to the fact that the parent musn't use any foreign substances.Especially if the parents are not married and the father has no previous connection with the child.

And,he is only the father if she lets him sign the birth certificate,like Toria said.If she doesn't he will have to go to court and i dount that he will go to such extend...

toriaaaaTRASH

I still don't think she should tell him. It's her decision and she clearly doesn't want to.

Sorry to talk about you like you're not here!

lfc_sarah

yeah its her decision..

But whats best for the child...
The child at the least deserves to know who its father is even if he is a waster

toriaaaaTRASH

Well, my dad is a complete waste of space. He knows I exist he just didn't bother with me. That hurts more. I've seen him 4 times. He just bothers when he wants to because he's an alcoholic now. That's not good for a kid.

nikky0907

Yeah,we're having this discussion about your situation like t's ours...

Anyway,I think you already made your decision.
I'm sorry but we are just trying to show you all the pluses and minuses of this...

nikky0907

My parents know that I exist,they are married and everything and they still don't bother with me or my sister.I haven't heard from them in over a month.And I've seen them 3 times since summer...